[adamabc]

So basically I can't not lie. Even the most trivial stuff that can be answered honestly I lie. I have no idea why. The worst part is nowadays I can't figure out what's truth and what's lies. I mean I know if I'm telling one sometimes but this is seriously affecting mine and my girlfriends relationship. It seems like everything I tell her is a lie not because I want it to it just happens. This doesn't just happen with her it happens with a bunch of people like everyone. I feel so bad that I lie to them but I can't stop. By the time I realize it's a lie it's too late if I try to tell the truth it's so buried in lies that I won't be able to get out with out ostracizing myself to my friends, family, girlfriend, well everyone. I need help really bad someone please help please.

[puttuna]

Well, it is probably to make you look cooler, popular or stuff like that because you are insecure about who you really are,

[adamabc]

That is an interesting suggestion but the thing is I know and they know that it doesn't matter about who I truly am. I don't lie about who I am. I do lie about some stuff I do but it seems to be more of a game nowadays to see what I can get people to believe. I don't know. I've never really wanted to be popular so that's not a big deal for me and most of the stuff I lie about has no bearing on how cool I would be if I didn't lie

[Clough]

That is an interesting suggestion but the thing is i know and they know that it doesnt matter about who i truly am. i dont lie about who i am. i do lie about some stuff i do but it seems to be more of a game nowadays to see what i can get people to believe. idk. ive never really wanted to be popular so thats not a big deal for me and most of the stuff i lie about has no bearing on how cool i would be if i didnt lie

If you are saying that it seems to be more of a game nowadays, then it sounds like it is something that you could control if you really wanted to.

Do you have things in your life about which you feel very or somewhat insecure?

[adamabc]

Well when I say it's a game I mean that a lot of times I can control it but can't I don't know how to explain I don't wish to lie but after which I want to see if people believed it but some lies I can't control but I feeling secure about my whole life I'm super dependent on my dad I'm a lazy person and I know it but yet I can't seem to change it everyone or everything good that ever happens to me ends up leaving so maybe I make up stuff in order to justify why it happened to be able to be like that's why they left because I lied or that's why this happened because I lied I don't know but sometimes I start to believe what I'm saying is true then I think about it and I can't decipher lie fro reality

[Clough]

What are some of the things about which you tell lies?

[adamabc]

Anything its not even specifics ranging from trivial stuff to what can be taken as seriously

[Clough]

It would be helpful in helping you if you could provide at least a couple of examples. Don't really know much about you at this point. Others will probably also be along to help you.

[adamabc]

Well the few that brought up my interest in this is I told my girlfriend that my job in which me and my friend got placed at(temporary services) they decided they only needed 1 of us and the chose my friend well today she found out that I lied and I quit the job and got furious. I also tell people I will do sumin and wind up not doing it this lie is usually because of laziness or forgetfulness but those are all I can think about right now

[simoneaugie]

Coming clean about what is true, admitting that you can't seem to stop lying and that you are lazy at the moment or you just plain forgot, will not ostracize you with real friends. Telling the truth is so simple that you will look back and laugh at how you used to be. It's a clean, clear feeling when you aren't confused anymore and everything you say matches everything else.

Lying is getting you something that you want. What?

[adamabc]

Coming clean about what is true, admitting that you can't seem to stop lying and that you are lazy at the moment or you just plain forgot, will not ostracize you with real friends. Telling the truth is so simple that you will look back and laugh at how you used to be. It's a clean, clear feeling when you aren't confused anymore and everything you say matches everything else.

Lying is getting you something that you want. What?

Are you asking of what I am trying to obtain by lying

[Clough]

Originally Posted by simoneaugie
Lying is getting you something that you want. What?

The above is an excellent question!

How old are you? Also, do you still live with your parents or at least one of them?

[adamabc]

I'M 18 soon to be 19 and yes after a rather unfortunate turn of events in college I'm back living with my dad

[Clough]

You're not working now. Is that correct?

[simoneaugie]

Whatever we are doing is giving us a reward. If there was no reward from doing it, we wouldn't do it.

[adamabc]

Yes I'm not working yet I'm in the process of finding a job

[Clough]

Okay. So, are you being truthful in everything that you are posting on this thread? It's important to know that so that we can help you the best that we can. I have to ask that. You seem to be being truthful in what you are stating so far.

[adamabc]

Yes I am I am truly being honest

[adamabc]

As redundant as that sounds lol

[Clough]

Would you mind telling us what happened in college that caused you not to be there anymore? So far, you are very anonymous on this site.