[Juanita86]

:confused: OKay... I've never done this & I guess I will try to explain all & make it short..

I started dating my high school sweet heart my shopmore yr. We knew each other since the 8th grade. We hit it off well intill our senior year.. he wanted to sell drugs & hand with his friends more. So I said okay fine life goes on... I meet someone new... I felt happy but always in the back of my mind yes I thought about him & It didn't help that we continued to see each other secretly.. (only our closest friends & family knew). After High School we desided one night to get back together... Everything felt right... I moved in and ended up getting pregnant.. He acted liked the inmature male.. going out at all times of the night not calling when he said he would random girls calling and acting like I was trying to be his mom... We broke up when our son was 6months old he wanted to be single... okay fine I moved out... Shortly after he was begging me to come back... So I did... Things where going smooth... then I found out he cheated on me & I was crushed... So we split for a few months he begged me to forgive him... & well I tried... I asked me to move back to our small town where all the low lie and drugs where (again) I knew It was wrong but its what he wanted.. and I loved him... after another year of him ignoring me for his friends, beer, weed, & TV... I was tired of going to bed lonely.. I asked him to go to church, or councling & he laughed at me... I felt alone a tired of crying and going to bed lonely... I told him we need help & soon... hed just shrug it off...
One night I was out with my friends & a male friend whom I had known since the 6th grade came over I desided to take our friendship to a different level... I didn't know if it was a one night stand or not... but I did it any how... we started hanging out a lot more... He said he didn't want anything serious & I was okay with that being I was still in a serious relationship.. and he just got out of one...
My Sons dad found out when he asked me if I was seeing someone 4 months later I said yes & told him he asked me if I wanted to keep seeing this guy or not... I was unsure...
I moved out the night before thanksgiving..
Now my sons dad wants me to come home & says life will be different... This other guy I fell in love with.. Wants me to have nothing to do with my sons dad but that's impossible...
I started seeing my sons dad when I was 15 and now I am 21 with a 2 yr old... Is it worth going back and trying again or should I see how my relationship goes now or should I just forget them both... Do you think a relationship that started as an affair can become something good?

When I am with them now:

My sons dad: I feel like I am looking at an old friend that I can read like the back of my hand. Woundering is it worth going back to?? & for my son??

My friend: I feel completely different like I have never before.. & I know I am in love with him.

I guess I feel like My sons dad had his chances. He says he knows that know & wants to prove it to me... I am scared of it going back to the same old thing & I am scared of missing out on happiness...

Sorry for rambling... its hard to put 7 yrs down in one paragraph...

[George_1950]

You did pretty good explaining your situation. I wonder whether your husband is working? And I wonder whether you have a job? If you could afford to do so, perhaps you could move into your own apartment, just you and your son. And, no husband and no boyfriend for six months. Use this time to get your personal thoughts and aspirations straightened out. You have a lot of responsibility now and you need to be able to think clearly and make up your own mind.

[Juanita86]

He works, he makes more than me but always has seemed to be broke. He pays his bills & that's it.
Ive worked since I was 15 for the same company. (nursing) I still do part time but I have a full time job as well. (in customer serives)

I can afford something but has to be cheap paying for daycare on my own doesn't help.