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    Nov 27, 2009, 01:46 AM
    How can I judge about my husband about extra marital relation
    I want to know wheather my husband is carrying any relation with other female than me .how an I judge about it
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    Nov 27, 2009, 02:10 AM
    You have provided no information as to why you think he may be cheating on you.

    What has he been doing to make you suspicious.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 03:49 AM

    My sugggestion is before thinking of your husband second relation ship you find out what is the motive for that ? What is not getting from you? Find the problems and find the solutions within your limit. If the problem is not able to sorted out with you then you discuss with your family friends and compromise. Fore every man "wife is life", they will not throw away.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 11:23 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by skumarg0102 View Post
    my sugggestion is before thinking of your husband second relation ship you find out what is the motive for that ? what is not getting from you? find the problems and find the solutions within ur limit. If the problem is not able to sorted out with you then you discuss with ur family friends and compromise. Fore every man "wife is life", they will not throw away.

    If she is correct you are blaming the victim, not the perpetrator. There are men who cheat. There are women who cheat.

    "Not getting" something from a relationship is simply a bad excuse.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 11:26 AM

    I'm getting a tingle.

    My gut is saying that xpress and skumarg0102 are the same person. The writing style is very similar.

    Mods, are my spidey senses right?
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    Nov 27, 2009, 06:56 PM
    They seem to be different. But need more info.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 06:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    They seem to be different. But need more info.
    My tingle was wrong?

    Maybe it was gas. :(
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    Nov 29, 2009, 08:46 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by skumarg0102 View Post
    my sugggestion is before thinking of your husband second relation ship you find out what is the motive for that ? what is not getting from you? find the problems and find the solutions within ur limit. If the problem is not able to sorted out with you then you discuss with ur family friends and compromise. Fore every man "wife is life", they will not throw away.


    Don't listen to that horrrible advice in the quote. The attitude seems to be typical of some men. There isn't anything wrong with you - seems like a cheater always has to blame someone other than himself for his infidelity.

    Give us a few more details. Is he staying out late at night? Indifferent to you? What? :confused:
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    Nov 29, 2009, 08:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by xpress View Post
    i want to know wheather my husband is carrying any relation with other female than me
    Hello x:

    How about asking him?

    excon
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    Jul 10, 2011, 06:41 PM
    Normally a woman has an inborn sense when it comes to her husband and his behavior. You notice small changes in his dressing, shaving more carefully now, combing his hair and showering or wearing perfume/aftershave? Always on his mobile or computer. Talks to you less. Does not look you in the eyes when he is talking to you or has a squint when looking at you at close range scared in case you have noticed the changes... Be paitent. Asking him or fighting with him over this is not going to resolve it. Eventalikng it out might make your relationship worse. First be frendly, dress beautifully, smell nice, smile more and tell him jokes... Make more effort between the sheets... Always remember, your husband comes home to you and you have as much control and monoploy over the relationship between you than anyone else.
    Now for the dirty tricks... Put a little lipstick on his underwear and shirts when you put them away in the drawers. Apply the lipstick where he cannot see it. SHE will see it. Buy a few ugly pieces of cheap sexy underwear and earings and put them under the front passenger seat from time to time, he will throw them away and think its her :D maybe do this about one a week, Thursday nights or Friday nights. One piece at a time.
    Make extra sets of all house keys and car keys. Place a cheap mobile phone with a prepaid sim card on complete silent mode and hide it in the car. You can link your own phone to it by sms (make sure your mobile service provider has this friend finder link). This allows you to track the car and after awhile you will build up a picture of where he is going.
    Get his phone at night when he is asleep and upload some spyware...
    If he is using a post-paid service, log onto the online customer service and gain access to his phone bills, download them and study them. You are looking for call more than 30 minutes long. Remember to delete the sms sent for new password. There are other applications you can use which are free like Google Latitude etc...
    But after all this, keep your marriage good, play smart. He's not doing what he is doing because he is. Not because of you. BUT all men cheat, old husband, new husband, it makes no difference. The best thing is to throw a spanner in his works and smile sweetly while they fight or while she forms the opinion he is a womaniser!

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