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none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 09:44 PM

Otherwise, ill be growing old alone, in my small apartment which is big enough for just myself no need for extra space, going to work, come home watch TV, no kids and wait for your 10$ and buy McDonalds with it. Lol sigh...

Alty · Apr 12, 2009, 09:47 PM

By the time you get the $10 it won't be enough to buy anything but a drink at McDonalds. :eek: :D

none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 09:50 PM

I hope one day I can mail you or if me and my new girlfriend ever stop by edmonton mall ill give you your 10$ ^_^

I don't want you to be the one to give me 10$ T_T that would be just sad.

none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 10:00 PM

I don't want you to be the one to give me 10$ T_T that would be just sad.[/quote]

Tell your second cousin, she sounds like an awesome girl =P

Alty · Apr 12, 2009, 10:07 PM

In that case, should I charge interest? ;)

If you ever come to Edmonton with your new girlfriend, I'll treat both of you to dinner, the $10 can go towards the bill. :)

none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 10:10 PM

Lol sounds like a plan. I think you should charge interest lol to the point I can't pay it off. Den to pay it off I have to find love LOL

Alty · Apr 12, 2009, 10:23 PM

Ahhhh, so you do believe in love! I knew it! :cool:

Got to run, nachos and movie night.

Take care, talk to you soon. :)

none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 10:23 PM

Hey Alt I have a question for you. When my ex is with the new guy and getting close and intimate every time I think about it its gets me upset and I feel hurt. What do you think I should do about this?

Blushingbride · Apr 12, 2009, 11:42 PM

Love is really what you make of it and to make it more simple, love is true love when you don't need to question if it is or not. True love is when you can be honest, faithful, and true to that person as they are to you. If there's any doubt it's not love.

Alty · Apr 12, 2009, 11:42 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

hey Alt i have a question for ya. When my ex is with the new guy and getting close and intimate everytime i think about it its gets me upset and i feel hurt. What do you think i should do about this?

I'm back for a minute, just checked in.

What do you do? Stop thinking about it! ;)

I know it's hard, we can't help our thoughts, our feelings, you can however decide what to do with those feelings, how to direct them.

An example;

I lost both my parents to cancer, they died 6 1/2 months apart from each other. We were very close, I'm an only child.

For a long time I felt nothing but depression. I isolated myself from everyone, even my husband and my son (he was 2 1/2 when my dad died, 3 when my mom died). I let my feelings control me, take over my life.

Every time I though of my parents I cried. For weeks I didn't eat, hardly drank anything, was prepared to just lay down and die because I couldn't imagine living without them.

One day, as I lay in bed (that's all I did) my son Jared came up to me, stroked my hair, kissed my cheek and said a few simple words that woke me up "Mommy, please don't die, I need you". It hit me like a ton of bricks. I lost my parents, it tore me apart, but I'm a parent too, could I do that to my son? Could I tear him apart?

It took a long time for me to stop crying when I though about my parents, but from that day forward I got up, lived, moved forward. It's been 8 years, now when I think of them I smile, remember the good times, not my sorrow.

It took a long time to get to where I am, one slow step after the other, but I made it.

If you think about it, losing someone you love, whether through a break up or death, is very similar. You feel the loss, the pain, the sorrow. If you let it consume you, you're only hurting yourself and those that love you. If you lift your chin and start moving forward then you'll live.

One day you'll remember her and smile. One day you'll be content with the path she chose, because you'll have found your own path. Understand?

So, what do you do when you think about her and feel sad? Simple, take it for what it is, it's part of the grieving process, it's part of what will help you move forward.

Wow, mushy and poignant, I'm on a role. :)

Chin up. Got to go back to my movie, Mummy 3, want to see what happens.

Good night, sweet dreams. :)

none12345 · Apr 12, 2009, 11:47 PM

lol okies good night alt =P I like reading your long stories XD by the way it's a good movie which you ll find out soon enough. Thanks for the encouragement!

Universon · Apr 13, 2009, 12:37 AM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Well, you're in the "I'll never find love again" stage. Been there done that, I think I wrote a book about it. Ask anyone else, anyone who's ever been in love if they've gone through this stage, the answer will be yes.

I'll make you a bet. You game?

One day you'll be sitting on your front porch, watching you kids play, your wife will come outside, you'll look at her and think "boy am I glad the first one didn't work out!"

Ten bucks, I'm good for it, are you? ;)

You don't want to bet against me. You'd lose your entire budget! (regarding my life story).

Universon · Apr 13, 2009, 02:14 AM

Originally Posted by Nestorian

Hmmm, your link is kind of depressing and one sided? Most of them had some pretty rough relationships, and didn't know, or learn what the reasoning was behind it. Given time i'm sure they'll pull out of it. Most of us do eh.:D

So, why do you think that True love is only in fairy tales?? And what is true love to you??

Peace and kindness be with you.

