[Michelle0410]

Okay here we go, I am 21 years old and I have a 7 month old baby. When I found out that I was pregnant I was going to college and I had my own apartment, after telling my parents they decided that they wanted me to move back home to take carre of myself so I did, my little girl is here, healthy and beautiful. Me and her father aren't together and it really is for the best. For the last several months I have been dating a guy, he is 26, divorced and has full custody of his two young boys. He is a very positive and incredible person and I love everything about him, I can say he is the best thing to come in my life since my little girl... My mother is not happy with it whatsoever, he lives about an hour and 20 minutes away from me so I don't get to see him during the week so when I get off work on Friday night I go over there, and come home on Sunday night. My mom says that is me being selfish!? Well to make matters even better he has recently asked me to move in with him, I am not looking forward to talking to my mom about this, at this point we are not speaking, because its Tuesday and she is still mad I was gone all weekend. I am young, but I have a good job, work 8:30 to five everyday weekday, pay all my bills and pay for all Maddie's stuff, I take very good care of my daughter, she is my world and I am ready to take this next step with this person but my mom refuses to respect my decision and just throws gulit around like I never do anything to help her out, its crazy because I help her pay for things when I get paid, I pay my dad monthly for living there, I wash all of our laundry, I guess because I don't cook every night and clean the rest of the house ( I also have another brother and sister that live at home ages 17 and 18) Is it just a control thing? Am I doing something wrong? I have very good judgement and I would never do anything to hurt my daughter and she knows this, I just don't understand and I don't know what I should too because I want to be with him so bad, and us raise our children togther but at the same time I don't want to hurt my mom, she's my best friend but I am a big girl and I want to take care of myself and be able to have my own family...

[N0help4u]

You need to get out on your own. As long as you are there they will see and treat you like their little girl that makes wrong decisions and try to tell you what to do.

[Michelle0410]

So even if being out on my own means moving in with this guy do you think that will be disrespectful to my mother, or just simply me making my own decisions?

[theecontessa]

You need to get out on your own. As long as you are there they will see and treat you like their little girl that makes wrong decisions and try to tell you what to do.

I completely agree. You say you are a big girl, so be one.