[babeej]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and I am completely in love with him.He tells me that he loves me too,and I believe it. He has always been in control of us. Before we got into a relationship he told me that he doesn't believe in them, but over the months that we spent time together, we fell in love and becoming boyfriend and girlfriend became obvious, he asked me before I asked him. But over the past couple of weeks he has been very aloof. I feel like I no longer have a boyfriend but a believe that I get text messages a few times a day from and 2 minute phone calls every two hours. When we are together, he hardly even notices me. He is so involved in his new iPhone that I just become someone to bounce questions off. In the past 3 weeks we have hardly been physically involved, in the past three days, I have seen him for maybe 6-7 hours and all I got was 3 pecks. I don't think that he is cheating on me because I know his schedule well, and I know that he doesn't really have time, besides like I said he talks to me almost every hour if not every two. I can't talk to him about it because whenever I bring up emotional issues, I get shut down and called a drama queen and how he doesn't want a dramatic girlfriend. What should I do? I know I should move on to someone who appreciates me, but I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. To guys especially, how do you approach your boyfriend about concerns in your relationship without them feeling trapped or frustrated? And secondly, why doesn't he want to be intimate with me anymore? Was it something that I did? Please help me!

[jrebel7]

Communication is paramount to a good solid relationship. Ask him if you have done something that offended him and why he had pulled away. Ask in a calm voice, no matter how he reacts to your question, keep your voice calm and low key.

Sometimes, guys pull away, hoping the girl will make the move to end the relationship if the guy has a difficult time with confrontation.

If he will not discuss it or begins in on you about being a drama queen, I would think it would be the time to exit the relationship and find someone who you can have a full, loving, giving relationship with. Best to you.

[babeej]

Thanks, I know what I need to do. I just think I've been so scared to be on my own that I have just dealt with the situation instead of attacking it head on. It seems like I'm alone now so what's there to loose, rite. Thank you so much for the advice, but please keep it coming!

[jrebel7]

You're welcome. Sometimes it just helps to verbalize the situation or type it out to get your own perspective. It is best when it happens that way, you have more resolve to stick to your decisions.

Sometimes guys also try to hold onto a part of a relationship until they get another one going because they don't want to be alone but that is not good enough for you. You deserve better than that.

Best to you!

[talaniman]

He told you how he felt from the beginning, and now his actions are meeting his words. You need to re-evaluate how you feel, and what you need.