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    #41

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    That is true, she is the one harvesting and creating the baby.
    You BOTH created it, if there is one. What does "harvesting" mean? Is having a baby like picking tomatoes?
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    #42

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You BOTH created it, if there is one. What does "harvesting" mean? Is having a baby like picking tomatoes?
    Haha, yes I am that "koo-koo."

    I meant that she is the temple that is creating a miracle, Ma'am.

    Bringing another little human being into this world is a beautiful thing, but it is just not the right time.
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    #43

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    neither of us are ready for parent hood. We both have a lot going for our self and having a child...
    I guess you should have thought of that before you took the Penis out of the Pants.

    I can tell you that if she were my daughter, and I do have one her age, I would be prosecuting you. You obviously knew better, otherwise you wouldn't be asking here.
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    #44

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    I guess you should have thought of that before you took the Penis out of the Pants.
    I didn't take my penis out.

    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    I can tell you that if she were my daughter, and I do have one her age, I would be prosecuting you. You obviously knew better, otherwise you wouldn't be asking here.
    I don't think you would, I have a pretty good head on my shoulders. It was a spontaneous moment thing. We were waiting for the right time and unfortunately..
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    #45

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    I didn't take my penis out.



    I don't think you would, I have a pretty good head on my shoulders. It was a spontaneous moment thing. We were waiting for the right time and unfortunately..
    You did take your penis out, and you inserted it into an underage girl.

    I don't think you're really getting how much trouble this could cause. A sexual predator, for life. It means being on a sexual offender list, forever. You will be, already are, considered a rapist.

    Having said that, let's not put the buggy in front of the horse. Find out if she's pregnant first, then panic. Right now you're making plans for something that's not even a sure thing.
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    Oct 16, 2009, 06:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    I don't think you would, I have a pretty good head on my shoulders. It was a spontaneous moment thing. We were waiting for the right time and unfortunately..
    But you are the adult who pushes emotion aside and says "no." Sexual spontaneity is not part of the relationship when she is only 15.
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    Oct 16, 2009, 06:40 PM

    You have such a good head on your shoulders that even though she may be pregnant with your baby you're still trying to say that you didn't take your penis out? What happened then? Did the stork visit her womb?
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    #48

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    I don't think you would,
    Apparently you don't know me. Yes, I would prosecute a boy who takes advantage of my 15 year old.
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    #49

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    You did take your penis out, and you inserted it into an underage girl.

    I don't think you're really getting how much trouble this could cause. A sexual predator, for life. It means being on a sexual offender list, forever. You will be, already are, considered a rapist.

    Having said that, let's not put the buggy in front of the horse. Find out if she's pregnant first, then panic. Right now you're making plans for something that's not even a sure thing.
    If I am coming off as a smart @SS or not caring, let me know please. Because that is definitely not the case.
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    Oct 16, 2009, 06:47 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by justcurious55 View Post
    you have such a good head on your shoulders that even though she may be pregnant with your baby you're still trying to say that you didn't take your penis out? what happened then? did the stork visit her womb?
    No, she took my penis out.
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    #51

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:48 PM

    And what? You were tied up and couldn't say no?
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    Oct 16, 2009, 06:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    If I am coming off as a smart @SS or not caring, let me know please.
    Add avoidant personality too.
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    #53

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    No, she took my penis out.
    And you didn't have the "head on your shoulders" to say no!! You are the more mature person here. Well, at least you are supposed to be.
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    #54

    Oct 16, 2009, 06:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by CGM91 View Post
    No, she took my penis out.
    You do realize that you still inserted it where it shouldn't have been, right?

    Or are you trying to say that she raped you?
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    #55

    Oct 16, 2009, 07:02 PM

    Well this thread has now gotten to the point where it is just flaming.

    Thank you for the information, I expected a more mature audience especially on a website where many needy people who are desperate for answers come for guidance.

