[carla123]

My case might be unique cause I am from a very conservative background. I am a very religious Hindu and I CANNOT go against my parents to marry a guy they disapprove of. But emotions took over me, and I fell in love for a Buddhist guy! He loves me soooooo much and when I took the case to my parents, they totally disproved of the guy, cause he was Buddhist. There is NO WAY my parents can give a YES to him. I tried soooo hard with my parents! And although I kind of expected this, I still couldn't help myself from falling in love with that guy.

There was no way I could be happily married to him given the cultural and religious differences. I couldn't bear the fact that the only solution to this would be hurting my parents! So I had to call it off, due to practical issues.

But it pains like hell!! I love him soooo much, and so does he... but there is no way this can end in marriage! It pains to know that we had to split, with all the love still in our hearts. Even he is trying hard to live life without me and so am I! I am not able to forget him although I know this will not work out. Its been a month now and I feel that I'll be in love with him forever, and just stuck there, without being able to move on with another guy my parents show! Please help. How do I move on? I feel totally devastated!!

[superk]

How do i move on? I feel totally devastated!!!!

You chose your beliefs so start cutting off contacts. Make yourself occupied. Hang out in websites like this. You can get over that in time. So next time, don't even start on something you know that would hurt you.

[I wish]

You can start moving on by blocking him out of your life. Cut all ties with him. The more you talk to him, the longer it will take for your feelings to go away. I know it's tough to live life without him, but you made a choice of religion over love. So face the emotional consequences.

Again, avoid all possible contact with it. It will be tough at first. The pain might even get worse, but eventually it will get better. There's no magic potion. The only thing is time. Keep yourself busy, hang out with friends, etc. But whatever you do, do not talk to him anymore. It will just cause you pain and suffering and it will prolong the recovery process.

[Gemini54]

Start be erasing every bit of him from your life - photos, emails, phone numbers, letters, presents he gave you. Don't speak to him ever again.

It's only been a month. The pain will lessen. You won't forget him, but over time he won't be in your mind as much.

This will be tough and it will hurt. Spend time with your family and friends doing things that you enjoy. Allow yourself to feel sad.

Time is the greatest healer - you just have to be patient and live through it.