[amicon]

You said it all! Say hello to your doggie! :-)

[louiseismyname]

Lol amicon, I will always be a better person than he ever will. He just don't know when to stop lyin and cheating on people. Yes I haven't been a saint in the past as many of us haven't, but I've grown up and learnt to appreciate what I have and that's all behind me years ago and I'm a different person now.

I just can't understand why this woman would take him back after she saw the texts he sent me, how can he lie his way out of that for crying out loud?? The woman must have really low self respect as did I in the past to take him back and then to start insulting me who was only trying to help her

[amicon]

It beggars belief but that's her problem now. He's not in your life anymore.

[louiseismyname]

It beggars belief but thats her problem now. He's not in your life anymore.

That's very true, I just find myself sitting here at times wondering how a person that says they loved me etc can turn on me and be so hurtful whilst at the same time by lying to another woman? He obviously likes the drama in his life for sure. I just can't understand why his ex won't leave me alone, I want nothing to do with either of them ever again but it seems she now has my number and won't leave me alone. Hopefully this will all die down soon and I can enjoy the new yr in peace without my stalkers in tow. If it continues then il definitely get a new mobile as I can't take much more of this verbal abusive by her xxxx she has a foul mouth and must live in the gutter judging by her language :o:o:o

[amicon]

Change your number. And remember Jeremy Kyle!

[louiseismyname]

Change your number. And remember Jeremy Kyle!

Lol, you make me laugh amicon, il remember Jeremy for sure. Im happy to have the drama out of my life, it must be awful to be in a relationship in which there is no trust xxxxx

[louiseismyname]

Hello everyone, hope you are all OK, just a quick message to let you know that I officially detest my ex!! I'm so over him AT LAST and feel sorry for any future woman in his life. To cut a long story short, I had a car accident last Monday when my car slid and spun 180 on black ice, I thought my time was up!! Anyway, somehow my ex found out and never even text me to see if I was OK. Don't get me wrong, I didn't really want him too but it just proved to me how little he cares if I live or died. Im so over him and never want to hear from him again - it is a little late but new start for a new year - thanks all for your help xx I hope I can help others with the advice I've received from you fab guys xx

[amicon]

Stay around and help out-good choice! I hope you weren't hurt in the accident.

( And I'm not going to even going to mention you know who-hi,hi!)

[louiseismyname]

Stay around and help out-good choice! I hope you werent hurt in the accident.

( And I'm not going to even going to mention you know who-hi,hi!)

Thanks amicon, luckily there was no cars behind me or on the other side of the road!! If it had happened 30 seconds later then it would have been a different story, I was on my way home from college. I escaped with whiplash and a sore back, I was lucky but it gave me the wake up call I needed tbh. Don't get me wrong it still hurts when he turns round to my friends and says he don't love me then turns round to me and says he does and that he cares about me and can't help caring??

If he cared about me he would have dropped me a friendly text to ask if I'm OK after the accident :(:( but he didn't and that shows his true colours.

[amicon]

Don't worry about it-enjoy your relationship with your new fella.
I'm glad you weren't hurt too bad but take care of yourself on the roads.

[louiseismyname]

Yeah the roads are very bad at the mo, they are getting better though with the rain here, I'm so nervous driving at the mo. I was scared to get in my car again but I forced myself to drive again otherwise id never get back in the car.

I just hope things pick up soon, its only 12 days into 2010 and already I've got a car repair bill of £500 as my head gasket just blown up xxx

[louiseismyname]

Well things are finally starting to look up at last!!

Ive completed my uni application and that has been given in, I took all your advice and met up with an old school friend that I hadn't seen in 15 years and we went out for lunch and drank a lot of wine lol!! I had such a fab time. I even had the confidence to text my ex and tell him please don't ever contact this number again, fair enough I did get a very nasty text back saying "i know what, why dont you f**k off and stop texting me as my girlfriend is getting pi**ed off with all of this". When I received the text I was mad but I didn't rise to the occasion and just deleted the text and have never contacted him since. I know he only sent me the nasty text as he does not like that I have asked him not to contact me again.

Anyway, hopefully this is going to be the start of a good tme in my life xx

[amicon]

I'm glad you're having a great time!
Just don't bother texting him again-ok? :-)

[sully123]

You did wonderful with completing the application, but blew it when you text him again. What is it going to take? What does that man have to offer you, that you need to contact him?Why do you need to do this? He sends you a text back telling you his girlfriend is annoyed, that would give me the hint. You come so far, and then for some reason like need to text him, I don't quite understand why you can't let go. YOU both have moved on. He has lied to you, and you keep going back. Please Louise, stay strong and stop giving in.

[louiseismyname]

Thanks for your replies, sully don't worry I won't ever text him again. I just had to send that last text so he knew id had enough and wanted to be left alone. Im glad he texted me back with his usual horrid words, as it made me realise that we will never be just friends and that he is truly a nasty person and not worthy of my time or effort.

Like I said I got my uni application in and I've been out with a mate I've not see in 15 yrs, it was so good to go out and forget him. In the past 5 days I have not even been tempted to text him in the slightest, that has never happened with me before so I really do think this time I'm on a road and walking in the right direction. Xx

[louiseismyname]

Just a quick update - it has been 8 days now and I've had complete NC from the jerk and feel better than ever. This is the 1st time that I have not felt the need to text him and ask him why he treated me so badley and lied to me constantly. Il never get the answers I want and I've just accepted that.

I realise that I have and will always have a better life than him and much nicer and honest friends that I can count on. Im just so mad that I got involved with him, but I can't change the past and I suppose it's the past that shapes us into the person we are today.

The closing date for my uni application is tomorrow so hopefully il hear something very soon as to whether I've been accepted or not, fingers crossed I do and then I have my course in Sept to look forward too.

Just wanted to say thanks for everyone's advice and thanks for sticking by me when I broke NC rules in the past, that won't be happening again I can assure you. I never want to go back and feel that pain ever again xxx

[amicon]

That's great news,hun,don't be angry with yourself though-we live and learn from all our experiences.

Fingers crossed for uni.
Take care.xx

[louiseismyname]

That's great news,hun,dont be angry with yourself though-we live and learn from all our experiences.

Fingers crossed for uni.
Take care.xx

Thanks Amicon!! I've never felt this positive, I really don't care if I never see him ever again and that is the truth. I just am happy not to have that drama in my life anymore, wondering who he is with and whether he will text me, and if he does text me will it be nice or the usual nasty stuff.

Im so much better than that and don't deserve to be treated that way. If he ever texts me again il simply ignore his text like the last one he sent me. Im onwards and upwards and this time he isn't going to drag me down to his level xx

[louiseismyname]

Just wanted to give you all a little update (if that's ok), I thought it would help others to see that if I can move on ANYONE can move on. Well I am on day 13 now and not contacted him once, I've had weak moments but I just keep myself occupied and they soon pass. I feel so much better not having to worry whether he will be texting me nasty words or wondering where or in his case WHO he is with!! Its like a breathe of fresh air. I wanted to say again thank you so much for everyone that has helped me through this horrible time. Il never ever go back and put myself through that again for sure. Xxxxx

[amicon]

Its good to hear some happy! Keep up the NC and know that you're on the right path.