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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:02 PM
    Will I ever have a right to Visitation
    Hi ask me help desk .com,I'm coming for CA! Well I have been trying to get Visitation with my daughter who now is a year and 3 month! We are Do in court in about two weeks and in a week we have to go to mediation.I filed for Visitation and child support because the mother could not keep our baby out of me and her problems.We used to live 5 min from each other and when the baby came she moved 45 min away,our baby and her to live with her mother!So I was going to her house to see our baby girl.So I had to move 3 and a half hour to a house from them . It seemed like when me and her was good with each other I could have our baby with no problems.But when we had a fight then she would put the baby right there in it all the time.So I took her court and now we have come to this point.I'm paying her like the temporary order says.And it says I have some Visitation till court.It does not say how I can see our baby ,but I did not want to see our baby at her house because of the anger they have showed me for going to court.I was trying to see her away from them.So me and the mother had a little fight and I said so rude things to her and she is saying that I'm a danger to her and my baby!I did not say I would kill her or any thing like that in anyway,it was more like I think you are crazy hell to her lol! So now I have to wait to get to court and in a few weeks hoping I can see my baby.But I need to know how will me moving 3 and a half hour from her play out with my daughter? Can I get her for at least a weekend a mouth? I don't want to go to the mother of my baby house because of her family anger with me over taking her to court and the are always trying to show me that the baby will always be happy there then ever with me!And the mother has always had a drug problems when she lived alone and stop when our baby was born and when she moved back home with her mother.Now she is trying to move out on her own and she has a record of drug use,so can I bring this up?? And I now live in a house I have no records at all!
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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:37 PM
    Yes you can bring it up. You can also mention that she has been acting strangely and request that she be drug tested. Have you decided yet what kind of visitation times your going to be asking for ? When your in mediation your focus is solely on the child and not any problems related to her. Those are for the courtroom.
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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:44 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Yes you can bring it up. You can also mention that she has been acting strangely and request that she be drug tested. Have you decided yet what kind of visitation times your going to be asking for ? When your in mediation your focus is solely on the child and not any problems related to her. Those are for the courtroom.
    Yeah well not I live in the same state but I want to have my daughter over for a least one weekend for each month!But she keeps on says will not let me see her when she is not there!
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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:50 PM

    You have to ask for specific days and times for visit. And even if you were a threat you can get supervised visits.

    But the visits should never be at the house of the other parents if possible.
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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Yes you can bring it up. You can also mention that she has been acting strangely and request that she be drug tested. Have you decided yet what kind of visitation times your going to be asking for ? When your in mediation your focus is solely on the child and not any problems related to her. Those are for the courtroom.
    Hey sorry! Yeah well now I live in the same state but I live 3 and a half hours away,I want to have my daughter over for a least one weekend for each month!But she keeps on saying she will not let me see her when she is not there!And if something happens to her she says that she would let her mother get her!
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    Oct 27, 2009, 05:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    you have to ask for specific days and times for visit. And even if you were a threat you can get supervised visits.

    But the visits should never be at the house of the other parents if possible.
    Well I wait to get the baby back at my house!The house is new and clean and I do live with my mother.I want to have the baby over my house for at least one weekend a month!
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    Oct 27, 2009, 06:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    you have to ask for specific days and times for visit. And even if you were a threat you can get supervised visits.

    But the visits should never be at the house of the other parents if possible.
    Ok I get what you are saying I have to ask for specific days and times for visit.But I would like to know have you ever seen a case where the father live far away from the baby?
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    Oct 27, 2009, 06:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by userlife View Post
    Ok I get what you are saying I have to ask for specific days and times for visit.But I would like to know have you ever seen a case where the father live far away from the baby?
    There are lots of cases like yours out there but your going to have to be more specific when you go to court about holidays and vacation time and everything. If its just for 1 weekend a month then you have to say which weekend its going to be. Example.. first weekend in every month. Or more time if you feel right about it. Its up to you. But whatever you do don't make claims you can't back up and don't keep the child longer then your suppose to. If anything be early. It might be OK for lets say Friday at 7pm is pickup and Sunday at 7 pm is drop off. Only you know what works for you. But your going to need to be A lot more specific then I don't know and I guess.
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