[chave]

OK I need help :confused:

I am 20 yrs old, I had been with my ex for more than 2 yrs, and known him for more than 8. well... my boyfriend now ex boyfriend and I had broken up, but we would still hang out and mmm.. it was like if we were together but we were not. Well we were like this until somebody from my past came back. This guy brought big trouble between my ex and I since the beginning of our relationship, first because if it weren't that my ex was the love of my life, I would have gone out with this other guy.second because, mmm... well I cheated on my ex with this same guy, we did talk about it and he did tell me that he had done the same thing with another person, but we forgave each other and forgot about the incident and decided to continue.2 yrs 1/2 past until our "break up" wich was caused by other reasons (his fault, wanting to go out more with his "friends"... etc) though we well still see each other and go out and acted like so. But mmm.. thissame guy came back and mmm.. "things" happened between me and him, my ex found out, reached me and called me a lot of things.. well now he does not want to see me... butwhen he called me he also told me that he had done other things with other women, that this was true and that he was also telling me this so I could forget about him faster.I don't know if it was true or not.. but I am really confused, I still love him, it was a mistake what happened with this guy. I miss my ex but he does not want to see me nor talk to me, he says that he does not hate me but just doesn't want to talk to me... what do I do?? Should I believe what he told me about him being with other women..? I feel really bad, should I get with this other guy? And then I work with my ex's parents... and I am going to start to see my ex's friends at work... :confused:

Help... advice..?

[novak]

I think if a guy really really loves you or likes you he would get over the fact that he wasn't going out with you when you got with this other guy. I'm not trying to be mean but do you want to waste your time hanging with some one you like or having someone you like but being able to say your going out with them and taking pride in your relationship

[TrueFaith]

If you add cheating into any relationship its kind of over. Unless one of the persons have no self worth or respect.

no wonder this guy is making problems if you cheated with him

Your ex is right to split up with.

whatever road you go down there will be pain and you have yourself to thank for that.
there are things you just don't do.


Oh yeah that would be great date a guy you cheated with right in front of your X and his family. You're a wonderful person I hope you know that
I feel sorry for your X I really hope he can get you out of his life


You want help. Help yourself.

[chave]

just updating:
well I talked to my x a couple of times, he told me everything!! He was with other women wile being with me!! Yes, when we were actually together!! he said sorry for calling me all those names, that he shouldn't gotten mad, because we were not together.I couldn't believe it, when he told me all this!! All that time together... I love him yes I do, but as my buddy, since we had a wonderful friendship before all of this happened. Time its what's going to heal everything since he is still mad (I don't know why, he did the worst) I don't hate him, I'm just surprise!! Now that I think about it, it is going to be really hard to believe in guys AGAin...

[talaniman]

Why do cheaters lose trust so fast? For sure its time to move on, and act more responsibly.