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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:02 PM
    I don't understand.
    Ok. So me and this guy have hit if off from the start and we've always have had something between us. We always would do stuff and go by other peoples houses to just be able to see each other. But then when I saw him one day I heard about "the night" before! Like I guess I really didn't care too much but my heart felt a little tear in it. And I don't really know why because I don't really like him, really I don't but there's just something about him that makes me attracted to him. So anyway bow the girl from the night before he just got into a relationship lately and is dating her. He tells me once and a while he wishes it was me. I cry just thinking about it! And I don't know why when like I said before I really don't like him, or do I? I'm confused. So I think I don't I like him but honestly I really really think I do. What should I do?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:08 PM
    Why? Why now?
    Ya so there's this guy I and a whole bunch of other girls have been off again on again with and lately he has really proved himself and told me he likes me. Like I really don't believe him but yet at the same time I do. So I've always liked him and then when I didn't really talk to him for a while I still had feelings for him. But now since he came back around I really absolutely feel nothing. Like I don't even like him, it's so weird cause I don't even feel the smallest thing.. Like I usually would. Should I try to luke him? Or just go with what my heart say and not give it another try? It's like I was honestly an I mean honestly finally over him he comes back and likes me. Why does it happen like this, I feel bad not really wantinng to give it another try but at the same time I'm just like why, when I don't like him. Omg! Lol. What should I do?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:11 PM

    Fever is gone so just BE HONEST.. plain and simple.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:16 PM
    You don't feel anything for him, you don't like him, there is no spark.

    Trust your instinct.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:18 PM

    How old are you? This reminds me of my 5th grade crush thing. You are just flattered with the attention and compliment. If you honestly don't like this person (just imagine he doesn't like you at all, would you feel the same), don't give false impression. It's just not good.

    PS>
    Keep your question in one thread if it's all about the same thing.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:20 PM

    Keep your question in one thread if it's all about the same thing.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ylaira View Post
    How old are you? This reminds me of my 5th grade crush thing. You are just flattered with the attention and compliment. If you honestly don't like this person (just imagine he doesn't like you at all, would you feel the same), don't give false impression. It's just not good.

    PS>
    Keep your question in one thread if it's all about the same thing.
    Nope! Two complete different guys. Lol
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:25 PM

    From a guy's point of view:
    There are a few girls that I have similar relationship issues with. If the girl that I liked after however long didn't honestly like me back, I'd rather her tell me. If he has proven himself to you, I'm sure he'd rather you be happy and not force yourself to be with him just because you think you should.
    Go with what your heart says, but explain to him why you have to do what you have to do.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    He tells me once and a while he wishes it was me. I cry just thinking about it! And I don't know why when like I said before I really don't like him, or do I? I'm confused. So I think I don't I like him but honestly I really really think I do. What should I do?
    He likes you, you like him, what's the problem? Keep in touch, make it smooth, take it slow but fun. How old are you?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 06:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ylaira View Post
    He likes you, you like him, what's the problem? Keep in touch, make it smooth, take it slow but fun. How old are you?
    There's a few complications in the middle.. Lol jeez why do u wannna know how old I am?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 07:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    There's a few complications in the middle.. Lol jeez why do u wannna know how old I am?
    So I'll have an idea how to write. People talk to you depending on you and their experience, comparing it. Like the way you don't talk to your parents the way you talk to your friends.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 07:31 PM

    What is confusing you? What is it about him that you think you don't like?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 07:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by H0P3FUL View Post
    what is confusing you? what is it about him that you think you don't like?
    That my problem it so confusing that I don't know what the confusing part is. But that's and awesome qquestion and when I read your reply I had to stop for a little bit.. But I haven't come up with a answer yet. I don't know what I don't like about him.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 09:28 PM
    Sometimes we need to know the person's age because we need to know what type of advice to give you. But we usually ask your age because it sounds like a problem that younger people would have.

    First of all,

    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    So anyways bow the girl from the night before he just got into a relationship lately and is dating her. He tells me once and a while he wishes it was me. I cry just thinking about it!
    He told you that he wished he was dating you while he has a girlfriend? That's cheating. If he really liked you, then he wouldn't be with another girl.
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    Apr 4, 2009, 09:40 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    Ya so there's this guy I and a whole bunch of other girls have been off again on again with and lately he has really proved himself and told me he likes me.
    Sounds like a player to me. You have to ask yourself:

    1) Is that what you want?

    2) Will you be able to trust him?

    3) Sounds like you have too many doubts about this guy before you even start. Do you think that after you start dating the doubts will go away?
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    Apr 4, 2009, 09:42 PM

    Sounds to me like you where only interested when it was a challenge. Now that he's picked one girl, you, it's no longer a challenge and you aren't interested anymore.

    Let him go, no need to beat a dead horse.
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    Apr 5, 2009, 04:26 AM

    Yup! Trust you instinct and tell him... you aren't interested, it really is that easy.
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    Apr 5, 2009, 11:16 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    Ok. So me and this guy have hit if off from the start and we've always have had something between us. We always would do stuff and go by other peoples houses to just be able to see each other. But then when I saw him one day I heard about "the night" before! Like I guess I really didn't care to much but my heart felt a little tear in it. And I don't really know why because I don't really like him, really I don't but there's just something about him that makes me attracted to him. So anyways bow the girl from the night before he just got into a relationship lately and is dating her. He tells me once and a while he wishes it was me. I cry just thinking about it! And I don't know why when like I said before I really don't like him, or do I? I'm confused. So I think I don't I like him but honestly I really really think I do. What should I do?
    Sorry I had merged your questions, as they were to similar, and confusing, until I read where they are two separate guys.

    To address your issue with this one. Leave him alone as he has a girlfriend. Don't you wonder if he would tell his g/f that he wishes she was you? That would really go over good wouldn't it? Don't let him play with your feelings that way.
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    Apr 5, 2009, 11:18 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Lama22 View Post
    Ya so there's this guy I and a whole bunch of other girls have been off again on again with and lately he has really proved himself and told me he likes me. Like I really don't believe him but yet at the same time I do. So I've always liked him and then when I didn't really talk to him for a while I still had feelings for him. But now since he came back around I really absolutely feel nothing. Like I don't even like him, it's so weird cause I don't even feel the smallest thing.. Like I usually would. Should I try to luke him? Or just go with what my heart say and not give it another try? It's like I was honestly an I mean honestly finally over him he comes back and likes me. Why does it happen like this, I feel bad not really wantinng to give it another try but at the same time I'm just like why, when I don't like him. Omg! Lol. what should I do?
    If you ain't feeling those feelings, be honest about it with him, and yourself. You don't have to force it.
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