Originally Posted by
Blushingbride
I don't know what problems have occured or the punishments you've given but I believe all children are to obey their parents. Take control you tell him what to do and don't let his, "mom I hate you" type attitude get to you. I look at it this way. If he acts like he hates you you're doing something right and one day he's gonna look back and see he was wrong. At the same time let him make his own choices on certain things because the best lessons learned are from experience. Best example I have of this was my older sister when we were teens and she turned out to be a responsible woman and her and mom are close now.
Blushingbride, Do you have children? If so, do they tell you that they hate you? If they don't, then you're doing something wrong in your book? I have two sons, and they tell me that they love me all the time. Why? Because I treat them with respect. And love. They are disciplined, and they follow rules, like children should do. The day they tell me that they hate me, is the day we sit down and talk it out. It will absolutely break my heart, but we'll work through it. THAT is not a healthy environment to bring up kids in. What you are saying makes no sense what-so-ever.
If you can't help it, don't hurt it even more.
Miken545, I know the frustration involved in raising kids. I never thought that I would turn to books for parental advice, but I did, and it has changed our lives, for the good.
There's an author named Dr Kevin Leman, that several books out, but the one I recommend is "Have A New Kid by Friday". You should get it, as it teaches you how to deal with specific problems that may come up, especially with teens.
I wish for you peace and strength.