[polymorpheous]

I got together with my fiancé, (or ex-fiance), during the tail end of her 3+ year herion addiction. She got clean about 3 months into the relationship and got pregnant 2 months later. On June 23rd, 2007 we had a beautiful baby girl in our lives. We both agreed that she would be a stay at home mom and I would go to work. We felt this was the best way to raise our child. Being a new couple with so many new responsibilities, we needed to see a marriage counselor.we have communication and trust issues. We've been seeing her for a year. The past several months she has been drinking daily and binge drinking on the weekends. Now she resents me for needing me and wants to be an independent single mom. She says she doesn't love me anymore and will never love me again. So she is leaving me and taking our daughter. Her behavior is much like that when she was using. I'm and our marriage counselor are afraid she is going to relapse soon. We both feel she has made an impulsive, rash decision. How can I protect my babygirl? I'm not yet on the birth certificate as the father, but she wants child support from me, so that will change. I love my fiancé and I'm scared for the welfare of my baby. Any help?

[charlotte234s]

Get an attorney, first off. Get a paternity test to prove that the baby is yours, and then talk to your attorney about getting your name as the baby's father. Then, if she leaves, you can file charges against her if she takes the baby away across state lines. If she does leave, you can file for custody,e specially on the basis that she is a drunk and a drug addict.

[tickle]

I hope she isn't drinking during the day while tending the baby. If you have proof that she is then that would be grounds for the baby being removed from the house along with her passed history of addiction.

[talaniman]

She has traded on drug, for another and that's not good, so getting custody is your best option. You need an attorney, ASAP!

[polymorpheous]

I figured out that it's not my fault my fiancé is not happy. She was obviously unhappy before I got together with her. Within a month she wanted to get married. Within three she wanted to have a baby with me. I wondered why she wanted to share these things with me so soon... she thought they would bring her happiness. She can't find it internally. I really want her to be happy and safe. As well as our child. I want us to be a family again. She can't deny she still loves me, and wants to work things out. She cut the drinking way back, (although she has binged once). She wants to seek individual counseling for herself. She is very confused now. Since my realization about her we've been communicating much better. I'm still anxious however. I'm still afraid and don't entirely trust her. Hope for the best prepare for the worst?

[talaniman]

I can only wish you luck, as it's a hard road your traveling, and maybe one day, she will appreciate what she has. For now its wise not to trust her, but take care of your child as best you can. We are I your corner if you need help or support. Good luck.