[TOO SWEET]

I have the perfect guy and I have been hurt in the past and I have been told I should open up to this man and take that wall down, but how do I know that and when do I know that I am ready. Deep down inside I am scared as heck.:confused:

[bigbird213]

You called him the perfect guy -- You must think that for a reason.

Sometimes you never know unless you take a chance.

Is it worth living always thinking "what if"? This guy isn't anyone from your past -- don't let people from your past influence the way you are seeing your present.

[jolienoire]

I have the perfect guy and I have been hurt in the past and I have been told I should open up to this man and take that wall down, but how do I know that and when do I know that i am ready. Deep down inside i am scared as heck.:confused:

Take things slowly, don't try so hard to not let things happen because of your fears, because then the relationship is doomed from the start the only way to know if he is that someone is to be yourself, not hold back and give it a shot, that doesn't mean you have to rush into it, take your time. Don't hold against him your past relationship. On the other note, if you still are dwelling over a past hurt, then you are not ready to move forward into a relationship. In order to accomplish this new relationship you have to be willing and open to possibly falling in Love and have to accept the fact that what happened before was before, and believe me if it happens again you will be prepared for it, but at least give it a try you don't want to live your life in What if's just as the previous person said.
Good luck

[TOO SWEET]

Take things slowly, don't try so hard to not let things happen because of your fears, because then the relationship is doomed from the start the only way to know if he is that someone is to be yourself, not hold back and give it a shot, that doesn't mean you have to rush into it, take your time. Don't hold against him your past relationship. On the other note, if you still are dwelling over a past hurt, then you are not ready to move forward into a relationship. In order to accomplish this new relationship you have to be willing and open to possibly falling in Love and have to accept the fact that what happened before was before, and believe me if it happens again you will be prepared for it, but atleast give it a try you don't want to live your life in What if's just as the previous person said.
Good luck

Thank you very much.

[Romefalls19]

Take pleasure in the time together, if he is the right guy your wall will fall without you knowing it

[talaniman]

How long have you known this perfect guy, and how long have you been dating??

[ylaira]

Depending on your healing capacity, the reason you're scared and your new guy. When you got a trust issues, it will take loooooooong time to heal. Take it easy, slow down with this "perfect guy" and be more open to him what happened in your past relationship, how deep it hurt you. Don't be repeatative but it will give him understanding where are you coming from. Fight your negative thoughts. Always. Write a journal about positivity.

If he really likes you and just thinks that "you are just traumatized", he will be patient.

[chuff]

You said you have the perfect guy, and I have to tell you I didn't realize we were going out.

But in all seriousness, if he's the perfect guy he doesn't care that you've been hurt in the past, he's just thrilled to finally show you how a real man is with a woman. Take it slow and learn about each other as time passes. The perfect guy doesn't need you to fall for him right now, he'll prove it over time. Your roll isn't to hold on to fear from others but give him the chance he's asked for.

[friend4u178]

Sometimes leaving a wall up can make it real hard to climb all the time.

If he's the perfect guy why leave it up. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

[talaniman]

The bad thing about walls, they keep others out, and you in, alone.

[HistorianChick]

Trust is one of the hardest things to give, but without it, a relationship will lack the depth that only comes through trusting.

Its like when you were a kid and you had that two stick popsicle. Remember those? You and your friend were sitting there looking at the bright red (my favorite, because it colored your lips red and made it look like you had lipstick on! :) ) popiscle. You both grab a stick and *snap* its now in two and you're sharing the sticky sweetness of a summer delight.

On the basic level, sharing your popsicle is just like trusting someone with your past. Granted, it is very simplistic as an example, but if you keep your popsicle to yourself, sure, your lips may be that pretty red for a while, but your friend is sitting there, hot and sticky in the summer sun... and soon, your friend begins to resent the fact that you have that cool popiscle and aren't sharing.

Trust is letting your partner share your popsicle. Its giving a part of you, something that you could keep to yourself and be fine, but choosing to share... and by sharing, your relationship is deepened... and you might even get a BFF necklace!

Trust is one of those things that you never know what will come from it, but the freedom and security that results from it is well worth the risk.

Break off that popsicle and give him a taste. Like friend4u said, "nothing ventured, nothing gained."

A popsicle not shared is simply a summer treat. When you share a popsicle, its like a summer vacation for friends wrapped up in a sticky package.

Hopefully, my little analogy isn't all in my head... that happens a lot... ;)