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zippit · Jul 14, 2009, 03:09 PM

Am I on some sort of blocked my greenies don't show up?
And I'm open to any and all suggestions as to how my memership here is going.
Comments liked or disliked its seems I have a couple senior members out to get me and I'm not sure why

Gemini54 · Jul 14, 2009, 04:58 PM

Why do you think people are out to get you?

ballengerb1 · Jul 14, 2009, 05:10 PM

Have you altered your personal profile? Thenumber of posts you made is also missing. Try resetting your profile.

Alty · Jul 17, 2009, 08:26 PM

Considering that the majority of your posts are deleted because of content, I'd say you're not doing so great.

I don't think anyone is out to get you, they just don't like having to babysit you.

This site relies on the members to give good accurate advice. There are times when your advice is dead on, well thought out and well writtten, sadly that doesn't seem to be the norm.

The majority of the time you just post to start a fight, or to make a snide or rude comment or just antagonize the OP.

If every second post you write is deleted, you have to wonder why.

zippit · Jul 17, 2009, 08:28 PM

I don't think that's fair
Point taken regardless

The reason for the op was my own
Bad all I had to do was arrow down and my reps would show up
That's the reason for the post but now I'm being babysitted?
Everyother is a rude comment?
You need to prove that in order for it to have any teeth

Alty · Jul 17, 2009, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by zippit

i dont think thats fair
point taken regardless

What's not fair?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 17, 2009, 08:30 PM

I deleted pages of posts tonight,
Chat speak, arguments, attacking or being rude to other members

You are just lucky I was in a good mood tonight or it would have been a one week ban for the type of posts I deleted

nikosmom · Jul 17, 2009, 08:37 PM

Originally Posted by Gemini54

Why do you think people are out to get you?

I second this question. That's a bold accusation.

How are people responding to your posts? I've noticed many of your posts are argumentative. On certain forums, opinions are welcome but you have to respect that they are just that: opinions. There's a way to respectfully disagree with others.

I've also seen you post just to be insulting and that's not being helpful which is that basis of this site. After all, it's the Ask Me Help Desk. I would suggest trying to be a little more tactful with your responses.

zippit · Jul 17, 2009, 08:40 PM

Well I wrote you this
I will move to rectifie the situation,seriously
I'm not here to be a jerk
I have gained so much from this site reading and writing inlight of this I can see I must do way more reading and less writing
Thank you

See you in a week or so

artlady · Jul 17, 2009, 08:47 PM

What I see is that you can be very sarcastic and you told and abused woman that she was a bad girl.I rarely give reddies but I gave you one for that.
You have a responsibility to help people and not make them feel worse.
How do you deal with a suicide ,say go for it? Sarcasm is not effective online.
Now I see that your responses seem to be a little less harsh.
You want people to listen to you so you can help them,if you are mean to them ,they get turned off.
Anyone who is mean makes us all look bad and sometimes that could be a kid thinking of suicide. You have to be more sensitive.
Its real people.
I do see a change.What is your motivation for being here?
I hope it is to help,that's all. Peace :)

Alty · Jul 17, 2009, 08:55 PM

I agree Artsy.

I too have gotten mad at people, heck, I'm human, we all are. It's not hard to get upset about something, feel strongly about something and lash out.

The thing is, we all have to remember that we're dealing with real people, some of them really have no where else to turn but to us. What we say can and does have a real impact on them, so we have to be careful.

Zippit, it's important to learn the way this site works, how the long time members do things, how this place flows. It's not easy to just jump in and start answering questions.

Read some posts, sit back and watch a bit, and when you do respond, respond the way you would want to be talked to. Always remember that there's a person sitting at their desk, possibly in tears, waiting for a response, someone kind to talk to.

I'm not saying you can't disagree with people, heck, I can't say that, I do it all the time, but try to disagree respectfully.

artlady · Jul 17, 2009, 08:59 PM

You the lady Alty! Telling it beautifully! Rock on :)

Gemini54 · Jul 17, 2009, 09:08 PM

I concur with the aforementioned 'wise crones' of this site - I know that I can sometimes be tough, and I have over time tempered the tone of my responses.

It's live and learn for us all really - we learn from the other people that post as well as the people that post the questions. It's life.

I should add, and I'm honestly not trying to be rude, that responses are much easier to read when posters use punctuation and reasonable English. You can then focus on the meaning of the response and what it says, rather than trying to decipher how it's written.

Just a suggestion. :)

JudyKayTee · Jul 18, 2009, 06:20 AM

You have been consistently rude and insulting, flippant and disresepctful, given "reddies" and "greenies" that don't even make sense, given answers that don't come close to what is being asked, consistently used text speak and generally been disruptive.

I wouldn't even want to guess how many of your posts have been pulled.

When asked to straighten out you became abusive.

That's why.

I have to wonder why you're posting on AMHD in the first place. Certainly there must be other boards which will put up with this behavior, where you might even be welcome.

zippit · Sep 23, 2009, 03:27 PM

Well once again we have a op that sends a post and never answers back having said that I just want to say WHEN we have a post where they answer back my success rate is high I connect,one reasons is that I try to only give advise where I personally have experienced some sort of event that the op has..

So do you want to run me off?

Alty · Sep 23, 2009, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by zippit

well once again we have a op that sends a post and never answers back having said that I just want to say WHEN we have a post where they answer back my success rate is high I connect,one reasons is that I try to only give advise where I personally have experienced some sort of event that the op has..

so do you want to run me off?

Why not post this on your other thread?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...hd-375636.html

Then we can discuss it without hijacking this thread.

zippit · Sep 23, 2009, 03:45 PM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Why not post this on your other thread?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...hd-375636.html

Then we can discuss it without hijacking this thread.

That would be nice but that post was ignored?

Alty · Sep 23, 2009, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by zippit

that would be nice but that post was ignored?

What?

How was it ignored? I was waiting for you to post your concern on that thread, then I would have responded, as I'm sure others would have.

Now you're getting me to hijack this thread. :(

Alty · Sep 23, 2009, 04:06 PM

Thanks Scott, I'm assuming you're the one that moved this. :)

Zippit, what do you hope to gain?

Are you looking for recognition for the advice you give? Do you need to have constant ego stroking in order to behave on this site?

so do you want to run me off?

If you give valuable advice, follow the rules and play well with others then no, you will not be "run off" the site. The problem is that you're inconsistent. One minute you give valuable advice, the next minute you're pouting because you feel that no one is listening to you.

ScottGem · Sep 23, 2009, 04:09 PM

I told you I was not going to allow the other thread to be hijacked. Yet you ignored that. I decided to move those posts here instead of simply removing them.

3 months ago you promised to adjust. Yet here we are with the same old, same old. I'm not going to waste my time trying to see how well your advice has been received. But I don't recall seeing many resonse from you that were anything special.

But your response shows that you are looking for some sort of acceptance, some dort of recognition, pat on the back, etc.

This site exists to help people, not boost our personal egos. If that's why you are here, you will never gain acceptance.