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Survivor07 · Mar 30, 2009, 07:20 PM

I think Tal's giving you some tough love. Like a slap in the face!

We just want to see some more positive!

none12345 · Mar 30, 2009, 08:34 PM

Yah I need a good slap in the face to come back to reality. Hey guys I don't get how come in the movies, they always have a happy ending but in real life it doesn't work that way? O_O

jmw0713 · Mar 31, 2009, 07:25 AM

Because that's Hollywood. Smoke and Mirrors. That is a Fantasy Reality that someone dreamed up in their head about how THEY think life should be. It never really mimics real life. The only movies that remotely mimic real life are documentaries and films that based themselves only on real life fact. Then again, the director always has to put his own personal touch on things.

none12345 · Mar 31, 2009, 04:46 PM

Guys today was weird. I don't know how I feel today. Its more like I feel nothing at all. Today after school I hanged out with some of the guys on the floor that I lived on with the same the same class. It was pretty nice to hang out people after being home alone all the time. I still feel kind of lonely though. I don't have much friends here, I moved here to study for school but school is almost over and I'm going home back to my city during the summer. Can't wait to hang out with my old buddies and family. I feel like I need a new group of friends. My own group that I can hang out all the time. Anyone have any thoughts or ideas?

Survivor07 · Mar 31, 2009, 06:49 PM

Well... get away from the computer and go out!! Talk to people. You can do this. You got to be a friend to have one!

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 10:17 AM

Sigh... I just woke up today from dreaming of having the wonderful sex me and my ex had >_< now I miss her... but I know I can't go back to her or want her back anymore for the horrible way she has treated me but I still have feelings for her every once in a while

kctiger · Apr 1, 2009, 10:18 AM

Rub one out and carry on with your day... :cool:

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Rub one out and carry on with your day...:cool:

Guess I don't really have a choice do I? Lol

talaniman · Apr 1, 2009, 10:36 AM

There are always choices. You can keep dreaming after you wake up, or you can wake up, and have a nice day.

That's two choices, there are others.

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 10:39 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

There are always choices. You can keep dreaming after you wake up, or you can wake up, and have a nice day.

Thats two choices, there are others.

I guess keep dreaming doesn't get you no where. It doesn't mean its going to happen in real life so I guess there's no point in that. I guess the best thing to do is wake up and have a nice day. Does it mean subconscioiusly that I still have feelings with this girl since I dreamed about her?

Justwantfair · Apr 1, 2009, 10:44 AM

I still have dreams about the puppy/dog I had growing up, that doesn't mean that I get to have my puppy back.

Yes, I miss him, but just because I miss him doesn't mean that I get to have him back.

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 10:47 AM

Yep yep do you still want him back?

kctiger · Apr 1, 2009, 10:49 AM

Dreams are dreams. I don't try and interpret them, seriously, I would have a more productive time pondering the meaning of life...

Eventually you get to a point to where those dreams don't happen at all, or at least, they don't happen often.

Survivor07 · Apr 1, 2009, 04:41 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

Sigh.... i just woke up today from dreaming of having the wonderful sex me and my ex had >_< now i miss her..... but i know i can't go back to her or want her back anymore for the horrible way she has treated me but i still have feelings for her every once in a while

You are missing sex, my friend. That's all.

Don't romanticize that everything about your sex was wonderful, therefore, no other female in the world will **** like her. You'll get **** again

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 04:53 PM

Originally Posted by Survivor07

You are missing sex, my friend. That's all.

Don't romanticize that everything about your sex was wonderful, therefore, no other female in the world will **** like her. You'll get **** again

Its just with her it feels so special. I don't know if I can ever feel close enough to do those stuff with anyone else or I want to...

talaniman · Apr 1, 2009, 05:01 PM

PHHHHHTTTT!! You will trust me.

Arzy99 · Apr 1, 2009, 05:16 PM

It seems to me that what you miss is actually 'having someone'.. having a 'girlfriend'...
I think maybe you need to be more comfortable being alone - its not a bad thing you know... believe me, I have been finding out first hand. I have been able to do WHATEVER I want... embrace the freedom dude!. I think after some time you will realise what I am talking about.
My driving force is this - to improve myself each day as much as possible, in turn making me more and more desirable... at the end of the day, you can never stop learning and improving... get out there, try it.. you will feel good!

none12345 · Apr 1, 2009, 08:24 PM

Originally Posted by Arzy99

It seems to me that what you miss is actually 'having someone'.. having a 'girlfriend'...
I think maybe you need to be more comfortable being alone - its not a bad thing you know... believe me, i have been finding out first hand. I have been able to do WHATEVER i want...embrace the freedom dude!.. I think after some time you will realise what I am talking about.
My driving force is this - to improve myself each day as much as possible, in turn making me more and more desirable ... at the end of the day, you can never stop learning and improving... get out there, try it.. you will feel good!

Yah I thought about what you said and I think I understand what you're trying to say now and it makes perfect sense. By improving yourself and make yourself more desirable so people will like you and it ll be so much better in the next relationship. Maybe that's how I feel like is I actually miss having someone but it's that I actually miss having her not just anyone, is that the same thing?

Survivor07 · Apr 2, 2009, 04:48 AM

Originally Posted by none12345

yah i thought about what you said and i think i understand what you're trying to say now and it makes perfect sense. by improving yourself and make yourself more desirable so people will like you and it ll be so much better in the next relationship. maybe thats how i feel like is i actually miss having someone but its that i actually miss having her not just anyone, is that the same thing?

It's both. You miss having someone and you miss her. NC is to get over missing her. Getting out and doing new things with people is for you.

You don't just improve yourself to make yourself desirable for other people to like you.
You do it for you. You want to like yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin, so you can tolerate being alone... eventually enjoy it and not feel anxious about having to have someone else to fulfill all your needs. You take care of you first!

none12345 · Apr 2, 2009, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by Arzy99

It seems to me that what you miss is actually 'having someone'.. having a 'girlfriend'...
I think maybe you need to be more comfortable being alone - its not a bad thing you know... believe me, i have been finding out first hand. I have been able to do WHATEVER i want...embrace the freedom dude!.. I think after some time you will realise what I am talking about.
My driving force is this - to improve myself each day as much as possible, in turn making me more and more desirable ... at the end of the day, you can never stop learning and improving... get out there, try it.. you will feel good!

Yah right now I feel kind of scared of the future and where it will lead me. Before when I was with her I had everything planned out but plans are going to change now and I feel kind of lost now. It feels weird being alone and I'm not used to it. I've been with her for so long and its being a while that I felt alone and single. I got to admit the freedom does feel kind of good but from time to time I still miss her. I don't feel that comfortable being alone but I'm doing my own stuff now like videogames, homework, playing my guitar and I'm even catching up with my family and friends and I have more time for them. Any ideas on how I can feel more comfortable being alone without any fear of the future?