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Baby_Gurl0093 · Sep 20, 2007, 01:05 PM

Well I've known my best friend and her boyfriend who is also my since 4th grade I'm 15 now and I have had feelings for him since for a year now. One time my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and me and him were hanging out and he went to kiss me and at first I told him no but I couldn't help myself since I felt so much for him but now I don't know what to do because they got back together and it was kind of my fault since I was talking to him for my kind and telling him to get back with her and now I kind of regret that decision. In their relationship before they broke up she treated him like crap and always fought with him and now that there back together she promises to change and I really don't know what to do since I'm tired of waiting but I'm afraid to move no because if I do then what happens when they break up and he wants to be with me. He says he likes me still even though he's with her but since he says he loves her with all his heart I know who his heart belongs to and so yea what I'm pretty much asking is what should I do? Please help!:confused:

GlindaofOz · Sep 20, 2007, 01:28 PM

There is no reason for a young person to sit around gathering dust waiting for someone to make up their mind.

If it is meant to happen it will happen. Allow the relationship he is in to play out and why not find a nice guy for you to date in the meantime. If this guy breaks up with your friend and you have a boyfriend I would not advise dumping someone for him. Also, you are going to have to weigh your friendship with the girl in all of this. Do you think that you may lose the friendship over your pursuit of this guy?

nikki_22 · Sep 20, 2007, 01:33 PM

You should stay away from your friend's man. I know it's hard but you will be glad you did in the long run. You have your whole life ahead of you to find a guy to love. Don't ruin a good friendship. If this guy was kissing you right after he broke up with her, he wasn't in love with her. He sounds lika player to me. I'm sorry you're sad and I don't hope I don't offend you when I say this, but you are only 15-don't worry too much about this. Does your friend know you guys kissed? If not, you should tell her. These things have a way of coming out, and better she hear it from you that someone else. You seem like a sensitive person. Don't let this guy play your emotions. If he is in love with her 4 real, he wouldn't tell you he liked you as anything other than a friend. If they break up, ask your friend what she thinks about you guys going out first. She will have a lot of respect for you if you can do that. Hope this helps! Hope you feel happier soon!

MayMsredrose · Sep 22, 2007, 01:59 AM

Hi... you should not get in a relationship with your girlfriend boyfriend for many reasons...

First both are your friends...
Second he is not sure what does he wants...
Third you should not ruin a friendship for years for something which is not there... he does not love you... you know that very well...
Finally , you are still you ng find yourself someone who really cares for you not using you to have fiun when his relationship is not going well for him with his girlfriend... if he was not in love with her he would not go back to her...

Even if you get him... how can you trust him that he is not going to do with you what he did with your girlfriend??

Ms. Redrose

csquared · Sep 26, 2007, 01:08 PM

Originally Posted by Baby_Gurl0093

[F] Well i've known my best friend and her boyfriend who is also my since 4th grade im 15 now and I have had feelings for him since for a year now. One time my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and me and him were hanging out and he went to kiss me and at first i told him no but i couldnt help myself since i felt so much for him but now i dont know what to do because they got back together and it was kinda my fault since i was talking to him for my kind and telling him to get back with her and now i kinda regret that decision. in their relationship before they broke up she treated him like crap and always fought with him and now that there back together she promises to change and i really dont know what to do since im tired of waiting but im afraid to move no b/c if i do then what happens when they break up and he wants to be with me. He says he likes me still even though hes with her but since he says he loves her with all his heart i know who his heart belongs to and so yea wat im pretty much asking is what should I do?? Please help!:confused:

Selfish

csquared · Sep 26, 2007, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by Baby_Gurl0093

[F] Well i've known my best friend and her boyfriend who is also my since 4th grade im 15 now and I have had feelings for him since for a year now. One time my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and me and him were hanging out and he went to kiss me and at first i told him no but i couldnt help myself since i felt so much for him but now i dont know what to do because they got back together and it was kinda my fault since i was talking to him for my kind and telling him to get back with her and now i kinda regret that decision. in their relationship before they broke up she treated him like crap and always fought with him and now that there back together she promises to change and i really dont know what to do since im tired of waiting but im afraid to move no b/c if i do then what happens when they break up and he wants to be with me. He says he likes me still even though hes with her but since he says he loves her with all his heart i know who his heart belongs to and so yea wat im pretty much asking is what should I do?? Please help!:confused:

And you're only 14. You can find another middle school love

ladiesman217 · Sep 26, 2007, 05:41 PM

Hey guys a note helped now she likes me and she's at my house now.

