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    Jan 13, 2010, 06:53 AM

    Why would she be so back and forth and keep contacting me when I tell her not to? I have told her numerous times not to contact me and she always comes back with a vengeance... I find it hard to believe that it's just for attention, especially since she is dating someone else and can get all the attention she wants...
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    Jan 13, 2010, 06:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by coyne740 View Post
    Why would she be so back and forth and keep contacting me when I tell her not to? I have told her numerous times not to contact me and she always comes back with a vengeance... I find it hard to believe that it's just for attention, especially since she is dating someone else and can get all the attention she wants...
    Because you continue to answer your phone. I can't figure out why you don't realize you are just as much to blame as she is. You are 29 years old and seem like a capable guy. Quit letting this drag out like a soap opera and cut her loose! This is only as complicated as you make it out to be.
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    Jan 13, 2010, 07:25 AM

    Stop answering your phone when she calls, she should get the hint that way
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    Jan 13, 2010, 07:27 AM

    Change your number,if you can't stop yourself from picking up when she calls.
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    Jan 13, 2010, 10:41 AM

    The thing is... I want her back... and she is manipulating me to stay in her life... doing things like opening up and communicating finally (complaints I had in the relationship). She called the other night and talk turned to sex and we had phone sex, (she was very sexually inhibited when I was with her)... I just don't know guys...
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    Jan 13, 2010, 10:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by coyne740 View Post
    The thing is... I want her back... and she is manipulating me to stay in her life... doing things like opening up and communicating finally (complaints I had in the relationship). She called the other night and talk turned to sex and we had phone sex, (she was very sexually inhibited when I was with her)... I just don't know guys...
    She had phone sex with you while she is with another guy... if that doesn't give you a true idea of her character, I don't know what will. If I were you I would manipulate myself into forgetting she existed.
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    Jan 13, 2010, 11:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by coyne740 View Post
    The thing is... I want her back... and she is manipulating me to stay in her life...
    She can't manipulate you if you don't let her. It's all about will power.

    The problem isn't her, it's you who is too emotionally attached to her, which makes you too weak to let her go.

    We can give you objective advice all day, but at the end of the day, it's for you to decide what you want. If you can't get what you want, then you need to accept reality and move forward with your life.
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