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red bucket · Aug 2, 2009, 04:13 AM

I cheated on my girlfriend on 14 months for some stupid girl that had me wrapped around her little finger... what happened was we were at a party my girl was not there and we played this game and I had to kiss this girl (only a peck, still a kiss though)then after she started sending me texts saying how hot I was a and I was dumb enough to to text back, I felt so because it was a week before my girls birthday so I wrote a poem got her flowers and planned to make her birthday unforgettable then tell her after, problem was she found the texts and it all came out, we were still friends and I came to her party and it was really good I organized a juke box and I made sure she had lots of fun even made myself look like a head by dancing with her in front of everyone,, now I love my girl and she has only just taken me back but still is a feeling unsure if she made the right choice,, how can I make it up to her and let her know it will never happen again and that I regret everything?

sully123 · Aug 2, 2009, 04:35 AM

She is basically always going to have that in the back of her head. She isn't sure she can trust you anymore. Your going to have to work real hard at this one. Hopefully, she will forgive you and you can go from there. Hope you learned your lesson.

jmjoseph · Aug 2, 2009, 04:40 AM

Originally Posted by red bucket

i cheated on my girlfriend on 14 months for some stupid girl that had me wrrapped around her little finger... what happend was we wer at a party my girl was not there and we played this game and i had to kiss this girl (only a peck,, still a kiss though)then after she started sending me texts saying how hot i was a and i was dumb enough to to text back,, i felt so cos it was a week beofore my girls birthday so i wrote a poem got her flowers and planned to make her birthday unforgettable then tell her after,, problem was she found the txts and it all came out,, we were still friends and i came to her party and it was really good i organised a juke box and i made sure she had lots of fun even made myself look like a head by dancing with her in front of everyone,,,, now i love my girl and she has only just taken me back but still is a feeling u nsure if she made the right choice,,, how can i make it up to her and let her know it will never happen again and that i regret everything?

Did you have sex with the other girl? Tell us the whole story. What did the texts say?

crazy-mambo · Aug 2, 2009, 04:54 AM

Originally Posted by sully123

She is basically always going to have that in the back of her head. She isn't sure she can trust you anymore. Your going to have to work real hard at this one. Hopefully, she will forgive you and you can go from there. Hope you learned your lesson.

I agree
She is not going to be able to forget about it easily... I've been cheated on in the same sort of situation and I was paranoid about him cheating again, I kept thinking about breaking up with him (even after we got back together) because I hated worrying so much about every little text he got and every girl he talked to, it so was frustrating... you just have to remember how she feels, and if she's acting weird or distant just deal and be there for her

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 2, 2009, 04:57 AM

JMJOSEPH

Read what the op wrote! He did not have sex, he had one kiss or peck wit this young girl and a couple of texts back and forth!

red bucket · Aug 2, 2009, 05:02 AM

Edited for spelling and grammar

No, I didn't have sex with her, it was just a stupid peck on her lips, and cheek, but I regret it more then a anything. I don't want to lose my girl, and I hope she can forget about it, and realize how much I love her

jmjoseph · Aug 2, 2009, 05:06 AM

Originally Posted by red bucket

no i didi no have sex with her it was just a stupid peck on her lips and cheek but i regret it more then a nything i dont want to lose my girl and i ope she can forget about it and realise how much i love her

What did the texts say? Were they explicit? Nasty?

red bucket · Aug 2, 2009, 05:08 AM

Yeah they were.. they were 'those' type of messages

red bucket · Aug 2, 2009, 05:18 AM

I'm 18 so the sexual realm is OK, if I didn't want those type of things 'warranted' I would not be asking stranger people private things over the internet... thanks jmjoseph

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 2, 2009, 05:19 AM

Weather he was just flirting or naughty, he needs to do some work to repair his relationship with this girl. He must rebuild the trust he lost with her. Are you done with this other girl?. How do es your girlfriend know for sure as you said this other girl has you rapped around your finger. You must ask yourself what allowed this to happen in the first place?

These are all questions that need to be asked within yourself!

red bucket · Aug 2, 2009, 05:22 AM

Well it was my girl who said I wrapped around her finger and yea she was right... ofcourse i1m done with this girl I have no idea why I even cheated she is no where near as beauiful funny and sexy as my girl..

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 2, 2009, 05:25 AM

Originally Posted by red bucket

well it was my girl who said i wrapped around her finger and yea she was right...ofcourse i1m done with this girl i have no idea why i even cheated she is no where near as beauiful funny and sexy as my girl..

Let your girlfriend know what you just said. Repeat those exact words to her and you will be on your way to repair your relationship! I won't lie... it will take allot of work. She may forgive you but she will never forget!

jmjoseph · Aug 2, 2009, 05:28 AM

Originally Posted by red bucket

i'm 18 so the sexual realm is ok,, if i didint want those type of things 'warranted' i would not be asking stranger people private things over the internet... thanks jmjoseph

Thanks, Red, just wanting to get to the bottom of this. So you didn't REALLY cheat, but you were bad. The kiss sounds like part of the "game", so she could probably get past THAT. You're going to have to do some MAJOR making up for the naughty texts though. Take her somewhere nice, and try to explain that you were stupid to be tempted. If she is your true love, make her feel like it. Tell her all the things in your heart. It's going to take time, but if you're lucky, she will get past it. Good luck to you, buddy.

Romefalls19 · Aug 2, 2009, 06:23 AM

Trust is very hard to rebuild, but she's letting you have that chance. I like to think of it as parole, you are on a short leash and one mess up and your back in the hole. Just stay straight and things will work out

jmjoseph · Aug 2, 2009, 11:58 AM

Cheating boyfriend. What to do?

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Me and my boyfriend, ryan, have been going out for a year and a couple of months... about a month ago I found a text in his phone from this girl called 'sexy alicia' saying "my lunch is at 1:30, is that ok with you?" (I looked through his phone cause he kept hiding it thinking it was a big joke)... I asked him about it and he said that nothing was going to happen with that girl and he didn't like her... so a week before my birthday I was looking through his phone again (same reason) and I found a text TO the 'sexy alicia' girl saying "i want to *uck you till you scream" blah blah you get the idea.. I confronted him about this (with some yelling and screaming) and he said that he had kissed her on the lips during a game of spin the bottle at a party that I didn't go to, he also said that she started texting him so he just texted back and didn't mean any of it and that he was going to tell me but after my birthday cause he didn't want to wreck it... so.. we had a big fight and are now back together but I constantly want to go through his phone and I'm worried that he's going to do it again and do more than just a kiss... so am I being paranoid? What would you do?

This is from crazymambo, what's going on?

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talaniman · Aug 2, 2009, 02:03 PM

Be glad she has given you a second chance, and make sure your more honest, and trustworthy next time, because as you see from her posts, she should have dumped you, according to everyone else.

Lesson learned?? Crazymambo is the girlfriend you're referring to isn't she??

jmjoseph · Aug 2, 2009, 02:18 PM

This is a unique situation. Red bucket is using AMHD as a counselor. He just joined today, having 5 posts, all of them here. Crazy mambo has been a member since Dec 2006. He KNOWS she comes here for advice, KNOWS that THIS issue would make her come here for answers. He is trying to apologize here , hoping WE will help HIM out. I don't know how I feel about being used like this. I'll be back.