TY8475 · Sep 26, 2007, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by Baby_Gurl0093

[F] Well i've known my best friend and her boyfriend who is also my since 4th grade im 15 now and I have had feelings for him since for a year now. One time my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and me and him were hanging out and he went to kiss me and at first i told him no but i couldnt help myself since i felt so much for him but now i dont know what to do because they got back together and it was kinda my fault since i was talking to him for my kind and telling him to get back with her and now i kinda regret that decision. in their relationship before they broke up she treated him like crap and always fought with him and now that there back together she promises to change and i really dont know what to do since im tired of waiting but im afraid to move no b/c if i do then what happens when they break up and he wants to be with me. He says he likes me still even though hes with her but since he says he loves her with all his heart i know who his heart belongs to and so yea wat im pretty much asking is what should I do?? Please help!:confused:

Well I have been in the situation of the guy in that question. It is really hard to know what to do I loved both of them and well I just stayed with the one I had. Now it is over with us and I am still in love with the ather girl and well it is in young days now but I think it is going to work with the ather girl the one I did not pick. But it is not easy because the 2 girls are best friend and I feel like I am betraying the one I went out with.

Sorry that did not really anser your question

Baby_Gurl0093 · Sep 26, 2007, 06:36 PM

No it helps because it shows me his prespectuve of the situation and all so understanding everyone's point of view helps! Thanks

Koolgirl1 · Mar 18, 2009, 04:02 PM

You know all you need is time to think do I REALLY LOVE THIS GUY? I mean I'm in love with a guy that's soooooooooooooo hot! And my bffl told him I'm in love with him . And we are now going onto are 3d date. I THOUGHT ABOUT DO I LOVE HIM or this other guy. And I loved him.

You want a guy that you can completely trust. Not a guy who will cheat on you with your best friend!! :D

gurlygurl101 · Mar 18, 2009, 04:22 PM

I have a problem similar to yours.. but the difference is.. the guy that my friend is dating... he's my ex. They hooked up about 2 weeks after me and him broke up. I love him but he loves her, so basically.. u just have to except the fact that he's not leaving her for u. it sucks, but it's the truth.

Koolgirl1 · Apr 5, 2009, 07:31 PM

Well, tell your friend you still have feelings for him. If she sayes something say can I talk to him. I need to work this out so we don't lose are friendship over a guy:eek::eek:

Jake2008 · Apr 5, 2009, 11:46 PM

If he treats you, and your friend, with such disrespect, by playing both you and her at the same time, why do you think he'd be a good boyfriend to start with.

When a relationship is over, it takes time and reflection to figure out what went wrong, before jumping into the waiting arms of another. I would say tell him you are off limits until he figures out what he wants to do.

Then again, with a guy like that, wouldn't you rather keep your girlfriend's friendship rather than risk that over a guy who is likely going to do the same to you, as he's done to her?

rea_star_123 · Jun 15, 2010, 07:59 AM

Well,if that's really your true friend you should stay away fromyour friend boyfriend.And I know how it feels to be confused on what to do but it's a number of boys that is waiting for you to come along. And you probably will find the love of your life. And he's not a true boyfriend if he says he love you but still with your friend. BUT... if you was meant to be, you it would happen as time go on.just try to not think about him as much and be cool with the situation. But that's going to happen couse of puberty. It might sound crazy but its true. At some point that's normal to have feelings for your frindes boyfriend.

rea_star_123 · Jun 15, 2010, 08:01 AM

Originally Posted by Jake2008

If he treats you, and your friend, with such disrespect, by playing both you and her at the same time, why do you think he'd be a good boyfriend to start with.

When a relationship is over, it takes time and reflection to figure out what went wrong, before jumping into the waiting arms of another. I would say tell him you are off limits until he figures out what he wants to do.

Then again, with a guy like that, wouldn't you rather keep your girlfriend's friendship rather than risk that over a guy who is likely going to do the same to you, as he's done to her?

that's really true what this lady is saying... 99.9999%true.!