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govindchaskar · Nov 24, 2008, 11:32 PM

Hi

This govind from pune , I like one girl from my place and she also like me , our cast also same but she is from deshmuk kul and I am not , the problem is that her father wants to marry her in deshmukh kul only , the issue is so short but al thing base on relegious .

So how I can convience them so they agree, girl can't oppose her father as she not have that much dare

Clough · Nov 25, 2008, 12:25 AM

Hi, govind!

Without knowing how things normally work in your culture, it's difficult to answer your question. Would you please share with us how things concerning marriage normally work in your culture?

For instance, is there a reason that it would be improper for you to marry his daughter?

Thanks!

govindchaskar · Nov 25, 2008, 01:05 AM

Culture means just they believe in the deshmukh kul , they have their own logic of doing tha

Clough · Nov 25, 2008, 01:06 AM

Hi, Govind!

But, what about the following question that I asked?

For instance, is there a reason that it would be improper for you to marry his daughter?

Thanks!

Clough · Nov 25, 2008, 01:15 AM

I'm sorry, Govind! But, my connection to the Internet has just become incredibly slow and I keep getting getting disconnected because of the phone line. I'll have to get off the Internet now and re-start my computer later. I will return sometime, though.

Thanks!

govindchaskar · Nov 25, 2008, 01:20 AM

[QUOTE=Clough;1392861]I'm sorry, Govind! But, my connection to the Internet has just become incredibly slow and I keep getting getting disconnected because of the phone line. I'll have to get off the Internet now and re-start my computer later. I will return sometime, though.

Thanks![/QUOTE

They have their own faith in the having or searching the groom with deshmukh kul and all the people of deshmukh kul believe that in same way ,

But as girls to like me I don't feel this is big issue but how to convience that is problem

Clough · Nov 25, 2008, 04:01 AM

Thanks for the explanation, Govind!

Have you spoken with her father?

govindchaskar · Nov 30, 2008, 09:33 PM

Originally Posted by Clough

Thanks for the explanation, Govind!

Have you spoken with her father?

No my relative spoke with them no positive reply

Clough · Dec 1, 2008, 03:40 AM

Originally Posted by govindchaskar

no my relative spoke with them no positive reply

Maybe it would be best if you spoke personally with them then. Doing that would show that you have some courage and conviction in your heart as to your intent. If you do so personally, then they might think more highly of you and also give things some thought, perhaps positively, concerning that which you're wanting to do.

What do you think, please?

Thanks!

Fr_Chuck · Dec 1, 2008, 05:01 AM

In some society it would not be proper for him to talk directly to the father. So that could be an insult, but that is for him to know their customs.

But have someone ask what he would need to consider you. If you would agree and do everything he asked ?

govindchaskar · Dec 5, 2008, 07:47 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Maybe it would be best if you spoke personally with them then. Doing that would show that you have some courage and conviction in your heart as to your intent. If you do so personally, then they might think more highly of you and also give things some thought, perhaps positively, concerning that which you're wanting to do.

What do you think, please?

Thanks!

I don't know how they will react on this ,but I will try ones , hope I will get success.