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    stiffilus Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 11, 2009, 04:45 PM
    First time sex at 29 years of age
    My finance has never had sex before, she is 29. We plan to get married next year. She recently went to her doctor for some regular "womens" tests, and experienced pain when the doctor inserted the plastic equipment into her vagina. She is concerned that on the wedding night she won't be able to make love because of this pain. Should she be concerned, or is it just natural because she has never had sex before?
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    Jul 11, 2009, 04:47 PM

    She can gradually manually stretch her vagina and can get instructions from her doctor.
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    Jul 11, 2009, 04:48 PM

    The speculum is painful to some women. She will have some discomfort, but you should use lubricant and make sure she is relaxed and sexually stimulated.
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    Jul 11, 2009, 05:04 PM
    Manually stretch? I think she would be too embarrassed to ask her doctor for instructions. But thanks anyway.
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    Jul 11, 2009, 05:06 PM
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    Manually stretch? I think she would be too embarrassed to ask her doctor for instructions. But thanks anyway.
    It doesn't take a lot of smarts to figure it out. There are undoubtedly instructions on websites.
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    Jul 11, 2009, 05:09 PM
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    It doesn't take a lot of smarts to figure it out. There are undoubtedly instructions on websites.
    Ok... no problem. I just can't see my finance stretching herself, she is a very conservative Catholic girl... but like I said, Thanks
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    Jul 11, 2009, 05:12 PM
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    Ok... no problem. I just can't see my finance stretching herself, she is a very conservative Catholic girl... but like I said, Thanks
    I was a very conservative Lutheran girl... she should choose a suitable method from the many on Internet or you use lots of KY-Jelly when the time comes and be very patient.
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    Jul 11, 2009, 05:55 PM
    I'm sure it's natural to an extent because she's never had sex before. And I imagine that the plastic equipment doctors use when performing gynecological tests is going to be more painful than a human penis for any woman, virgin or not.
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