Yes 'most of them had rough relationship', that's why I am pointing on the link.
Plus, my own experience with love. Well, the only place I've seen, heard and read about love is fair tale stories! In real life I haven't found such a thing. Not ever, starting with me and including all my friends, relatives, colleagues... everyone I know - they are either divorced or they live with their 'significant other' just because they're too weak to divorce!

So, the true love is when somebody is ready and DOES sacrifice their own life for the person they love. I am talking here about relationship love.

And what is true love to you? Have you found it? Ever?

P.S. I was truly looking for love all my life. So, I know what I am talking about

Just to add: the love (in better words: happy relationship) that lasted for a limited time and broke into unhappiness - was not the love. When talking about the love, one must consider the END (and not the start or duration).

Peace to you too.

talaniman · Apr 13, 2009, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by Universon

You don't want to bet against me. You'd lose your entire budget!! (regarding my life story).

I would bet you if you would be willing to put your life story out there.:D

talaniman · Apr 13, 2009, 07:38 AM

By Alty,
It took a long time to get to where I am, one slow step after the other, but I made it.

There is a good lesson here, as we are so down after a break up, we don't always see that light at the end of the tunnel, but if we stick to the path we know we must take for ourselves, that light gets brighter.

A quote from "letters to our exes"

Originally Posted by talaniman

Dear exes, Thanks for kicking me to the curb, so I could meet the love of my life.
Love, your ex.

Once you overcome this funk, you'll see for yourself, its much different after you have been in the light for a while.
Two words for you! PATIENCE, AND ATTITUDE.

Nestorian · Apr 13, 2009, 02:23 PM

Originally Posted by Universon

Yes 'most of them had rough relationship', that's why I am pointing on the link.
Plus, my own experience with love. Well, the only place I've seen, heard and read about love is fair tale stories! In real life i haven't found such a thing. Not ever, starting with me and including all my friends, relatives, colleagues...everyone i know - they are either divorced or they live with their 'significant other' just because they're too weak to divorce!!

So, the true love is when somebody is ready and DOES sacrifice their own life for the person they love. I am talking here about relationship love.

And what is true love to you? Have you found it? Ever?

P.S. I was truly looking for love all my life. So, I know what i am talking about

Just to add: the love (in better words: happy relationship) that lasted for a limited time and broke into unhappiness - was not the love. When talking about the love, one must consider the END (and not the start or duration).

peace to you too.

Indeed.

To find out what I think about love, look on the second page of this thread and read my rediculouly long posts. I didn't even finnish them yet. I have so much more to say ,and explain. I strongly suggest you read it, then you may understand what I think love is.

As for finding true love, well I find that Master Yoda has a little wisedom in such cases.

“[Luke:] I can’t believe it. [Yoda:] That is why you fail.” How can you find something you don't think is out there?

Nope, I have not found it, yet. One day perhaps, but even true love may pass, as you may understand what I mean by that after reading my 2 previous posts. "nothing gold can stay" It's a poem, but I can't recall if that's just a line or the name, I liked it a long time ago and perhaps it may shed some light on this subject.

“Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not. Miss them do not. Attachment leads to jealously. The shadow of greed, that is.”-Yoda
Ok, so maybe your True love doesn't die, they just leave you, still the principal is basically the same. It is all relative my friend.

I shall look forword to hearing form you peace be with you my friend.

sarahlouisec · Apr 13, 2009, 02:32 PM

Love is well knowing that you'd die for them and when your in their arms you feel like nothing can touch yo uand if yo ujust stay there everything will be OK. Love is wanting to make sure that they are happy even if that means your not in the picture

none12345 · Apr 13, 2009, 05:14 PM

Originally Posted by Nestorian

Indeed.

To find out what i think about love, look on the second page of this thread and read my rediculouly long posts. I didn't even finnish them yet. I have so much more to say ,and explain. I strongly suggest you read it, then you may understand what i think love is.

As for finding true love, well I find that Master Yoda has a little wisedom in such cases.

“[Luke:] I can’t believe it. [Yoda:] That is why you fail.” How can you find something you don't think is out there?

Nope, i have not found it, yet. One day perhaps, but even true love may pass, as you may understand what i mean by that after reading my 2 previous posts. "nothing gold can stay" It's a poem, but i can't recall if thats just a line or the name, I liked it a long time ago and perhaps it may shed some light on this subject.

“Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not. Miss them do not. Attachment leads to jealously. The shadow of greed, that is.”-Yoda
Ok, so maybe your True love doesn't die, they just leave you, still the principal is basically the same. It is all relative my friend.

I shall look forword to hearing form you peace be with you my friend.

Yo is yoda really wise? Lol to me it just seems like he's a jedi. Its just a movie XD

Nestorian · Apr 14, 2009, 01:51 PM

"yo is yoda really wise? lol to me it just seems like he's a jedi. its just a movie XD"-none12345

Indeed my little green friend is wise, and a Jedi. :)
Bible, movie, what's the difference? ;) Wisedom can come from the most unlikely of places. Pretty much any where, if you're willing to listen.

May the "force" be with you, my young Padawan. XD