[mafiaangel180]

So that could be a reason... If he has nothing to offer you besides sex how can he be happy about that? I mean think about it? let him take his time to find himself to become more stable, then he will be able to focus on a relationship..

Yeah, that's the depressing thing... I don't NEED a provider. I WANTED him. Just him. He wasn't just sex. Maybe he felt like he had nothing to give, I don't know. What sucks is... he complains that he can't go to college until he gets his debt of like $7,000 cleared up. That won't be for a long, long time. Cause he quit his second job, which was making him unhappy (blood shot eyes and no sleep.)

[jolienoire]

Yeah, that's the depressing thing...I don't NEED a provider. I WANTED him. Just him. He wasn't just sex. Maybe he felt like he had nothing to give, I don't know. What sucks is...he complains that he can't go to college until he gets his debt of like $7,000 cleared up. That won't be for a long, long time. Cause he quit his second job, which was making him unhappy (blood shot eyes and no sleep.)

I know it's not about the money, but men don't think love is enough! Women we are survivors we are programmed differently.. Some people don't realize that money doesn't always equals happiness... Its all on the individual.. I know you want to help him, but His pride will not allow you too. He don't want to put you through that even though because you love him you are willing to take the good and the bad and work it out.. Some can't do it, Not everyone can handle a lot of pressure... It can either make you or break you.

[mafiaangel180]

I know it's not about the money, but men don't think love is enough! Women we are survivors we are programmed differently.. Some people don't realize that money doesn't always equals happiness... Its all on the individual.. I know you want to help him, but His pride will not allow you too. He don't want to put you through that even though because you love him you are willing to take the good and the bad and work it out.. Some can't do it,, Not everyone can handle a lot of pressure... It can either make you or break you.

Thank you for the insight... you are totally right. Totally. I think I am going to go home tonight, tweak up my letter, and definitely put some thought into whether I should actually give it to him. In the meantime, I'm going to go apply for a second job tonight, this way I will be able to keep myself busy. I will definitely keep you posted, and you do the same :)

[jolienoire]

Thank you for the insight...you are totally right. Totally. I think I am going to go home tonight, tweak up my letter, and definately put some thought into whether or not I should actually give it to him. In the meantime, I'm going to go apply for a second job tonight, this way I will be able to keep myself busy. I will definately keep you posted, and you do the same :)

Yes let me know how everything turns out! :-) good luck! Don't work too much though.. Make sure you leave some time for beautifying and pampering.. :-)