[hurtlikehell]

Right.. this might sound stupid.. but I am really hurt because of a girl who I met two weeks before! In a club: I baught her drinks and we started talking.. it was really nice time I had with her... I ended up in her place and we did it... in the morning we were talking nice romantic things and I left... after one day I text her asking for a coffee and she replied I was too rude and she doesnot want to keep in touch... I was startled and called her and asked what's the matter... she said.. nothing serious.. its all right.. and that I'm a nice guy but she is afraid of meeting me as she thinks I took advantage by having sex... I was sad and disturbed as I really liked.. her from the first moment I met her and now without any reason she seems to hate me... should I try to contact her and explain that I went to her place only because she asked me to.. and I'm not the taking advantage type... I'm 27 and matured enough.. she was 24 tooo... help!

[Bosslady1]

Don't be so hard on yourself hurtlikehell... I'm a female and trust me, there's another reason behind this issue and I don't think it has anything to do with you. She may have been blasted by the drinks and is embarrassed by sleeping with you. But who knows... could be a million things. Most females would love to have someone call them especially after they slept with them on the first night. My suggestion is to move on and chalk it up to her own personal issues. Imagine, if you got together with her again what would happen f you had yet another great evening/outing and then she dumped you for no reason at all. Sounds like she has some issues and with you already liking her so much, she could really break your heart with repeated acts like this. There are tons of nice girls out here that would love to meet a nice guy like you. So try to chalk it up to a crazy experience, be happy that you had a nice evening with her and move on.

Hope this helps!

[Fr_Chuck]

Club, drinking, sex on first date, OK any body else see a theme to disaster ?

[hurtlikehell]

Thank You both... I know it seems like calling a disaster but that was not intention... also I just want to walk away without any hard feeling as we had sex with mutual consent and I was more drunk than she was as she admitted in the morning herself... Is there anyway I should make up and leave with a good conscience... at the mo it seems its better just to ignore her and move on... but still anything better?

[TrueFaith]

Why would you want to be with someone that bangs you as soon as they get a bit of drink in them.. then blame it on the drink. And not on bad judgement

Laugh at her and just put it down to a notch on your bed post. And save yourself for an honest girl

[talaniman]

She got what she wanted, and has no need for you any more. The rest of the story is a nice way of saying, bug out. End of story.

[Kruzifixxion]

Well she may just wanted to get laid man.I am seeing a girl who she really likes me and all and ,because she says that I'm not like her past ex's that only got what they wanTed and got out of dogde.I like her a lot too and well we;ver been talking for sometime now and well the second time we were together she suddenly just kissed me out of nowhere I'm wondering if she though that because I took her to my place that I was going to get in to her pant's? It bothers me because I sometimes think that she does that with any guy.

So one time we were together at the park and I told her that we should take it slow and all and she got all emotional about it.So two days later I called her and she was pissed drunk that she had gone out with this other guy and got drunk.I believe she slept with him because she was drunk.So recently this past weekend we went to a show and well I got her drunk because she wanted to get drunk so she tells me " I want to be your first one" so I was like "realy?" .So basically she makes me thinks a lot of things like I bet she does these things with other guys so I don't know what to do I really like her and all any suggestions? Thank's:confused: