[Sunshine101]

Help!! Am in a relationship (I guess you would call it that, not sure though) Only pours it on when he's horny though. Love the attention but the "being treated like an inflatable doll that's just thrown in the corner when he's done" is getting really old. He's very, very charming and desirable and I really, really love his "sex style". Problem is WHAT CAN I DO TO GET HIM TO LOOK AT ME FOR OTHER THAN JUST SEX? Yes, I love to have sex with him. He loves to have sex with me too but gets weird after the fact. Think he's kind of a player and I can run the gamut with him if need be, just want to know what I could possibly do to make him look at me for other than just sex. Thanks in advance. Really trying to understand men. I just know there are some answers out there!

[JLH0396]

Well, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but from my past experiences, those situations never work. The attention is what keeps you coming back & he knows that, he will use it until you wise up to it. Which I think you already know what is going on but it is a matter of when you're ready to accept it. The only way to truly know what is going on in his mind is to either a) talk to him about it b) end it & see if he comes back. The only problem with b is that usually when you cut him off he will come back but that doesn't mean it isn't for the wrong reasons still. I hope that you either find someone better or accept that more than likely it's going to stay as a booty-call type situation as long as you allow that.

Best of luck.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2482256, What part of being with a married man is it you don't understand. The bad part is you expect him to have all those goody goody feelings, for his booty call. Not realistic or healthy, and to make it worse you keep ignoring any advice to get a healthy relationship, and keep asking for help. Until you are willing to face your own folly, this misery is your lot in life. You deserve it, and hope you and your f**k buddy enjoy each other and have great sex, because you need a life, without him. You should be happy the sex is great, and that's all you deserve.

[topladyj]

I agree he is using you as well as you are him. Sex is good but what's the point if you aren't in love and if you think he might be a player. Oh I pray you are on birth control and using protection. I would hate to get treated like a rag doll you throw to the side. The best thing is the next guy you meet I wouldn't jump into bed with him really then they think why should I be her boyfriend if she is already giving it to me. You got to hold out for a bit make them want it. Then they want you more. I am a weirdo though before I have sex with any guy I straight up ask. So if I get pregnant how are you going to help me? Are you going to stick around? I love that part to see the reactions and most of the time if they just want sex they will leave then and there no strings attacked. Good Luck Girl