[tow]

I have been seeing a married man at my work. We have know each other for about 8 years but only about 4 months ago we started to see each other. Before he got married he had a serious crush on me , but because we were of different ethnic groups... I never took him seriously. So years went on and he later got married. Now he works in the same building as me and we have been flirting with each other and one thing led to another. He tells me that he has always had these feelings for me and does have feelings for me now that we have been intimate. He has never said anything to me about not being happy with his wife or anything like that... but something tells me that he is very unhappy in his marriage and with the decision he has made. Well, after 4 months of sneaking around, being intimate, I let him go. At first I was okay with it.. but now it seems that my selfrespect got in the way and I called it off with him. The only reason I made an exception to have an affair with this man is because there were no kids involved. His wife is unable to give him children. I didn't break it off because of his wife but because I just could not be the tow in his life (the other woman). But my question is... if I had stuck around... would he ever leave his wife being that there are no children involved and she is not able to produce any children for him in the future?

[justcurious55]

"if' questions will only drive you crazy. even if it yes, then the net question might be, if he cheated with me, would he later get bored with me and cheat on me? if i married him, would he have left me too? if some miracle had happened and he left his wife only to find out that she was somehow pregnant in the middle of the divorce proceedigs, would i be okay with that knowing my role in things? there's a million "what if's." stick to reality and what has happened. You were the other women, sneaking around with someone else's man. You finally did the right thing and broke it off. Now you need to stay away from him and move on with your life.

[450donn]

Free sex is free sex. Men will say what ever is necessary to get it. Move on with your life, and please do us all a favor and stick to men that are single.

[talaniman]

but my question is... if I had stuck around... would he ever leave his wife being that there are no children involved and she is not able to produce any children for him in the future?

He didn't pursue you when he had the chance.
You swallowed his line that every mistress does about his feelings for you
You assume he is unhappy in his marriage, despite him Never saying so
You think he may leave his wife because she can't have children
His feelings got stronger, after he got some yum yum
You got tired of being his mistress-dingding ding
You broke it off-Ding ding ding!
Now your having second thoughts, based on assumptions.

Do the math!! You have made 2 good choices, as opposed to 6 bad choices. To answer your original question, he may well divorce his wife and marry you for some babies, and be so happy, but he will also, get him some yum yum, on the side. He has proven that. You need some good rational choices to go with the 2 you have already made. Amazing how you think of the assumptions, and bad choices, and not built, or learned a darn thing from them.