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    Mar 20, 2008, 04:55 PM
    Dealing with a breakup with a nasty twist!
    Hello everyone,

    Me and my girlfriend of just over two years split up a little over a week ago after many months of us both not being happy with the relationship. So... overall I am feeling pretty happy that we are out of that now and can both start to move on and become happy again; apart from all the down moments where the world suddenly becomes a lonely horrid place!!

    However... we are currently living in rented accommodation and are in contract until the end of August. This makes it extremely awkward as at the moment we are both living together and despite spending quite a lot of time away from the house it is so difficult to get over her as much of the time everything feels how it was before! Also it is killing me seeing her send a text message or such like and me sitting there thinking "is she texting her next man"... etc. I cannot afford to live her alone and so need her to stay and she does not want to live her on her own; plus the only option for me if I were to move out would be to go and live with my parents again... something that I am not particularly keen on doing!

    What does everyone think would be best? Should we continue to live together or should I encourage her to move out and suffer financially?
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    Mar 20, 2008, 05:13 PM
    Well too start I want to say Wow 2 years That is Along time With someone and I'm Going to Cooto You for that (congrats) But by the way you talk about her... it makes you seem like you still need her Or love Her I don't understand fully Why you'd lost interest in each other and the Hole living together Doesn't help much but I don't think she would be texting another guy she was with you for so long I don't see a human being able to get over someone that fast I mean its just nature Ever think About trying again? I mean working it out you were together for 2 years maybe you need some space time alone if you spend too much time with a person they could irrate you so take a break go out somewhere for yourself I mean still be together but don't spend all the time together? I don't really think you should leave each other unless you have a lot of aggressive issues
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    Mar 20, 2008, 05:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by PopcornSunshineKisses
    Well too start i want to say Wow 2 years That is Along time With someone and im Going to Cooto You for that (congrats) But by the way you talk about her ... it makes you seem like you still need her Or love Her I dont understand fully Why youd lost interest in eachother and the Hole living together Doesnt help much but i dont think she would be texting another guy she was with you for so long i dont see a human being able to get over someone that fast i mean its just nature Ever think About trying again? i mean working it out you were together for 2 years maybe you need some space time alone if you spend to much time with a person they could irrate you so take a break go out somewhere for yourself i mean still be together but dont spend all the time together? i dont really think you should leave eachother unless you have alot of agressive issues
    No... like I mentioned we have not been happy for many months and have nearly split up many times before but decided to 'try again'... this time it has to be for real! It is not healthy for either of us to keep going like we have been!
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    Mar 20, 2008, 05:49 PM
    That is true Ive been in something with the same issues of not being happy for months maybe space away from each other will help realize that eather you need each other because you care for one another and miss each other or maybe you'll except the fact both of you and be able to move on but if you have no where to go go out of the house more ? It won't help much living together

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