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    Guitar_dan Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 12, 2009, 04:25 AM
    Need her back
    Hi, I have with this girl for 7 months and it was a really good relationship, OK we had our ups and down but it was amazing, but nearly 2 months ago, she broke up with me, some people say I'm pathetic for still lingering over her but I can't move on, she started telling lies and rumours about me in school but I still want her back. All I can think about is getting her back. She has cheated on me twice and get angry really easily, she can sometimes be spiteful and aggressive, but recently its all gotten too much, I want her back but the way she is treating me makes me feel like she hates me and wants nothing to do with me again, I just want her back but I don't think she wants me back.

    I just don't know what to do for the best, please, if anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate it

    Dan
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    Jun 12, 2009, 05:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Guitar_dan View Post
    She has cheated on me twice and get angry really easily, she can sometimes be spiteful and aggressive, but recently its all gotten too much
    How can you still possibly want her back after this? She cheated, so the trust is gone. He attitude towards you should tell you something about her feelings for you. It's time to stop holding on to something that isn't going to work out.

    Have some more self-esteem in yourself. Move on with your life...
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    Jun 12, 2009, 05:46 AM

    Do you still see her? Talk to her? I know you said she started rumors about you in school. Avoid her at all costs.

    It doesn't sound to me like you really want her back. If you did you would have listed all the great things about her, not the fact that she's cheated on you, and has other issues. She's no good for you. You can do better than that.
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    Jun 12, 2009, 06:02 AM

    The issue here Dan is that you think you deserve such a girl... a liar, a cheat, a coward and someone who likes to make herself feel good at the expense of others. I assume you are in high school. Her actions will come back to bite her in the a$$ eventually, as she will find out how much differently the world works in college.

    Carry yourself as a man whom deserves better. Let the drama and other BS that revolves around her roll off your shoulders and don't give her the time of day.
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    Jun 12, 2009, 06:03 AM

    Guitar_dan,
    What you had a toxic relationship, and it did not & will not make you happy at all. As you wrote, she is only draining your energy, she does not love you or care about you. She left you for the god's sake. Why do you want the girl?? Are you brain damaged?
    Move on with a nice girl who is honest & sweet to you. There are so many nice girls out there to be found by you.
    Good luck!
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    Jun 12, 2009, 08:01 AM

    So what your saying is you want some one who treats you like a useless beyatch. Good luck with that!
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    Jun 12, 2009, 08:33 AM
    Your silly for wanting someone that cheated, have temper tantrums, and spread rumors about you.

    You stated you and her had a good relationship for 7 months but I must asked where? You seem more like a doormat then anything in this relationship and if you think for one second this was a good relationship then your sadly mistaken.

    You don't need her you just want her. You want someone that treated you bad and had no respect for you. You're a fool for wanting someone like her back and addicted to being emotionally hurt. Yes it is pathic.
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    Jun 12, 2009, 09:18 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by liz28 View Post
    Your silly for wanting someone that cheated, have temper tantrums, and spread rumors about you.

    You stated you and her had a good relationship for 7 months but I must asked where? You seem more like a doormat then anything in this relationship and if you think for one second this was a good relationship then your sadly mistaken.

    You don't need her you just want her. You want someone that treated you bad and had no respect for you. Your a fool for wanting somone like her back and addicted to being emotionally hurt. Yes it is pathic.
    Harsh but dead on the money and very true!
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    Jun 13, 2009, 12:20 AM
    So, let me get this right:

    She tells lies and spreads rumours about you.
    She cheated on you twice.
    She gets angry easily.
    She is spiteful and aggressive.
    She acts like she hates you, and says she doesn't want to see you again.

    And you want her back because..?

    Please don't be offended, but why exactly do you want this toxic individual back in your life? Do you think SO little of yourself that you need someone in your life to treat you like $hit?

    Go to the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror and say "This is wrong. I am a good person and I deserve a good relationship. I deserve to be treated well and choose to have healthy relationships".

    Yes, it sounds incredibly corny and I apologize for that! But hell, you need to break your unhealthy pattern fast by having a good hard look at yourself.

    Please stop this madness. This girl is telling you she doesn't want her in your life. You are much better off without her. Deep down you know that.

    Choose things that are good for you, not bad for you - and start now.
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    Jun 30, 2009, 10:26 AM
    Hi
    I know it hurts but some girls are unfortantly bithches like the one you obviusly can't get over.you can do many things but first you have to see that "SHE"is not good enough for you she is beneith you. You with out doubt deserve more,how can you not see that this beyatch that you want sooo much doesn't want you despite all the pain she put you through (yes unfortanely she is giving you signs that she doesn't want you) and by the way you didn't have up and downs you had a ,who cheated on you twice I meam man where is your dignity! and who clearly doesn't want you back that is the ugly truth.my advice to you gain your confidence,be bigger than this,and did I mention she is not the only girl in the world the best way to heal after a break up is to eat lots of food listen to good music(Ii don't know if any of this applies to guys) but you have nothing to loose so give it try.and if you see her can you say that I(YOU CAN CALL ME IFFE)speaking for sweden me and my friends think you are a reall ,though I don't know how you could include this in a conversation with anyone let along ""try that calling her a it may help and that she not welcomed in sweden.
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    Jun 30, 2009, 10:45 AM
    You don't want her back, you want salvation from boredom. Anyone or anything can fill this role.

    I wanted my cheater ex back too, until I realized that I was just bored because she'd occupy a majority of my time. I came to terms with it and adjusted to the new life, met other people and have been much happier since.

    Relationships do become routine after a while and it's hard to break those.

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