    For those of you who care and are interested let me know and I will keep you informed. The rest, I appreciate your opinions and posts but I do not need the childish reply's and comments.
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    #56

    Oct 16, 2009, 07:05 PM

    What were you expecting? You had sex with a little girl and she may be pregnant now. But you're trying to say that since she took it out of your pants, it's not your fault? An even though you don't even know for sure if she is pregnant, and if she is you don't even know if she wants an abortion, you're already planning her abortion. If you don't want the sarcastic comments back, don't do stupid things like try to blame this all on her.
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    #57

    Oct 16, 2009, 07:08 PM
    Most of us are parents... many of us have young girls, so this hits close to the heart. I'm not apologizing for our remarks, but rather justifying them.

    When you had intercourse with this girl, you KNEW that it was wrong, yet you claim to have a good head on your shoulders.

    Yes, if she is pregnant, you face criminal charges. Her parents do not necessarily have to report it. Here in the states, when I have a minor that comes in pregnant from someone significantly older than her (above the legal age of consent), it is my duty to report that person. If I don't, I could face criminal charges.

    I don't think you comprehend the severity of the situation you might be in.

    Unfortunately you think our responses are childish, but that's because you don't want to hear the truth.

    The truth of the matter is that you were wrong, you broke the law, and you very well could be charged with child molestation and/or statutory rape.

    Next time THINK before you have sex. It can and will ruin the lives of many people at such young ages.
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    #58

    Oct 16, 2009, 07:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by justcurious55 View Post
    what were you expecting? you had sex with a little girl and she may be pregnant now. but you're trying to say that since she took it out of your pants, it's not your fault? an even though you don't even know for sure if she is pregnant, and if she is you don't even know if she wants an abortion, you're already planning her abortion. if you don't want the sarcastic comments back, don't do stupid things like try to blame this all on her.
    I am not blaming anything on anyone, please..

    She is not a little girl, maybe she's hasn't been on this planet long enough for her to be classified as a "big girl" but she is quite mature. She works 2 jobs, finishing high school and trying to get a scholarship.

    I am planning in the future, what is the problem with doing that? Would you not do the same? Would you not want to create a plan or gain more information on decision you might need to make? If you answered no I question your reasoning and mentality.

    I am not going to be responding to any comments that are intended as hostile, if you ask a question I will answer, if you have information that would be deemed helpful or useful.. please don't be shy.

    Thanks.
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    #59

    Oct 16, 2009, 07:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Most of us are parents...many of us have young girls, so this hits close to the heart. I'm not apologizing for our remarks, but rather justifying them.

    When you had intercourse with this girl, you KNEW that it was wrong, yet you claim to have a good head on your shoulders.

    Yes, if she is pregnant, you face criminal charges. Her parents do not necessarily have to report it. Here in the states, when I have a minor that comes in pregnant from someone significantly older than her (above the legal age of consent), it is my duty to report that person. If I don't, I could face criminal charges.

    I don't think you comprehend the severity of the situation you might be in.

    Unfortunately you think our responses are childish, but that's because you don't want to hear the truth.

    The truth of the matter is that you were wrong, you broke the law, and you very well could be charged with child molestation and/or statutory rape.

    Next time THINK before you have sex. It can and will ruin the lives of many people at such young ages.
    In Canada the age of consent was only changed from 14 to 16 last year. I was un-aware of this, I only found out that it was changed after I did my homework.

    And yes I understand most of you can put yourself in this position, and I appreciate your comments more so then anyone Else's as your signature states that you are a registered nurse.

    I made a mistake, it will not happen again.
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    Oct 16, 2009, 07:16 PM

    Guess, what, 15 is still a child. She is not, and will not be for some time, a legal adult. That makes her a child.

    There's a difference between planning for the future and freaking out for no good reason.

    Let's really talk about reasoning.

    Reasons not to plan an abortion yet:
    1) she still doesn't know if she's actually pregnant.
    2) you don't know if she actually wants an abortion, if she does in fact turn out to be pregnant.

    And when you say things like she's the one harvesting and creating the baby... I didn't take my penis out, she did... yeah, it sounds like you are blaming her.

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