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Edensmimi · Jan 7, 2008, 12:48 PM

I have a 2 yr old pomerainian who was given to me when she was a little over 14 months old, she is now a little over 2 and I am thinking of giving her away. We just don't have the time to spend with her, we work during the day, and raise 2 grandkids so grooming is always an issue. Can anyone that knows this, tell me if this will be too devastating to her? She is by no means mistreated at my home, she loves the kids, she is spoiled, she sleeps in bed with us. I am just thinking that she might be better off somewhere where they can get her groomed on a regular basis. In March I will be able to have her done on a monthly basis but until then. I pray someone can help! Thanks for reading ;)

dogpoundbrenda · Jan 7, 2008, 01:02 PM

I don't think it would be a problem for her if you can find her a home with good caring people and will let her do what she's doing now.Maybe someone she is already familiar with.I found a home for a young pom same age not to long ago and Chipper adjusted just fine.He wasn't abused just neglected as far as grooming went.They already had a Pom that is 13 and at first she wasn't to happy because she had been getting all the attention.Now they get along like mother and son... If her routines not disrupted too much she should adjust quickly,, you could even do it on a trial basis to see if it works out if not tell them you will take her back.. thats my opinion and I have 5 dogs and a cat that all had previous owners some good some bad... they are happy as well adjusted...

Edensmimi · Jan 7, 2008, 01:04 PM

Thank you Brenda, I feel better now ;) The lady has promised to spoil her as well, and they are a young couple who just bought a house and have no kids or pets. Thanks for the great advice!

labman · Jan 7, 2008, 03:15 PM

One question I have is how much time will her new people be able to give her? You are right, if you really don't have the time to spend with her, it may be better to give her to somebody that can. She is still young enough to adjust.

I see this with dog guides all the time. They go from the breeding host family at 7 weeks, to their foster puppy home until they are over a year old, to school for 4 months of training and then are assigned to a partner. Often, it doesn't work out and they are released as dog guides or spend more time back at school before being assigned to a new partner. Of course, they have been carefully socialized to be accepting of strangers.

RubyPitbull · Jan 7, 2008, 03:52 PM

Is the issue just grooming and not being able to do it for two months? This really is the first time I have every heard of someone giving up a dog because they didn't have the time to get it groomed for two months. If you check around where you live, there are groomers that do come to your home, pick up the dog, and return them. Or, maybe a friend of yours can take her for you? If she is kept inside, you can get her shaved down enough so that you don't have to worry for two months and use a little doggy sweater on her when you take her out. Or is the problem a combination of grooming and just not having any time for the dog? Labman has a point. The couple may be very nice but are they going to be at work all day? How would that differ from what she is going through now aside from a two month gap for grooming? Do you have any doggy day care facilities in your area? They not only do daycare but groom dogs as well. Maybe once or twice a week/month, you can make arrangements to drop her off for a day of activities? That might be all she needs.

Edensmimi, does she have some other issues that you are having trouble dealing with? You have had her for close to a year. Please understand that although dogpoundbrenda is right in that she will adjust, whenever a dog is rehoused, it does take them a while to adjust to an new environment and new people. Can you remember how she was when you first took her in? How long did it take her to adjust? As dogs age, it becomes a little more difficult for them to adjust because they are creatures of habit. Dogs don't understand what is going on, get scared and confused, and if this little dog is happy with you, then it may take her longer to adjust to a new household. As stated, she should eventually adjust to it, just as she did when you took her in, but I do wonder whether giving her to someone else who works all day would be the right answer for her. If there are some other issues that you are having with her behavior, you might find that this couple will be back on your doorstep with the dog. Is there something else that you may be hesitant to talk about that we might be able to help you with?

Edensmimi · Jan 7, 2008, 03:56 PM

There are no other issues other than I feel so bad looking at her looking "ugly" and sense posting this my husband and I have agreed to Keep her. I just can't do it lol I have cried all day long over this. I will get through the next 2 months, my daughter has offered to cut her nails for me. Thank you all so much for listening to me that is why I love this PLACE. You all got my mind straight ;) hugs to all
Susan & Janis

RubyPitbull · Jan 7, 2008, 04:03 PM

Edensmimi, sometimes we get a bit overwhelmed by our responsibilities. Happens to us all, especially at this time of year. I am glad that you have decided to keep her. They do become part of the family and I was worried that you might be making a mistake and not have any way of getting her back if you wanted to. Can you check out those grooming possibilities I suggested?

Edensmimi · Jan 7, 2008, 06:37 PM

Yes I sure will and thank you so much, I am actually online doing that now... while Janis is in bed with Daddy watching the LSU game ;)

dogpoundbrenda · Jan 7, 2008, 10:57 PM

I'm too am happy that you are going to keep her as far as grooming goes both of my parents dogs Chipper and Midget get combed and brushed on a regular basis and their hair never mats.They have never been to a groomer and my sister clips their nails.I got my Min.Pin.Cocoa,nearly 6 years ago and she had been with 1 owner for over 9 years.She was'nt abused just neglected,boarded constantly for months at a time,and always slept in a pet taxi.The woman who gave her up decided she wanted a younger dog and told my Vet to find her a home or put her to sleep.They called me and ask if I wanted her and of course I said yes.Old age should'nt be a death sentence,and other than having her spayed and potty training her to go outside,she was perfectly happy with me from day one.She's almost 15 now and I can't imagine my life without her,she has never been happier and I know she doesn't miss her former owner.She sleeps with me and has from day one,no more pet taxi ever.

labman · Jan 8, 2008, 04:14 AM

There is nothing cruel or neglectful about letting a dog sleep in a crate. It is essential for some dogs. Mine learn to love their crate. When I can't take them with me and at night, both the dog and house are safe.

Unless you are having leadership problems, it is OK to let the dog sleep with you. It is a matter of personal taste, not how much you care for the dog.

dogpoundbrenda · Jan 8, 2008, 11:56 AM

Is is cruel when that's where she spent all her time,or boarded in a cage for months on end.Why have a dog at all if that's how it's life is going to be spent...