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pelika182 · Jul 14, 2007, 12:54 AM

My boyfriend and I have only been together for 5 months, but we have been friends for years. Back when we were just friends he was engaged to another woman. They broke off their engagement at the beginning of this year and shortly after that we got together. After only being together for 1 month, his ex calls to let him know that she was pregnant with what could be his child. She is unsure of who the father is because she slept with 3 other men, all around the same time she was with my boyfriend last.
I love my boyfriend more then anything and we have had talks about getting married. If in fact this child is his and we decide to get married, I will have to deal with his ex for the rest of my life. And if in fact this child is his, I know I will love it as if it were my own but I know that from time to time it will upset me knowing that the baby is not mine. I don't know if I am ready for all the stress and emotions that will come with being in a relationship with my boyfriend.
I don't know what to do. Do I stay with my boyfriend and try to work through this, are do I end it all now?:confused:
Please shed some light on the situation and give me y'alls advice. I would greatly appreciate it.

aiysie · Jul 14, 2007, 01:04 AM

Hey,
Well that's really a difficult situation and I think that only you can really decide what's right for you but I think that it really depends on how much you love him and think about the situation as.. this will be the rest of your life! I think that its not his fault because he didn't know so you can't take it out on him by leaving but I maybe would wait on marriage and see first how it is dealing with "the baby mama" and how life is with a new child in the two of your lives and if this is really what you want for your life. Just see how things are with the new baby before making any decisions, that's what I would do. Anyway I hope that helped!

UnwantedHero · Jul 14, 2007, 03:51 AM

Ok like you said she slept with 3 other men,which means that there's a good chance that is isn't your bfs,so many your worrying for no reason.Did your boyfriend use a condom when he was with her if he did then that increases the chance of it NOT being his,ask him.Mite save you some worry.

s_cianci · Jul 14, 2007, 04:37 AM

If you really care for him, then I don't see where this child should make any real difference. Keep in mind one thing ; the child may be his responsibility, but the ex isn't. You and he both need to come to that realization. After all, all other things being equal, if his ex hadn't gotten pregnant, the relationship that had existed between then would still be there. Your real issue is not with the child itself, but rather the act that creates it. If the child does turn out to be his and she's emotionally unable to let him go, that rests on her, not you or him. As long as he can realize that as well, you shouldn't have any problems.

pelika182 · Jul 14, 2007, 09:59 AM

Thanks y'all for the responses. To answer Unwantedhero's question, no he wasn't wearing a condom... and she didn't tell him that she had ran out of birth control pills. But he did pull out.

kikieboe · Jul 6, 2009, 04:56 AM

I am in a similar situation at the moment and wondered how you are coping at the moment!

bambi84 · Jan 13, 2010, 11:12 AM

What happened, how are you getting along now?? I'm in this same situ now... I'm so confused...

I wish · Jan 13, 2010, 11:37 AM

Originally Posted by kikieboe

I am in a similar situation at the moment and wondered how you are coping at the moment!

Originally Posted by bambi84

What happened, how are you getting along now???? I'm in this same situ now...I'm so confused...

This is an old thread and the OP hasn't come back in 2 1/2 years.

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