[kissmemama123]

Wow I have a sis who really hates me and I hate her but I can't control it

[kissmemama123]

I need people to help me please

[neverme]

What age are you? Is she?

[neverme]

You need to wait more than one minute!! Everyone here is a volunteer, please do not be so rude, it won't get you far on this site.

[hheath541]

What, exactly, do you want help with? Getting over your dislike of her? Figuring why you don't like each other?

[kissmemama123]

what, exactly, do you want help with? getting over your dislike of her? figuring why you don't like each other?

Yeah figuring why we don't each other

[kissmemama123]

What age are you? Is she?

I'm 23 and she is 36 I know she is older than me

[kissmemama123]

You need to wait more than one minute!! Everyone here is a volunteer, please do not be so rude, it won't get you far on this site.

I AM NOT BEING RUDE it's just that we fight a lot like I get in her room (this happened when we where little kids and this still happens) and she screams a me GET OUT OF MY ROOM!!

[justcurious55]

Why would you go in her room? I've never liked having people in my room. My closest friends and my boyfriend can come in. but my boyfriend is really the only one aside from myself who is ever in here for more than a few moments. And that's because he practically lives with me.

What other things do you two fight about?

And why did you post this in the teen section if you're both adults?

[neverme]

I'm just going to leave the issue of insisting on getting an answer instantly.

Justcurious makes some good points, why do you go into her room? Everyone needs their space they can call their own and be alone, if they wish. Moreover, when you are living together there needs to be set rules, rules that should already be established.

Think about it like this... if it was a friend's or roommate's room, would you just waltz in there?

No.

So what gives you the right to do it to your sister??

I'm sure the blame doesn't lie solely with you but you need to do your best to change the aspects of it you are in control of as it is clear that you are finding this difficult.


(By the way, and I don't mean to be rude, but whatever age you are is fine, the advice will be the same. If you really are 23 and your sister 36 you should be able to get over such petty arguments, or is there more behind this? )

Let us know :)

[Justwantfair]

At 23 and 36, are you still both living at home?
How do you have issues with being in her room? What do you need in her room? Why be in there without an invitation?

[hheath541]

Sometimes personalities just don't mesh. If you don't get along, then don't spend more time together than you need to.

My brother hates me. Hates me to the point where he was actively plotting my death while in juvie, which made them keep him longer. We've never been able to get along for more than an hour or two at a time. Now that we're both adults, we just don't see each other. Just because we're siblings, doesn't mean we have to be friends.

[Jake2008]

"kids hating their sister or brother", posted in the children's section.

I do not buy that you are 23 and she is 36. IF that is true, and you are having anger issues that you cannot control as you said, you need therapy to learn how to control yourself.

At your age, anger to that extent is dangerous.

[kissmemama123]

why would you go in her room? i've never liked having people in my room. my closest friends and my boyfriend can come in. but my boyfriend is really the only one aside from myself who is ever in here for more than a few moments. and that's because he practically lives with me.

what other things do you two fight about?

and why did you post this in the teen section if you're both adults?

Look I should not even talk about this so I am not telling you any of those things only one all I do in her room is get something ral quick and that is all OK

[justcurious55]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...es-442956.html

Are you really the fifteen year old? I'm asking this because neither of your posts seem to be going where. We're all here and willing to help you. But for some reason that I can't figure out, you refuse to give us details. We can't help you much if you don't tell us more about what you two fight about. But I can say, I'd be pretty angry too if anyone was going into my room for even a second to get something, unless they were doing so with my specific permission.

[hheath541]

If you really are 23 years old and still invading her privacy, I can understand why she gets upset.

Do you live together? Do you live with your parents? Or are you going over to her house and invading her privacy there?

[kissmemama123]

if you really are 23 years old and still invading her privacy, i can understand why she gets upset.

do you live together? do you live with your parents? or are you going over to her house and invading her privacy there?

I won't saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy it!

[kissmemama123]

I'm not really 23 I'm 7

[hheath541]

i'm not really 23 i'm 7

That's much more believable. It also makes it easier to help you when you tell the truth.

[justcurious55]

You're 7 and your parents allow you to use the computer unsupervised?