[kitten420]

My boyfriend and I live together and we enjoy intercourse with each other, we will have sex 1-3 times a day or every two days. Now my question is with having all this intercourse can it cause my vigina to become a little loose because when we first started having sex it was really tight and now it seems as though its loose. Can this happen? And if so are there ways to make it tighter? ;) Does anyone also know any new postitions that are enjoyable in the sack? Or even some fun and crazy new things to try or placed perhaps? And if in fact I can get loose from too much sex with him are there any positions that make the viginia feel tighter?

[TexasParent]

Well there is a muscle you can exercise, and I read once that you can take something pen sized. Make sure it is sterilized or put a condom over it and insert in your vagina about an inch and squeeze it over and over.

You can do this exercise without the pen sized object, but that is how I heard it described.

However, you need a chance for your tissues and muscles to return to their natual state; if you want to be tighter; you could take a break from penetration for a bit, while you do the exercises.

As for making your vagina feel tighter for him and you, just try squeezing those muscles while you are having intercourse. That is the most quick short term solution.

Also, if you use a vibrator or dildo I would give it a rest for a while too if you want the tissues return to normal.

[Choux]

Did he tell you you get "loose"?

I wouldn't believe that for a second if I never had a child. He might like the tightness of his hand too much.

Get a book on how you can use your genitals to please yourself and as a consequence, please your partner. :D

Your partner needs a book on how to be a great stick man. It's not about inandout, inandout, pump, pump, pump...

[Alty]

Try doing Kegel's, that's what TP described. You don't need any object in order to do this exercise, in fact, you can do them while typing a post to us. :)

Here's some info;

Kegel exercises: How to strengthen pelvic floor muscles - MayoClinic.com

As you'll read, it also helps with many other things.

And side note. Of course you're looser, you're having sex, you are no longer a virgin and therefore you're no longer as tight as you used to be. When you have children, you'll get even looser than you are now.

Learn to control your muscles, this loosening is natural. New flash, one day your breasts will sag too. Nothing remains as it is forever.

Good luck.

[linnealand]

are there any positions that make the viginia feel tighter?

I agree with the other posts.

Flexing your muscles during sex can be extremely pleasurable to both you and your partner. Just as exercise strengthens tightens the muscles you're working, your vaginal muscles will also get stronger long term.

I think the most quick temporary solution to feeling super tight is to squeeze your thighs together and keep tensing your muscles. This method can simply be added to various positions that you're probably doing already.

[kitten420]

Not to brag or anything but he is very good in the sack might I add. He has never complained or anything but I asked him if I was and he said not really but it isn't as tight as it used to be . And I was just curious if there were any positions or anything that makes it feel tighter. Thanks though for the info I will keep reding your posts with ideas.

[kitten420]

Try doing Kegel's, that's what TP described. You don't need any object in order to do this excercise, in fact, you can do them while typing a post to us. :)

Here's some info;

Kegel exercises: How to strengthen pelvic floor muscles - MayoClinic.com

As you'll read, it also helps with many other things.

And side note. Of course you're looser, you're having sex, you are no longer a virgin and therefore you're no longer as tight as you used to be. When you have children, you'll get even looser than you are now.

Learn to control your muscles, this loosening is natural. New flash, one day your breasts will sag too. Nothing remains as it is forever.

Good luck.

Lol thanks

[smoothy]

You don't get "loose" by having sex. Its all about mussle tone.

And its really not about having kids either. A couple of the tightest women I ever dated had kids... one had three the other four.

Conversely the loosest woman I ever dated had NO kids at all.

Being loose is not always a bad thing... and being tight isn't always good.

Its almost impossible to have a long lovemaking session (say 45 minutes or longer) with a really tight woman...
While you can do it a lot easier a lot longer with a looser woman.

And who really likes 5 minute get in , get off, get out sessions?

[kitten420]

You don't get "loose" by having sex. Its all about mussle tone.

And its really not about having kids either. A couple of the tightest women I ever dated had kids...one had three the other four.

Conversely the loosest woman I ever dated had NO kids at all.

Being loose is not always a bad thing...and being tight isn't always good.

Its almost impossible to have a long lovemaking session (say 45 minutes or longer) with a really tight woman...
while you can do it a lot easier a lot longer with a looser woman.

And who really likes 5 minute get in , get off, get out sessions?

Hmm very interesting. So if my boyfriend isn't complaining about it shld I just let it go? We have sex though like 1 to 2 times a day or every two days. And in result this will not make me looser then what I was?? Do you know any positions that make the viginia feel tighter.

[smoothy]

hmm very interesting. so if my boyfriend isnt complaining bout it shld i just let it go? we have sex tho like 1 to 2 times a day or every two days. and in result this will not make me looser then what i was??? do you kno any positions that make the viginia feel tighter.

THere is a lot of range with women and tightness As has been mentioned is keigle exercises. Not a bad thing for any woman as she gets older for other reasons unrelated to sex.

It is totally possible to learn to control and strengthen those mussles. I once dated a young woman that had both the strength and control she could clamp down hard enough to almost make intercourse impossible (shhe could clamp down about half as hard as a hand can). However outside of that talent and average decent looks she didn't have much going for her in the personality department. Not all women can or will ever be able to do that... but some improvement in control most certainly is. And that's the same mussle group that lets you hold your pee when you jump up and down or run.

As far as positions try different ones... see what works best for both of you. Don't worry about having to feel tight. He's going to love it however you do it. If he complains you are too loose... get a new boyfriend that's more considerate. A good guy doesn't pick his girlfriend on how tight she is or isn't... nor would he leave one for those same reasons.

[kitten420]

Yea I know. He don't complain abut it at all. I had asked him once and he said I wasn't as tight as before but it isn't a bad thing. But I was just curious because I felt like I wasn't tight as I used to be. But the sex is still great. Lol :)

[smoothy]

When you get really relaxed the tightness will subside... but you can clamp down if you have learned to control that mussel group concensly.

Sounds totally normal to me.