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kelaineb · Nov 12, 2007, 01:02 PM

There's a great guy, I liked him... long story short I took a risk and asked him out for coffee... he didn't even know who I was but went. I kind of scared him with my emotions and so he politley asked me to stop so I haven't contacted him since.. trying to repect his wishes... it's the hardest thing I've had to do... but is it OK to call him up in 8-9 months or so and ask him to go out for a coffee as friends and will he even go do you think?? I'm trying to prove my trust to him by giving him space and time and respecting his wishes... and then complelety start over as friends and take things slow. Is this even possible??

peggyhill · Nov 12, 2007, 01:51 PM

Well, he was probably a little freaked out if he didn't know who you were, and you started telling him how much you liked him. I would respect his wishes. If he asked you not to contact him, then don't call him. If you know any people who know him, see if you can arrange to be at a party or something that he is at. Then, you can casually talk, but he won't be feeling pressured or anything. But, if you don't have any mutual acquaintances, then I would consider him off limits for now. Maybe you will end up working together or something someday. Just try to meet some new guys, ask a friend to set you up on a date or something. It sucks when someone doesn't feel the same way; I've been there believe me! Good luck! :)

kelaineb · Nov 12, 2007, 01:54 PM

Thanks a lot... I agree with you.. I learned so much about him from all of this... but do you think that if I call him up later down the orad out of the blue and make it clear that it would be just friends... nothing more... he would go? Or should I casually talk to him first over text or something and then ask later on?

kelaineb · Nov 12, 2007, 01:56 PM

It was detailed and friendly and really helped

peggyhill · Nov 12, 2007, 02:05 PM

I'd text him first and see how he responds. If he seems glad to hear from you, tell him you might give him a call sometime and see if he seems OK with that. Good luck!

kelaineb · Nov 12, 2007, 02:08 PM

Thanks a lot! I appreciate your advice... I think ill give it a try in a few months.