[rebrage]

Ok well she got on the depo shot about 10 months ago and has pretty much been bleeding ever since. She is worried that she may not be able to get pregnant, she is stressed out, depressed. So there is a lot there I know. However, I don't understand how a woman under the age of 25 isn't sexually active or doesn't want it. She says that she wants to want it which I also don't understand. Ok, I don't understand any of it. I was hoping that someone could shed some light on the situation. Please all feedback is needed.

[rebrage]

This is my girlfriend and she is just as worried as I am

[Xrayman]

Okay so the words

depo shot about 10 months ago and has pretty much been bleeding ever since. She is worried that she may not be able to get pregnant, she is stressed out, depressed. So there is a lot there I know.

Don't mean anything to you? You can't make the connection?

Deprovera is a strong hormonal drug used to prevent ovulation/conception therefore I'd hazard a guess that the drug is causing a HUGE majority of her problems, that coupled with your lack of understanding of what seem to be upsetting issues for her. I'd (if I were you) try to be a little more understanding until the depo wears off, then use another (non-hormonal form of contraception).
Good luck

[ylaira]

this is my girlfriend and she is just as worried as I am

I do apologize but tone of your post sounds like you are more concern that your sexlife is affected than her health.You should be with her when she visits a doctor so you'll aware on what to expect. Don't be selfish.

[ISneezeFunny]

Um... has she been to the doc in the past 10 months... concerning the bleeding?

[Synnen]

Honey, I'd be waaaaaay more concerned about the bleeding than about your sex life.

It's a little hard to want to get intimate when you're leaking blood, sad, hormonal, stressed and have a boyfriend that's pressuring you about wanting sex even though you are having OBVIOUS health issues--which, really, leads to more depression and more stress.

Get her to the doctor, suggest she try a different birth control, and STOP worrying about sex until she's healthy again.

I suggest you tell her to whack you in the balls every day with a ball peen hammer and then ask you for sex--you might get the idea of how SHE is feeling VERY shortly after that treatment starts.

[margarita_momma]

I was put on the depo shot about 4 years ago. It really screwed me up. A lot of women can't handle the hormonal changes that it causes. I went into depression and it does cause a drop in your sex drive if you are not compatible with it. I also bled the entire time I was on it. Its not her fault and it has nothing to do with her age. She needs to be put on something else.

[0rphan]

This is obviously all down to the depo shots... afecting her hormone balance and decreasing sex drive.

She needs to go back to the GP, sort out the hormone imbalance and the bleeding which I suspect is all connected.

Tell him how she's feeling and act on his advice. He'll probably do a blood test for a hormone reading and treat her accordingly where I'm sure given time will sort everything back to normal.

[kp2171]

You aren't a jerk for wanting a healthy sex life. She wants it too and is frustrated. Most don't come here asking about sex when they are calm and collected. Many are frazzled, off balance, and even scared.

Doesn't mean the OP'er isn't a selfish punk... or he might just be confused, unsure, and uneducated about a woman's drive.

The things that affect libido are numerous... overall physical health, mental health, drugs, meds, stress, hormone levels, and on and on...

And one of the most common things that is overlooked for many (men and women) is hormone levels.

Wanting to have sex isn't enough for good sex. Wanting an orgasm isn't enough to get to it. If my partner is stressed, tired, worried, etc... she might damn well want that big O but she can't get there.

Likewise, hormone treatment has been known to "correct" decreased libido in some women... and since she is on meds that screw with her hormones, id suggest, as others have, for her to talk to her doctor about alternative birth control... and the possibility of her off meds completely and you using a condom.

Outside of the meds screwing with her system, stress, anxiety, other relationship issues compound the problem. So... treat her well (doesnt mean get walked on), develop all areas of the relationship, including helping her take control of her body... if meds aren't working as desired she needs to be willing to talk to her doctor.

One of the most important things a young woman can do for herself is to empower herself in being in control of her body. This might mean demanding more from her doctor. It might mean asking you to take on the burden of birth control. It might mean you both find ways to talk about sex without it being your feeling neglected and her feeling outside her own body.

Glad you came. Glad you are looking for answers. Its OK, even healthy, to be a little selfish in most areas of your relationship... that also means you might need to push her to seek the help she clearly needs concerning bleeding and potentially problems with hormone levels.

[Choux]

Just a bit of personal info... I couldn't stand to have sex when I was "bleeding". It was painful both psychically and physically... the poor girl has to go to an obgyn and get herself fixed up in all respects... also, get a referral to a therapist if she doesn't have one because birth control prevents conception, and she is complaining about perhaps not being able to conceive in the future. I think the birth control has thrown her for a loop... upset her emotionally primarily, and also causing too much bleeding and emotional changes.

Perhaps, then, she can find the will to turn this around and be positive. :)

Best wishes,