[beth911]

Well I really want to be with this other guy now but he won't talk to me anymore and doesn't like me now. And he acts like I don't even exist. I have sent several text messages trying to get him to talk to me and he ignores every one of them and even though we didn't know each other that well I never felt as happy as I did with him. And now my question is, what is it I need to do for him to talk to me? I've tried everything

[beth911]

He really really liked me a lot befroe but then all of a sudden he thought I would get attatched to easily and be too jellous.
So he wouldn't even give it a chance and he just started saying he thinks I'm crazy and all this stuff when all I did was try texting him to ask why. And if he gave me a chance that would all change but he won't even talk to me now.

[beth911]

I have a boyfriend of 3 years but he doesn't ever want to do anything anymore and I'm bored with the relationship and I met a really sweet guy who is like everything I ever wanted. At first I only wanted to be friends and he wanted more than that. We hung out one night about a week ago and held hands and he tried to kiss me but I wouldn't let him. Then I decided I wanted him more than my boyfriend of 3 years. And the day after I made up my mind he said he only wanted to be friends. He told my sister in law (he works with her) that he thought about giving me another chance but that I over reacted to that so he is afraid of how I would be if we were only together a month or 2 n then broke up.
Now he doesn't like me and wants me to leave him alone.
He isn't even responding to my messages. I apologised a million times and I just really wish I could be with him. I keep having dreams I go back to that night at the lake when he tried to kiss me and that this time I did let him.
And my sister in law is sick of hearing me talk about it
She doesn't think he will change his mind. And now he won't even be friends with me. Its like I no longer exist to him. And he is like everything to me
And I know that he did like me before just bacause before he was around me he kept asking my sister in law if he looked OK and if I would like it and blah blah blah and he was telling her I look good and I seem cool but he thinks I would be too jellous. And some how I managed to give him the wrong idea. He made me happier in that little bit of time than anyone has ever made me in my life. And every second with him I pretty much just laughed until I cried

[Wondergirl]

How long have you known him?

[beth911]

This new guy? Sort of a few months.
I don't see him much though. He is friends with my brothers fiancé and works with her.

[Wondergirl]

And he's everything to you already?

[beth911]

It seems like it. No one has ever made me so happy or enjoyed being around me so much. And now he won't talk to me at all. And I don't know what to do. I just wish I could have someone else talk to him and him listen to what they say so he can change his mind hopefully

[beth911]

Lol and my horoscope says that I may think that someone hasn't been listingin to be but that I will get a response later that shows they care and were listening all along. Lol

[Wondergirl]

Sorry to say it won't happen. He's over you.

What's with J? I thought he was everything to you.

[beth911]

I'm bored with how he never wants to go anywhere or do anything. Its like we aren't even together. And this other guy just got the wrong idea sme h0w 0r things wuldnt be this way.
S0rry my 0 is somewhat broke. It w0rks when it wants.

[beth911]

This other guy... went out on a date with this one girl that he works with and I never did like her. They went on a date yesterday. He is almost 21 and she is 15. But I don't know if I care anymore or not. But I think I might give my friends friend a try. J's making me really bored with the relationship and he don't let me do anything so I have to do some things behind his back which makes me start doing more and more behind his bacck to the point where I'm just not honest with him anymore and I'm beginning to feel like I just don't care anymore. I wish I did but its like I just don't feel anything. I don't care but I don't not care. I don't know if I love him anymore. I want to but I just don't feel it. I'm really confused and I feel like we are just strangers anymore and he don't let me do anything at all.

[Wondergirl]

this other guy... went out on a date with this one girl that he works with and i never did like her. they went on a date yesterday. he is almost 21 and she is 15. but i dont know if i care anymore or not. but i think i might give my friends friend a try. J's making me really bored with the relationship and he dont let me do anything so i have to do some things behind his back which makes me start doing more and more behind his bacck to the point where im just not honest with him anymore and im begining to feel like i just dont care anymore. i wish i did but its like i just dont feel anything. i dont care but i dont not care. i dont know if i love him anymore. i want to but i just dont feel it. im really confused and i feel like we are just strangers anymore and he dont let me do anything at all.

Wasn't that J's big thing anyway? -- controlling your time and space. Btw, that 21 y/o is facing life as a sex offender if he messes with that 15 y/o. Back to you and J -- I'd think you all are too busy shoveling snow these days that you don't have time to worry about relationships. Every time I listen to a weather report, you are getting more snow! Anyhoo, dump all the guys for a while and get your own act together. What's in your future? You'll be a senior in the fall, or you'll graduate this spring? What next? Community college and a certificate in a vocation you will enjoy? Flipping burgers for the rest of your life at MickeyDee's? Get yourself going and make some progress with yourself. Forget the guys for now.

[beth911]

If I forget them I sit around the house all day and do nothing but listen to music. Where does that get me? At least john pushes me into doing something with my life.. probably x ray tech

[Wondergirl]

If i forget them i sit around the house all day and do nothing but listen to music. where does that get me? atleast john pushes me into doing something with my life.. probably x ray tech

No school? Will you graduate in May? Whatever happened with him and school and the military?

[beth911]

And this 15 yr old is kind of a um... I can't think of an appropriate name for it. Lets just say she has like 5 other boyfriends. And just last week she was cheating on one guy with two other guys and he left her then she kept cutting herself and she didn't understand why he left.
So I'm sure she will just cheat on him too.
He told me when we were talking that that girl was so annoying and all this stuff... obviously not.

[beth911]

Yeah we graduate in spring.
I don't know what he is doing.
I try talking to him about it and he can't be serious about it. I can't talk to him at all about anything/ the only time he is ever serious is when he is mad and then he don't want anything to do with me

[Wondergirl]

and this 15 yr old is kinda a um... i can't think of an appropriate name for it. lets just say she has like 5 other boyfriends. and just last week she was cheating on one guy with two other guys and he left her then she kept cutting herself and she didnt understand why he left.
so im sure she will just cheat on him too.
he told me when we were talking that that girl was so annoying and all this stuff... obviously not.

Cutting?? She has bigger problems than you or I do! She must really hate herself big-time!

[R0cKin_t33N]

I have the same situation. We are teens. Don't limit your choices. DumP both guys and start fresh. This time keep your options open. Trust me by keeping yourself in this sitution your keeping yourself from all the other guys out there who I'm sure would treat you way better.----p.s what your doing is called cheating, not physically but emotionally.

[beth911]

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 years now. I am 18 and he is 19. It seems as if he is just6 not a people person and thinks he is the best and smartest person in the world. He is not what would be considered a loving person and doesn't want to have kids or get married... but he seems to want to still stay together for a very long time. He is not the type to kisss od hug and because of this I feel so hurt. I know he loves me because of the things that he does for me and I am really the only person that he talks to because he is such a loner. He expects me to be like him. We never really argue like we used to but its so hard for me to hold all this in and he will get mad when I tell him and that only makes things a lot more worse. Its so hard to explain and I am probably giving the wrong idea but its like he does love me but he is jus5t to afraid to show that he cares about me or he doesn't know how some how. I don't know what I should do about this. Please help me. He is the same way to his family and his mom said she would have his dad talk to him about how he acts like that to get him to stop but she hasn't yet and I'm afraid it weill only make things worse but she said that she knows what she is doing and she is sure that it won't get worse. But I have been waiting so long for them to have this talk and it still hasn't happeneed and I am too afriad to bring it up to her for some reason. What should I do?

[ajGambino]

This seems to be a problem, but to solve it, all you need to do is talk to him. If you guys aren't on the same page (meaning you understand both situations and will try to work on it), maybe you should consider being alone for a while and see what you really want.