[DAZO]

All right, the story goes;
I have know these lady for the last 8 years. We have been off and on with each other, we have never had sex with one an other, keep this in mind. Well know she is going through a divorce and she never even wanted to be with the guy that she married, cause she wanted to be with me the whole time.
We have been off and on, I lived in another state and well I married first, then she thought she lost me so she married to the first guy. They have a child together as they battle for custody. We have kept in touch over the years and we grew stronger. I divorced and she now is going through hers. It isn't final just yet, but she is legally separated. She dated another guy before she was separated and well know he is so jealous that he is trying to get her child taken away from her. The soon to be ex-husband is fighting for his child, but then again there is no point to fight for this because of the mental state that this guy is in. during a couple of meetings with the lawyers, she told them his deep dark secert about him molesting his younger brother when they where young. Know I don't know about this whole ed upped situation, alls I know is the guy she thought she married was an angel, and she was taken for a fool. The bottom line here is that I have asked her to marry me, while she is still not fully divorced, and the divorce will be finalized in the next few weeks. What do I need to do to support her to getting full custody of her rightfully deserved child that she be hers. So if there is anyone that can tell me what to do, or what could happen in the courts, to if she is going to lose her child.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let me see the entire time she was married, she was still "talkinig" and keeping an emotional relastionship with you ( and also dating someone else)

I am sorry I don't see her as the angel you do, and not sure she really will get full custody if all of this comes public. Also doubtful the court will believe the molestig charge unless there is police report, they will merely see it as a hateful women lying about her ex.

Sorry after your story I started feeling bad for the husband, married a lady who was never emotionlly true to him, Always looked toward someone else. Lets put it this way, hope she gets a judge that does not feel the same way I do at this point.

[s_cianci]

Her custody fight is between her, her soon-to-be ex and the courts. You have no place in it, it doesn't concern you and you have no means by which to influence the outcome. You can certainly give her moral support but that's about it. Keep in mind that her saying that he molested his younger brother is hearsay and that'll never fly in court. And the more she tries to rely on it, the weaker it'll make her look in the judges' eyes. Facts and objectivity are what she needs to support her case, not rumors, emotions or hearsay.