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DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:07 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

The only thing worse that a girlfriend or boyfriend that treats us like trash, is believing we deserve it...

See I never felt like I deserved it, but I always just was like well she drunk its OK she doesn't know what she is doing. She will be herself tomorrow. But now thinking I just made myself just a lower person for letting her do this to me.

starbuck8 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:09 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

Well thanks guys im starting the NC now, if she calls me to hang out this weekend im not answering at all, screw her. she really doesnt deserve someone like me anyway who always made time for her and did anything possible to make everything work. when she never did anything. honestly i just felt this way now that she doesnt deserve me at all, so thanks. I believe i have to power now to start NC for good. Here is a secret i dont tell many people i stated a while back that she gets abusive when she drinks, we she hit me in the eye one time when she got so mad and crazy that she gave me a nice back eye, and all i did was to see if she was still awake. so why would i want to be with a person like this. anyway thanks again.

Okay, FOR SURE you don't go and meet her! I don't care who it is abusing who! Same difference! IF you were to meet her, you are playing right into her hands and giving her all of the power she needs to do it again. She's also obviously got a drinking problem, because people that don't, do not go around hitting people when they have a few. Turn around and RUN... not walk... RUN, in the other direction! You need to do this for yourself. She is not worth the amount of the self worth she is stealing from you!

And yes DJ, you are setting yourself up. You are letting her rob you of something you need to survive!

zeeniee · Feb 6, 2009, 07:09 AM

Well your not low anymore- as your going NC- you can only go UP as you will not give in to her ways anymore.

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:10 AM

Today I think I'm going to just pig out and be a bum, I never pig out and work out all the time so I think I deserve it today.

zeeniee · Feb 6, 2009, 07:12 AM

I don't blame you- bet you haven't eaten or relaxed in a long time!

Enjoy your FEAST!

starbuck8 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:16 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

Today i think im going to just pig out and be a bum, i never pig out and work out all the time so i think i deserve it today.

Yes! Splurge on yourself for once! I agree with Zee. Let yourself take a deep breath, and relax. You deserve it!

kctiger · Feb 6, 2009, 07:16 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

Today i think im going to just pig out and be a bum, i never pig out and work out all the time so i think i deserve it today.

What you deserve is freedom... have you ever seen the movie Bravehart?

This quote applies to most girlfriends:

"They may take our lives...but they may never take our FREEDOM!!"

Freedom from sadness, depression, anger... all that negative energy you have. Time to find YOUR freedom baby!!

zeeniee · Feb 6, 2009, 07:20 AM

Dear Kctiger- do note mel gibson aka braveheart man did eventually get chopped up... into pieces...

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:21 AM

Yeah I love the movie Braveheart, one of my favorite movies. Really thanks a lot guys I feel so much better now and am actually happy I'm doing this. I haven't been happy for a long time knowing her, she always made me so upset. This is my time now and I know in the end I will be a better happy person.

SAB123 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:26 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

I know in the end i will be a better happy person.

This is so true you will, but in time?

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:30 AM

Originally Posted by SAB123

This is so true you will, but in time?

Yeah for sure, I know I will still have ups and downs but I feel like I have this new strength to just move on. I don't know I guess I needed a little kick in the butt.. with words.

kctiger · Feb 6, 2009, 07:31 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

yeah for sure, i know i will still have ups and downs but i feel like i have this new strength to just move on. i dont know i guess i needed a little kick in the butt..with words.

Always glad to help ;)

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Always glad to help ;)

Right on, and thank you. You all seem to know what exactly to say too so thanks.

starbuck8 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:34 AM

Originally Posted by zeeniee

Dear Kctiger- do note mel gibson aka braveheart man did eventually get chopped up.... into pieces...

You make me laugh! ;)

kctiger · Feb 6, 2009, 07:34 AM

That's because most of us are either at the point you are at, or, like me, have been there recently and know how you feel. My words of "wisdom" come from experience, and experience only.

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:40 AM

Well I will keep you all updated, hopefully you guys don't mind if it is sometimes often.

zeeniee · Feb 6, 2009, 07:45 AM

Well DJ28,
GO get that FREEDOM- GOOOO! But don't get chopped up in pieces- she isn't worth you getting chopped up!

SAB123 · Feb 6, 2009, 07:46 AM

Originally Posted by DJ28

yeah for sure, i know i will still have ups and downs but i feel like i have this new strength to just move on.

Yes you will have up and downs, but don't let your guard down because it's funny how when your feeling are down how much you miss your ex.

Originally Posted by DJ28

i dont know i guess i needed a little kick in the butt..with words.

Yes, and this is the best place to come to get that. I sure did especially from Tal. I just wish I would have listen to everyone here when I first found this site from the get go. The only thing on my mind was if she was coming back again and I probably would have taken her back if it wasn't for the people here at AMHD.

XM8 · Feb 6, 2009, 11:37 AM

Yea mate, glad you're doing OK now. You might feel down in a few days or weeks, but sh*t, are you going to let your guard down for some tart? Screw that man, she just completely shat on you to go out drinking with some creep. Plus she might have even been screwing around with him without you knowing, but that doesn't matter anymore because that slag is history. You keep your cool and take it easy, no b*tch should ever keep you down.

There are real women out there, ladies, who are the very essence of what they call love, you're bound to meet one. You know what it's like to be treated like crap, and that made you stronger now because it turned you into an even more sensetive person, who knows how to love and has real feelings. That goes very far with a lady, so think of this past relationship as not just a disaster, but also a valuable lesson, because right now, every day that you don't contact your ex-girlfriend, it only makes you stronger.

Take care buddy,

-Xm8

DJ28 · Feb 6, 2009, 01:30 PM

Originally Posted by XM8

Yea mate, glad you're doing ok now. You might feel down in a few days or weeks, but sh*t, are you gonna let your guard down for some tart? Screw that man, she just completely shat on you to go out drinking with some creep. Plus she might have even been screwing around with him without you knowing, but that doesn't matter anymore cus that slag is history. You keep your cool and take it easy, no b*tch should ever keep you down.

There are real women out there, ladies, who are the very essence of what they call love, you're bound to meet one. You know what it's like to be treated like crap, and that made you stronger now because it turned you into an even more sensetive person, who knows how to love and has real feelings. That goes very far with a lady, so think of this past relationship as not just a disaster, but also a valuable lesson, 'cus right now, every day that you don't contact your ex-girlfriend, it only makes you stronger.

Take care buddy,

-Xm8

Must spread some rep, but thanks for the kind words. Yeah weekends I think will be the hardest knowing she is out and about but I will keep myself extra busy during the weekends to keep my mind off her. I've been telling myself all day and questioning as to why I ever stayed friends with her. I mean then all this happens and it makes me wonder even more as to why because she didn't even try one single bit to keep this friendship going, not even a please or anything. Honestly I don't think she cares one bit, sop why would I even want to try to be friends with someone who doesn't care about me or my friendship. Freakin pitiful. Ohh well life goes on and I know I'm the better person in this.