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nickbaxter · Mar 9, 2010, 06:49 AM

I am male 24 and has not had any sex or relationship yet. My problem is that whenever I see (physically or images on computer or TV) an older man with grey hair on his head I really get attracted to his head especially his grey hair on the front hairline I start visualising that I am having sex with him and/or I wish to look older like him when I get old and how beautiful it feels like to have a sex with a mature man. At times I even masturbate visualising this old man's face.

Are these signs of me being a gay guy although I would like to lead a normal life and has never dreamt of being gay except the oimages of an older man's figure.

Please assist me and also my dad past away whilst I was 8 so has this got anything to do with my upbringing?

Thank you in advance.

Larken85 · Mar 9, 2010, 10:23 AM

Perhaps its past trauma from you dad's death. Perhaps its just the fact that a strong male figure was lacking in your life. You could be gay but that is something only you would be able to tell. We can't tell you. I suggest since you are old enough, you should discover what orientation your sexual desire really is. Try it out if you are comfortable with doing that. If you are not attracted to women you pretty much got your answer I think.

lea_09 · Mar 9, 2010, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by Larken85

I suggest since you are old enough, you should discover what orientation your sexual desire really is.

I think it is OK to experiment. And it is a fantasy, but they are 'gay' fantasies. You never know what you like unless you act on it. One of my guy friends finally came out and said that he was gay after holding it in longer than you. He is 26. He said it was a relief and now he is currently in a relationship and is very happy. In psychology, they did research on what males and females are attracted to by hooking their genitals to a machine. Females get aroused easily by any pornographic images, BUT on the other hand males (straight) only get aroused by women and males (gay) get aroused only by men. So that may be your answer if you do not find women attractive.

Larken85 · Mar 11, 2010, 08:18 PM

Lea... are you saying that this test suggests that women are in theory all attracted to either sex? You said any pornographic picture. You mean that men are the only picky ones lol? Let me know if I read that right. I am interested. :)

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:04 PM

Originally Posted by Larken85

lea... are you saying that this test suggests that women are in theory all attracted to either sex? you said any pornographic picture.

In theory, they get turned on by any gender doing 'sexual acts' not really meaning they are attracted to both genders. Although, it can also be correlated. I mean it would be weird if they got turned on by a pornographic image of a child. That is not the incentive of the study. It just proves that men are different in their sexual orientation. They aren't picky just either gay or straight lol.

Larken85 · Mar 11, 2010, 11:41 PM

Oh lol got it. Huh, well I was hoping for the whole yes women like both speech lol. Could have said hey hunny, want to watch something? Or Hey want to invite your friend over for dinner. Just kidding, I wouldn't share her with anyone but thought it would be funny to say

lea_09 · Mar 12, 2010, 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by Larken85

oh lol got it. huh, well I was hoping for the whole yes women like both speach lol. Could have said hey hunny, wanna watch something? or Hey wanna invite your friend over for dinner. just kidding, I wouldn't share her with anyone but thought it would be funny to say

Lol that would be funny. But you got it good with your girl