[zzavorcha]

I seem to have a problem when I meet a woman.
I'm shy so it's difficult to come up with something to say, however when I do get nerve and initiate conversation I think things are going decent. We talk a little and they seem to like the person I am, they say things that give me the impresion they would like to see me again, we exchange numbers and sometimes e-mail addresses but they don't contact me after that or return my contacts. So I'm looking for some advice on why this could be. All I want is someone to give me a chance and they won't.

[fredg]

Hi,
When you say "you talk", do you mean you talk about yourself?
Why not try listening to the other person, instead of talking about yourself?
Ask her questions about her, and listen to her. Eventually, you will know much about her, and then she in turn, might ask you something about yourself.
Being interested in her will get you many more points than talking about yourself. Try it, see how it goes. Best of luck.

[Chery]

Hi dear, welcome to the forum.

Fredg is right - try not to talk about yourself too much, especially dumping previous relationships on them - this might ward them off too.
Then, also don't bombard them with banalities every day, that's acting needy - and will come across as weak.

Keep it casual at first, and talk about things of interest to her - so in general find out what her likes are first, and then evaluate if you have the same interests.

Find that comon interest and invite her to specific functions - that's better than just bothering her with emails and phonecalls that don't have much content.

Also, sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it.

Good luck, and keep us posted.



Find some new restaurant or other place of interest - make plans for common interests.

[Wildcat21]

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