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missunloved · Mar 18, 2009, 11:39 AM

Growing up I went through a lot of physical and mental abuse I have never told anyone about what has happened to me in the past but I'm afraid no one will believe me my parents like to forget what happened and many people at school don't talk to me because of stuff from the past it just is getting to heavy for me to deal with.. I'm already taking anti-depresent meds but sometimes I just can't take it... I haven't tried to kill myself not recantly its been a while and having barely any friends its hard.. being mentaly and physically abused growing up made me put a gard up and I don't let many people in I know there are some people who care but who can I trust... I'm just so afriad what can I do I don't want my parents getting in trouble though how can I cope without getting anyone in trouble

tickle · Mar 18, 2009, 12:40 PM

Do you mean missy, that you haven't talked to a professional person regarding your abuse ? But if not, you obviously have a prescription for meds and in that case your doctor must know the reason why. Right ? Please explain so we can help you get through this tough time.

Tick

JTnumber3 · Mar 18, 2009, 04:24 PM

Here, if you are a grown person just attending college or what not, than I would suggest to go see a psychiatrist to discuss your life issues and experiences because it would be extremely helpful to release all the pain. If you are a teenager between the ages 12-19 than it would be best to talk to your school grade counselor privatly. I don't mean getting into detail, but I would tell him/her that you would like to talk about some issues I've had so you can arrange a meeting w/o your parents being involved. Your counselor will most likely set you up with a psychiatrist and that is the best thing one can do for you to release your pain and it's nothing to be ashamed about.

On the other hand, it is not good that you are not getting a good and loving support system from your parents. Also, if your counselor is an "" or you personally don't like him/her than the best thing to do is to talk to your school principle.

Last, the best thing to do to make friends (not saying to be popular) is to join a sports team if you are a girl or a guy at your school or to join a club that you think will be intersting. Trust me that is the best way to be interractive.

I hope this helps. Please I hope you can forget out the past and focus on the positive things in the present

missunloved · Mar 19, 2009, 06:54 AM

My doctor only knows as much as my mom tells her because when I went my mom had to come with me because I am not 18 and when I would try and tell the truth I would just start to cry so my mom would only say some of the stuff that has happened my mom only knows a little bit about it..
And I was supposed to go see someone who I could talk to but my dad flipped out and told me I wasn't allowed to see her because where I'm from it's a little place and if she found out everyone would know or so that's what my dad thought

tickle · Mar 19, 2009, 07:22 AM

Missy, anyone you discuss your abuse with will have to keep it confidential. So your dad is wrong. But you must speak to someone about this problem, or your problems will escalate.

Tick

Mommy102808 · Mar 21, 2009, 12:20 PM

You need to get this stuff off your chest. You can't keep this all balled up inside just to please your parents. Your parents shouldn't be making you do this, they should let you talk, or you could find someone who you could talk to alone and not with your parents even if you are under 18. Go to an adult at your school whom you can trust and let them help you. Good luck...

Clough · Mar 21, 2009, 03:16 PM

Hi, missunloved!

Yes, I agree that you should be seeing a professional and that the professional will keep things confidential. You can also continue to discuss things with people on this site. You are anonymous here.

If you would like, there is an activity that I like to do with people on this site in order to build some self-esteem. If you would like to do it, it might help you to feel better about yourself. Please let me know...

Thanks!

missunloved · Mar 22, 2009, 12:59 PM

Clough
I think I would like that but how?
Someitmes I wish I had someone to tlak to its really hard to try and say it maybe it would be better if I wrote it so than I could just forgit about it

Alty · Mar 22, 2009, 01:07 PM

Missy, I'm going to post a link to one of my threads, the one where I let it all out in the open. I can tell you that talking to the people on this site helped me tremendously. We are all anonymous here, so feel free to tell us your story, maybe we can help or lead you in the right direction.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...me-195877.html

Clough · Mar 23, 2009, 01:15 AM

Originally Posted by missunloved

clough
i think i would like that but how?
someitmes i wish i had someone to tlak to its really hard to try and say it maybe it would be better if i wrote it so than i could jsut forgit about it

I've done the activity with several people on this site. Here is a link to where I'm presently working with a person.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/writin...ve-330210.html

It's not hard, and I could show you how to do it, even if it's something that you've never done before.

Thanks!

Jake2008 · Mar 23, 2009, 04:20 AM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Missy, I'm going to post a link to one of my threads, the one where I let it all out in the open. I can tell you that talking to the people on this site helped me tremendously. We are all anonymous here, so feel free to tell us your story, maybe we can help or lead you in the right direction.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...me-195877.html

You are an amazing, and brave person Altenweg. I've read your post in the link, and I personally thank you for opening up that path for others to follow in writing out their stories as well.

You are right in that what seems insurmountable, is possible to get through, if the right path is found.

Missy, I hope you follow Altenweg's lead.

missunloved · Mar 26, 2009, 11:17 AM

I hate this... no one gets me they don't understand how it feels to not be loved by anyone you think loves you or they love you for all the wrong resons I'm sick of life I would reather just sit in a corner by myself all alone

ced080188 · Mar 26, 2009, 09:13 PM

I completely agree with the others you should find help from proffesionals. But also as an abuse victim I understand that it is hard to talk about something you have hushed for so long. And you have to be comfortable in what is going on. Tell your parents that something needs to be done so you can help yourself or you are going to have to go else where for help because situations like that are unhealthy for you when they are not taken care of. Give them an adult to adult and try to make them understand that you have to do what is best for you not what looks or sounds best to others uninvolved, how lucky they are that they haven't lost you. And you haven't lost yourself. And how much you need them to be there for you. Try explaining to them your emotions and even if they can't completely get the picture you talking to them and easing them in to a more comfortable and frequent conversation about it will keep you closer than you will be if they continue to alienate you and you problems with out real concerns for you even being shown, they don't understand it and tha tis why they pretend it is not there of they feel that they can't help you or because the past is the past. What ever their reasoning it is not to late to fix the problems you have wit them. They will come in when you walk them to the door good luck and I really hope all is well