[Matteus]

i'm not offended by "wuss" at all, i was just wanted to know...

yea, probably like you said in your other post that you told me to read we lost the "spark", or we just became unaware of our needs and just focused on her which i've realized is a very dumb and pathetic thing to do, to stop caring about yourself is just like overdosing on painkillers or something, just without the deathly consequences

I can't say anything else. I just say read the whole posts of mine. There are answers of what to do. If they work or not, its another thing. But in the same time, NC won't bring you anything new, nor the friendship. Friendly, makes a difference.

[schwartzyms]

Yea, I have lost the feelings of getting back together with her, now I just want to be friends, but I'm just not sure if I should break the NC yet, it worked for me these past 3-4 days

[Matteus]

yea, i have lost the feelings of getting back together with her, now i just want to be friends, but im just not sure if i should break the NC yet, it worked for me these past 3-4 days

No you didn't. You just can't lose the feelings for someone during the night, or as you say, during the last 3-4 days. Common, you were the one who came here like crying and asked us how to move on, and get over the breakup. Helloooo. Don't be so superficial. You know how you feel deep down. Anyway, do what you think its best to do, but I say, reconsider the whole thing. She is still there, waiting for a call.

[schwartzyms]

but i say, reconsider the whole thing. she is still there, waiting for a call.

What do you mean by that?

[Matteus]

what do you mean by that?

You see, it was interesting to you what I mean by that. Read my posts, and than you will understand what I mean with that.

[schwartzyms]

Do you mean that she's waiting for a call to see how I feel or something?

[Matteus]

do you mean that she's waiting for a call to see how i feel or something?

Do you want to learn something about your life and yourself?? Read my posts! And don't be so UNBEARABLE to know what I mean. I won't tell you more, read the posts! And find some truth there.

[schwartzyms]

Aww dang it, aright, thanks for the help man

[friend4u178]

No contact is to heal YOU , not make her want you back. I believe as do many others that if you still want to be with her in a relationship (and don't kid yourself) you can't be friends with her right now. When you have healed and no longer want her as a GF sure then you can be friends. But if you be friends while you still want her you will read all sorts of things into what she says and her actions , this only gives you false hope.

[schwartzyms]

I no longer want her as my girlfriend, I'm done with that, I can't take it anymore so I just let it go and deep down I just don't feel that way anymore, ever since this break up I've taken a different aspect to life and I've noticed that I like different kinds of music, different things its just an amazing feeling and I'm happy because I'm accomplishing all of this without her and I'm no longer mentally attatched, I still don't know if I should end the NC today or end it tomorrow, because I feel healed and I'm not kidding myself

[friend4u178]

Well it's good that you have healed in 5 days

[schwartzyms]

I feel so good and it's like I never felt this way before, yea I was happy before the relationship and happy during it but now I just feel happier and you know, I may have conquered this myself but it would have been 10x harder without your guys's advice, id probably still be at square 1

[Matteus]

Well it's good that you have healed in 5 days

That's what I said to him. It looks more like angry than healing. I don't know, but doesn't sound good. I guess he found someone else, as an emotional flow. I don't know, but in 5 days you can't heal yourself.

[schwartzyms]

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

[Matteus]

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

Goodbye!

[friend4u178]

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

Pleasure , glad we could help!

[schwartzyms]

Goodbye! It was a nice and positive experience talking to all of you...


And HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

[schwartzyms]

I think I just figured something out, I don't think I ever loved her, I think it was infatuation because there's no way I could have gotten over someone that I love in 5 days

[friend4u178]

i think i just figured something out, i don't think i ever loved her, i think it was infatuation because theres no way i could have gotten over someone that i love in 5 days

I think you may have just nailed it , just took you 5 days longer than us for you to work it out :-) Good luck!

[schwartzyms]

This is a hard day, even though I'm over her, it's still hard not to like cry because today was supposed to be our 2nd month