[sgrsweetmon123]

I been together with my boyfriend going on a year. And I have never given oral sex before and he has asked me a few times because he has done me before. And I don't know how to perform it?? I need help fast because I would like to satisfy him the way he does me.

[excon]

Hello sgr:

I presume you're asking how to do it? Rent a porn film and do what they're doing. It's not rocket science. You can learn it.

excon

[ScottGem]

It's not rocket science. You can learn it.

Umm but doesn't that involve getting him to take off?

Sorry, but I couldn't resist <EG>

[talaniman]

Practice makes perfect, just watch his reactions, and stay with what works best.

[Choux]

I've told this story before here, but the first time I had sex, my boyfriend asked me for a bl** ***(what we called it then)... I was 21 and a virgin, so I just gave it the old college try... when I hear, " It's not a corncob!"... and laughter. I laughed, too! So, I agree that you need some direction before you begin.

So, start sucking and tonguing the end of his penis... and ask for directions from there. Trial and error, practice, practice practice... just like everything in life. :)

By the way, you better be in your twenties!

[sgrsweetmon123]

Well I am 19 going to be 20 in August.
Thanks for your help!

[smoothy]

Rent a movie and watch... there really is no one right way or wrong way to do it. Practice makes perfect and trust me most guys appreciate the effort even if you haven't quite mastered it yet.

[plonak]

Hey,

Here's a little hint.. TALK to HIM! Ask him what he likes.. and tell him you're new at it.. he will like to here it!
Also.. another hint.. he needs a little friction while you're sucking.. put one hand on his penis and move it up and down in conjunction with your sucking.. and put your tongue at the under tip of his foreskin, there are a lot of nerves there. It sounds complicated.. but there are many many ways to please him. And the more you do it.. the better you get! Good luck!

[Izannah]

Hey,

Here's a little hint.. TALK to HIM!! ask him what he likes.. and tell him you're new at it.. he will like to here it!

Exactly... just ask him what he would like you to do. There are different ways to do everything and there may be some things he really likes... and some things that may "ruin the moment" for him. Just have him to tell you (specifically) what he wants you to try and discover how to do it together. ;)

[Alty]

Just don't bite down!

[templelane]

If you don't want to rent a movie you can get adult sexuality books that are really good or women's magazines usually have instructions and tips. I find women's magazines are really good for this sort of thing and for other ideas, and they are usually not too graphic.

[smoothy]

There are actually a couple videos specifically for women for this purpose. Technically they are for how to deep throat but the techniques apply to the rest of the act as well. I do not remember the names of the titles but both are decent if you can find them.

[soltera]

Ask him to demonstrate it to you by letting him lick your ring finger... do it while he tries to demo... it's exciting!

[smoothy]

ask him to demonstrate it to you by letting him lick your ring finger...do it while he tries to demo...it's exciting!

That might be hard to do... knowing what feels good on the receiving end will not equate to knowing how to do it.

[kp2171]

The worst bj I ever had was pretty damn good... meaning even if you don't know what you are doing, it'll probably be great for him.

Lots of different things you can do... but some personal suggestions...

Three positions I love for receiving oral

1) guy standing, girl sitting on a chair. Why its good... he can see you clearly, and its great to watch. The angle is good, you are comfortable, and his "guys" (testes) will move forward and back, adding to the sensations. With one hand grabbing him near the base (where his shaft meets his torso) push and pull the foreskin over the head of the penis. Some women don't understand you can grab firmly and not hurt the man. Also, pulling the foreskin over the head is great stimulation. With your hand in place, follow the movement with your mouth. Keeping your mouth close to your hands gives the sensation of you taking him in deeper than you are, which is good for him. Follow his lead... in general, slower, wetter movements are great.. if I need more movement, I can move my hips. In the seated position you can also take your shirt off and have his hand on your chest. If it doesn't drive him mad to have him in your mouth and have his hand on you, he's got some serious issues.

Added bonus: with him in your hand and mouth, use your other hand to cradle and tug at his "guys"... this can be really intense. Might feel silly to you, but simply moving or gently pulling at them can greatly increase the intensity of sensations.

2) man on bed, back on matress. Approach him from alongside, with your rear facing his head, kneeling alongside him. Why is this good? In contrast to your being near his knees, you are closer to his upper body. Again, he can run his hands over your back, rear, and chest, all while feeling you take him in your mouth. I think the approach from "above" with the woman's tongue sliding over the top of the head feels more "lush", but maybe that's just me. Again... grip well with one hand, follow your hand with your mouth, and don't be afraid to pull hard. I think the pull of the foreskin is often more important that the sliding down the shaft. Again... just my opinion.

3) 69. Some couples can both benefit from this. My partner is fine with the position, but doesn't want me to "mess" with her orally while she's going down on me. Its too distracting for her. From the guys perspective, with the woman on top, he gets great oral stim while being able to feel your back and arse from a great position.

Last note... lots of debate goes around about "swallow" or "spit"... my opinion... a mediocre bj that finishes at the mouth often beats a great bj that finishes at hand only. Now... I didn't say "swallow"... I said at the mouth.

It feels much more "lush" when the lips are involved. Just the truth. My partner tends to finish at the mouth and not swallow, and I don't give a damn one bit. And if it icks you out too much, don't pressure yourself to do anything you don't want to do. Its not worth it. That said... the orgasms with her hand alone are less intense than with hand and mouth.

So... all this said. What about you? If he's willing to receice oral, is he willing to give? If not, it isn't balanced. Oral on a woman is more complicated, but one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm. If a gun were placed to my head and I was told to get a woman off or else, id use my mouth. Period.

So don't be afraid to ask for something in return. The kicker is it takes more work for the woman, and guys are often impatient. Don't ever be afraid to ask for what you want "softer, harder, lick here, etc" and don't be afraid to use your own fingers to self stimulate.

Have fun and be safe.

[chuff]

It's a BJ. If you don't use your teeth he won't care.

[kp2171]

Altenweg agrees: Now I'm horny. Thanks KP!

See... THOSE are the three little words a man wants to hear. ;)

[Alty]

My man's at work, I am left to my own devices. ;)

[excon]

My man's at work, I am left to my own devices. ;)

Hello:

Ooooh, ooooh, now I'M horny.

excon

[Alty]

Hello:

Ooooh, ooooh, now I'M horny.

excon

Glad I could help. ;)