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Survivor07 · Apr 24, 2009, 05:43 PM

Rome, you sound like an awesome guy. You're doing great. Your fiancé is very lucky to have you; heck, you're lucky to have each other. That's what it's all about, I guess. Sticking together through the hard times. Being there for each other. Great job.

(I was surprised you are only 22 also!)

I think having something to look forward to helps. Plan a really fun date in the near future, hopefully after this semester, for just the two of you. Then you can have that to focus on when you're feeling like this.

I'm feeling this way, too, presently. My boyfriend works a lot of overtime. He has to. He has three kids. We don't live together. We work in the same building, but live an hour apart. So, it gets rough. I am really looking forward to the summer plans we made, though, so that keeps me going.

Hang in there. It will all be worth it!

Survivor07 · Apr 25, 2009, 08:20 AM

Yes, Alty, he is a great guy, with a good head on his shoulders and a great future ahead of him. A guy like him... not easy to find. I think he just needs a pat on the back. Pat... pat... pat... pat

Romefalls19 · Apr 25, 2009, 08:23 AM

Thanks everyone, it truly means a lot to me.

A quick update, surprising enough she brought it up last night that she isn't happy at all with how we don't get time together and she feels really bad that I am doing all these things for her and she thinks that she isn't showing her appreciation the right ways. She took a break from her homework last night and we spent a little time together and tonight we are going out to dinner when she gets off work and then she is going to work on her homework for a little bit then spend more time tonight together since we have the house to ourselves.

talaniman · Apr 25, 2009, 11:18 AM

Be careful, she may want you to prance around with nothing on, but an apron.

Romefalls19 · Apr 25, 2009, 11:23 AM

Was that your experience Tal? Do you need someone to talk to about the abuse you receive at the hands of the apron?

Alty · Apr 25, 2009, 11:38 AM

You guys are killing me! Pictures, I want pictures!

Tal dear, just post the pic, you'll feel better, we're here to support you. You know you'll feel better if you get it all out. Talk to Alty. :)

Rome, sounds like things are taking a turn, that's great. See, told you it wouldn't last forever.

Isn't it nice how I'm always right? ;)

Romefalls19 · Apr 25, 2009, 11:41 AM

Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

Alty · Apr 25, 2009, 11:44 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

Rome dear, I thought I was wrong once but I was mistaken. ;)

Romefalls19 · Apr 25, 2009, 12:00 PM

Ha ha! Funny how my fiancé says the same type of stuff

thewiseoldwoman · Apr 25, 2009, 12:31 PM

This sounds like the busy time of life for you. That's just the way life is during 'those years' of early family life. Its especially tough when one or both adults are going to college still and working and raising kids all at once. It won't always be such a rat race but it is always best to do today what you can because tomorrow you might just collapse from it all and not be able to get anything done. ;) ;) You sound like a very nice supportive partner. Your girlfriend is lucky to have a you. Just hang in there and know that its not always going to be this way.

makapuu · Apr 27, 2009, 12:33 AM

Hang in there Rome! When school finishes things will change. It's good to know that your girlfriend realizes how much you are contributing to the family/household. I don't know many guys that would step up to the plate like you have. I can't imagine the weight on your shoulders. It's good that you can vent here for emotional support, but I think your girlfriend should organize her time to put you higher on her list of priorities.

spitvenom · Apr 27, 2009, 06:43 AM

Nice drought ended for me this weekend.

Romefalls19 · Apr 27, 2009, 06:53 AM

Ha ha me too! It was well worth the wait, of course I wouldn't want to wait like this every time

spitvenom · Apr 27, 2009, 06:57 AM

Yeah my wife apologized to me I told her there is no need to apologize. She said to just let her know and she will drop whatever she is doing.

ZoeMarie · Apr 27, 2009, 07:00 AM

Well it looks like I found this too late, but my suggestion was going to be to set aside just one night a week where you didn't go to the gym and spend some time together then... well... I'm glad things are going better!

Romefalls19 · Apr 27, 2009, 07:02 AM

Same thing venom, my fiancé apologized and feels really bad because I do all these things for her and doesn't feel she shows enough appreciation. She said she will do her best to make "us" time more often, I told her the school work is more important to finish and there will be time for us.

spitvenom · Apr 27, 2009, 07:22 AM

Yeah I told her don't worry about it. She was going to take summer classes but then she decided not to. I was very happy about that but I told her if she wants to take summer classes go ahead.

Romefalls19 · Apr 27, 2009, 07:26 AM

My fiance's school goes through the summer, but she next term she will only have 1 class instead of 2, which will limit the work load.

Alty · Apr 27, 2009, 08:00 AM

You two guys are great. Where were you when I was dating? Oh you, in diapers. :(

spitvenom · Apr 27, 2009, 08:13 AM

Alty you can thank all the women in my family for me being the way I am. I'll never forget when I got my first GF my mom said to me You have to treat women with respect. If you ever think about lying to a girl or doing something that will make her upset Picture my face on her and imagine lying to me. So to this day I just can't do it.