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    brandywine123 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 29, 2009, 10:48 AM
    Can I stop lying?
    I have a huge problem. I am a liar. I really want to stop. But it just comes out before I know what's happening. I lied to my mother and told her my brother died. I don't know why I did this but now I have to figure out how to tell her the truth. Its not just my mother I lie to. Its everyone about anything. I really want to stop. Can anyone help me?
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    Oct 29, 2009, 11:06 AM

    Have you considered speaking to a professional? Compulsive lying is not terribly uncommon and most psychologists/psyciatrists are familiar with treating the affliction.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 11:08 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brandywine123 View Post
    I have a huge problem. I am a liar. I really want to stop. But it just comes out before I know whats happening. I lied to my mother and told her my brother died. I dont know why I did this but now I have to figure out how to tell her the truth. Its not just my mother I lie to. Its everyone about anything. I really want to stop. Can anyone help me?
    Why would your mother believe that your brother died? Does she not talk to him?

    That's a pretty rotten lie.

    You need professional help.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 11:27 AM
    My brother is on the other side of the family she has no contact. I know that it is rotten . You don't have to make me feel bad .I am asking for help. Not to be insulted
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    Oct 29, 2009, 11:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by brandywine123 View Post
    My brother is on the other side of the family she has no contact. I know that it is rotten . you dont have to make me feel bad .I am asking for help. Not to be insulted
    I made you feel bad? How do you think your mother feels? You told her that her son is dead and I'm making YOU feel bad?

    We can offer advice but there's nothing we can do to help you. You obviously have a problem and you need professional help.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 12:09 PM

    Look. I know it was messed up. That's why Im seeking help to stop. I don't want to be a liar. I want to stop. I have been to a theripist but they don't help. Im asking on here to find out if there are others like me and what they did to stop this problem. I'm not looking for insults. I feel bad enogh about myself. I don't nead your help with that. If you have advice other then a rude coment, that's great.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 12:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by brandywine123 View Post
    Look. I know it was messed up. Thats why Im seeking help to stop. I dont want to be a liar. I want to stop. I have been to a theripist but they dont help. Im asking on here to find out if their are others like me and what they did to stop this problem. I'm not looking for insults. I feel bad enogh about myself. I dont nead your help with that. If you have advice other then a rude coment, thats great.
    I wasn't rude, I was telling you the facts. It's hard to hear the truth, isn't it?

    I've said it twice, I'll say it again. We can't help you stop, only you can do that.

    If you can't stop on your own then you need help, more help then we can provide.

    Why not talk to your mom, tell her that this has gotten out of hand, see if there are some programs that you can enter.

    As for therapists, don't give up on that, often it takes time to find a therapist that works for you.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 12:21 PM

    Thank you. I grew up in group homes. I have had more theripy then you can emagine. It does not help. I will talk to my mother.
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    Oct 29, 2009, 12:25 PM

    I think the only way you will stop is if you get caught in a major Lie and actually suffer consequences for it. This might be it. Tell your mom the truth and don't be surprised if she stops talking to you for a while.

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