[Fowler50]

So long story short, I dated a girl in high school, we were in love, then I went to college, and we tried to make it work, but it was not happening... too much insecurity and I was feeling smothered and broke things off...

Years later, she is going to school in the same town as me. We are now back seeing each other, but have no title. I am very comfortable, and things are better now than they ever were. My question to you, my friends, is this:

Is this it? I feel like I could marry this girl, but at the same time, I feel like maybe I am settling back into familiar ground. She hasn't done anything that should make me question what's going on, so maybe I am just crazy. But at times I feel like there's nobody else... and other times I feel like I'm just getting myself in deeper and am going to have to break up again at some point... and I don't know if I could (I am a big sap when it comes to seeing her sad)

The point is, I don't really have a problem, but I am compelled to seek insight any way I can. This girl is beautiful, smart, and makes me happy. But I am only 20. Is the best yet to come, and if it does, will I cast it aside because of my involvement with this current girl.

I just don't know.

[redhed35]

My first thought when reading your post was that you were afraid to commit to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

On reading your post a second time my feeling is you want her,but afraid once your there it won't feel the same, and perhaps someone better will come along.

My advice is this, don't lead her on,be friends and let the current status between you develop.

Its OK to be afraid of getting hurt,but if you don't try how will you ever know if your missing out a great relationship.

I just want to say again,don't lead her on if your not sure of your feelings.

[Fowler50]

my first thought when reading your post was that you were afraid to commit to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

on reading your post a second time my feeling is you want her,but afraid once your there it wont feel the same, and perhaps someone better will come along.

my advice is this, dont lead her on,be friends and let the current status between you develop.

its ok to be afraid of getting hurt,but if you dont try how will you ever know if your missing out a great relationship.

i just want to say again,dont lead her on if your not sure of your feelings.

That is great advice, and I think you've pinpointed it. The thing is, when I am laying in bed with her or out with her, nothing could be better, and I my feelings are sincere. It's just certain random times I get these thoughts that I mentioned in my first post, which makes me question the whole thing.