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bsd_tector · Nov 23, 2008, 02:24 PM

Hey T-123,
Sometimes Facebook goes down and it's impossible to do anything. I just tried to change my status and it seems to be working.
Click "Profile" along the top banner. When that page appears, look on the left hand side to "Information". Click onto the blue "edit" box which looks like a pencil. Click "Edit Information" When that page appears click onto the "Relationship Status" bar and scroll to the one that suits you. You have to "Save" your choice with the blue tab at the bottom of the page. I hope that helps.
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roxypox · Nov 23, 2008, 02:40 PM

I think its prob ably hard b\c if you don't change it to single or nothing you might still hope that there is a chance. When I broke up with my boyfriend I found it hard as well... mostly b\c I wasn't ready to talk to other people about it and the moment you change it to single people ask questions. Hehe which they did once I did change it.

Hope you figure it out though! :)

talaniman · Nov 23, 2008, 03:52 PM

Change the darn thing, and be done with it.

Can you make it "looking!"

talaniman · Nov 23, 2008, 03:56 PM

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h0llister · Nov 23, 2008, 04:35 PM

I had that problem as well, just edit your status to be hidden. And eventually you will want people to see that you are single :)

h0llister · Nov 23, 2008, 04:42 PM

What's going to happen once you leave?. the distance is going to make it hard again and the same thing is going to happen. Maybe try and work on when you 2 can actually be together( like living together) and plan ahead, opposed to planning what's going to happen right now.

h0llister · Nov 23, 2008, 04:47 PM

Why do u have so many threads with the same questions?. most people who answers questions on here are regulars. Just stay to 1 post, don't worry we will still answer it :)

talaniman · Nov 23, 2008, 05:15 PM

Read this and compare it to what has been discussed between you. Have you done any of these things??

Long Distance Relationship Advice | The Frisky

turtleneck123 · Nov 23, 2008, 05:30 PM

As bad as it sounds, something in me just doesn't want to cut it off completely and thinks there is something. But I know trying to get her back is a bad idea, just one of those things that pops in my head every now and then

LifeChangesMan · Nov 23, 2008, 06:06 PM

I wouldn't go man, it'll make you a mess, I know your hoping to spark things back up and everything but, I think she would've tried to send you some signs and such if that was the case. Do what you think is right for you, if you feel you NEED to see her one last time or give it one last shot, hell go for it pal. And best of luck to you.

turtleneck123 · Nov 23, 2008, 06:15 PM

What kind of signs? She broke the silence, said she loves me and just needs her time, and really glad I decided to come see her. I don't know what kind of signs she could give. She kept saying its not over but just needs time. I thought flying me up, staying with her and her family meant something, but now I don't know anymore. She says it'll just be us like it always is when I'm up there. If she had intentions of moving on, why would she do this?

LifeChangesMan · Nov 23, 2008, 06:21 PM

I would go then, I would say expect nothing though. Let her come onto you or show interest let her say I love you first crap like that, don't pressure her, let her sit next to you instead of you going to sit next to her, act like it's a first date.

turtleneck123 · Nov 23, 2008, 06:33 PM

That's all there. Its just she doesn't know if she can do another 2 years of distance after we already did 3.5. I'm just finding it tough to get how someone could give up

LifeChangesMan · Nov 23, 2008, 07:03 PM

Starting to sound like you simply have unanswered questions, if you don't get your answers while your there before you leave I would ask for your own sake.

turtleneck123 · Nov 23, 2008, 07:19 PM

Its driving me nuts. She doesn't want to cut ties, doesn't want to just be friends. It would be great if she realized by the time I was there that she wanted to be wit me, because otherwise, I'm hoping for my own sanity, that I'm over it by then

Romefalls19 · Nov 24, 2008, 06:23 AM

Just do it

turtleneck123 · Nov 24, 2008, 09:01 AM

How does someone find it in themselves to not communicate with you after 3 and a half years? Its killing me, but I can't initiate contact. I wonder if its bothering her or if its been easy just to not talk to me? What positive things do time do for a relationship?

talaniman · Nov 24, 2008, 11:26 AM

what positive things do time do for a relationship?

BABIES A MORTGAGE AND A DOG! If the relationship is strong enough to survive time and adversity.

talaniman · Nov 24, 2008, 11:33 AM

turtleneck123;1391212how does someone find it in themselves to not communicate with you after 3 and a half years?

Her feeling have changed and she has had time to heal and move in another direction, as this was no shock to her as it is to you. She has been thinking of this break up long enough to be ready to deal with it. Give yourself time and so will you.

its killing me, but I can't initiate contact.

Yeah, that happens at first and as hard as it is, stick with NO CONTACT what so ever!

I wonder if its bothering her or if its been easy just to not talk to me?

Obviously not any more. Your on your own. Been there done that, a long time ago, and I know how much it sucks!

thadevilsadvocate · Nov 24, 2008, 12:04 PM

Turtle, I will tell you right now that you will make yourself go crazy the rest of your life, by wondering how someone could just give up. The point you are missing here is that they aren't JUST giving up, they gave up a while ago, but naturally they were holding on because they didn't want to have to ever face that they may have let go of something good. It is hard for you to see that she let go, because you are so far in love yourself, and because you were willing to over look many possible warning signs, because you would never want to believe that the end was a possibility, and that is natural and is what we all think when we are in relationships. The simple fact that she is willing to give up on the relationship at all, instead of doing whatever it takes to make it work, is the most simple and clear sign that her heart is not completely in it. Do you want a relationship with someone that is only going to have part of their heart in it? Do you want to make 70% of an investment with someone, when you are the only getting a 50% return, while they are putting only 50% and getting the same return you are?

You are willing to do whatever it takes and that is an amazing trait, and in many cases a sign of maturity. As far as love goes, you are mature enough to see that love does not come easy and that you will need to work hard and invest a lot, and unfortunately, she isn't there yet. Some people never get there, but trust me, there are many women in this world that are on that same level and understand those same things, and are going to be willing to invest as much as you will, and that will make a great relationship for you. Is your ex making a mistake? Yes, I think she is, but that is something that she is going to have to see on her own... or something that she may never see... but you have a life t live and you need to start doing it.