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    #61

    Aug 30, 2009, 02:43 PM

    Don't think about getting a girlfriend, think about meeting up new people. If you show you are not desperate you'll attract tons of girls. You need to become the alpha male.
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    Aug 30, 2009, 06:16 PM

    Todd, work on having fun and being in control of yourself without a girl. Girls want guys who are confident and fun to be with. I think you are so focused on what hasn't happened that it actually drives it further away. Most of my relationships have come from meeting someone unexpectedly when I had no plans on entering a relationship. In other words, I wasn't trying that hard. When you try hard it all blows up in your face. When your cool, calm, and comfortable with yourself it can almost be like magic how easy it is.
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    Sep 2, 2009, 12:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by chuff View Post
    Todd, work on having fun and being in control of yourself without a girl. Girls want guys who are confident and fun to be with. I think you are so focused on what hasn't happened that it actually drives it further away.
    But like one thing is that I don't think I have great confidence in my self(I have like low confidence) I don't know why I have low confidence but I dooo
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    Sep 3, 2009, 06:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by toddman View Post
    but like one thing is that i dont think i have great confidence in my self(i have like low confidence) i dont know why i have low confidence but i dooo
    But that can be change. Low confidence is not a life sentence. There are a ton of books on the subject and I personally have used advice from Tony Robbins for motivation and confidence for years. The irony is you are actually closer to having great confidence by admitting you have low confidence. Some people don't ever admit that to themselves, you have so you have identified a potential problem you have that comes from with in. All your confidence issues are behaviors that you have learned, usually unconsciously over the years. Like anything else, they can be unlearned and changed to behaviors that suit you better. Sometimes you can change a behavior by just identifying it and saying to yourself, "this behavior does not work for me, I need to change that for better results in the future." Sometimes, it takes a little more work. But just because you are one way now, does not mean you stuck there. In fact you have some momentum now, you are at least asking, the majority of people would never even ask, they would just let it go and suffer. You know there is more out there and more you are capable of, and you are exploring your options to search for answers.
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    #65

    Sep 22, 2009, 03:12 PM

    If she's got someone else stay out
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    #66

    Sep 22, 2009, 05:09 PM
    Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

    Just go about your business and avoid contact with her. The more you talk to her, the more you will get confused about your emotions. Make new friends. Meet new people.

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