[blueman1388]

Were to start. Hmmm.
Me and my ex had been seeing each other for a little over 2 years. At the beginning of the realationship I didn't really have feelings for her but she kept knocking and I finally let her in. Eventually the feeling were there as I fell deeper and deeper in love with her. We lived together and did everything with each other. But before I really started liking her I didn't treat her very good, I was abusive and very stupid. It was the first time she broke up with me that I realized I really loved this girl. Anyway about 2 months after our 2nd year anneversary she broke up with me. She told me she just wanted to be single and do it on her own for awhile. At the beginning of the breakup she always would tell me we are going to be back together again someday. But as we got farther in she decided to take all that back and act like she never wanted me again. When we would hang out we would still kiss and everything but no sex. Then I found out she liked someone else. I was crushed. I played the part of the sad puppy calling her all the time. Now I regrett all that. But anyway we ended up hanging out and getting back together. I asked her before we even started the realationship again if this is what she wants. She told me yes. The realationship was flawless for 2 weeks. Then it happened again. She started being mean about thinks and told me she doesn't want a commitment right now or have to answer to anyone. And here is where I lay confused. We were so happy together and she knows it. The 2 nights before we broke up she had went out to the bar with some friends and after those 2 days she started being mean and I hadn't seen her after either night(after the 1st break up with moved into seprerate places).I don't know if I drover her away with my questions or not. I get very curiouse and I think that might be were I go wrong, I'm was just so scared of losing her. But the day before she went out we were very happy and she left with a big smile on her face. Its only been 2 weeks since we've been broken up but she already likes someone else again. I have already expressed how much she means to me and how much I love her but I never really get anything back. Now she's living with one of her friends. I've asked her numerous time if it was me and she always said no it was her she's messed up in the head right now. She still wants to be friends but that's what kills me, she makes it seem like its so easy for her and she makes it seem like she is already over me. Do you think she misses me now that she has no time on her hands? Or do you think she will come back? And what can I do to help.

[Lost43Captain]

It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Perhaps she's not mature enough for a relationship, and for that matter, are you?

Do you really want somebody back that treats you like this? Why? Because she's it, or the best you can get... right now... as the sad puppy?

You need to cut it off. No being friends, Fu@k buddies, no hang-out hookups.
Focus on you, not her and what she's doing/not doing.

Be the best you, you can be. Go out, take up a hobby, reconnect with old friends and try to move forward.

I'll bet when you do cut ties and move forward, she pout, get ticked and try to come back.
What ever you do... don't take her back. Prove you can do better and that you deserve better respect and treatment. Maybe she'll not screw up with the next puppy.

[talaniman]

Time to move on with your life, and the best way to do that, is to cut the contact completely. NO CONTACT whatsoever.

[nickshehe]

^^ they are right..
As much as I'd love it if my ex came back to me and as much as I really want to be with her, she doesn't deserve me after the way I've been treated.
So there's no way I'm allowing her my friendship or letting her know I love her.
I cut off contact 2.5 weeks ago without even warning her.. let her wonder what I'm up too.

[jpm247]

Amen to that Nick.

If you stay in their life as anything less than you were before, you will continue to hurt if you want more than they can offer.

Go NC, and try your best to keep looking forward without her.