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Sexyblackgirlnca · Nov 10, 2007, 03:56 PM

Well
Lets see I have been with my husband for three years I am 20 an he is 37 every body knows that most men enjoy porn an I have no problem with watching porn with my husband but when he askes me to talk dirty to him I freeeze up no words want come out an I feel like this cause tension in my marriage an that I don't fully satisfy my husband I don't know why I can't talk dirty it just feels wrong if anyone could tell my why I feel this way I wuold be gracious

visigoth · Nov 10, 2007, 04:05 PM

Question is does he stimulate those feelings? With such an age difference unless he is the sweetest hunk in the universe you may not even be turned on in that fashion by him. I Am 41 and dating a 20 year old so that is kind of scary but it happens. I talk dirty to her sometimes and she giggles and about all she can muster is "I want you" LOL! If all else fails do what most women do... LIE! "oh baby you are so big n hard" things like that. I want you to give it to me... etc... Put it in my... fill in the blank etc. try listening to a porno sometime instead of watching it. Wait until the next porno is on and then use the lines from the previous one LOL!!

He is a very lucky man and he should be respecting you since you grace him... not the other way around. The submissive is in charge and since you are the younger by a lot you are automatically the sub :(
Rgds,

Fr_Chuck · Nov 10, 2007, 06:20 PM

First no "most" men don't like porn, young boys, and some men like it, but most have no use for it after they mature. But if you and your husband watch it, that is OK for you, But please by no means think a majority of couples do that.

As for as words, write a script, what you hear in the movies or in a book,

shygrneyzs · Nov 10, 2007, 07:25 PM

I also do not have that porn mouth and will never have it either. I once had a boyfriend that was so insistent that I talk dirty. So I did, once. I whispered to him, "a pig fell in the mud." He asked, "what the heck was that?" I told him it was the dirtiest thing I knew to say. He never asked me again.

Sexyblackgirlnca · Nov 10, 2007, 07:33 PM

I found it helpful because it let me see that I don't have to be ashamed of not being able to talk dirty thanks

N0help4u · Nov 10, 2007, 09:25 PM

Come up with some phrases of your own that you feel comfortable with but aren't necessarily *dirty* like sweet-stuff when you are really into it, or D0N'T stop! I would feel uncomfortable too. But then those days are so far gone and over --and I only watched porn twice--found it disgusting!

Sexyblackgirlnca · Nov 10, 2007, 10:17 PM

Very helpful thanks

shygrneyzs · Nov 11, 2007, 12:21 AM

Have to spread the Rep to you, NoHelp - you are so right - only say what you are comfortable saying. Anyone who pushes hard to get a woman to talk in a way that is clearly not her style, is not respecting her.

Sexyblackgirlnca · Nov 11, 2007, 01:10 AM

But thanks for your comment

jasondbel · Nov 11, 2007, 03:02 AM

Trust me not all guys like porn that is a ridiculous discriminatory ignorant remark that's like saying all iraqians are terrorists or all black people steal I despise porn. However a lot of GIRLS put ME on the spot and told me to talk dirty but I froze up like a deer in headlights and it actually made me feel uncofortable. Needless to say the relationships wound up coming to an end. There was this one girl who became the mother of my beautiful son that when we had sex words were flowing and flying. I didn't even know I knew those words. IN you're case it all depends on the guy. Sounds like you got married for other reasons.

Sexyblackgirlnca · Nov 11, 2007, 03:53 AM

Thank you very much

JFFTidus · Nov 11, 2007, 03:57 AM

Get even dirtier then him once and freak him out. Say you wan to stick things in his "***". He won't ask you to do that again.

AbL6669 · Nov 25, 2007, 09:46 PM

If he wants you to talk dirty to him. Have him start. So he can set the pace.

To start slow. Go out in public and whisper in his ear a sentence that you wrote up earlier, make you a script so that you don't have to freeze and think up something. You might surprise him. And after a bit of practice like that you might find you are good at it. But you don't have to have a potty mouth to make him shiver.

Good luck you naughty little girl, I hope that your mouth gets you all the action that you can get from pumping your man up with dirty little words.

*wink*

shatteredsoul · Nov 27, 2007, 12:31 PM

I can talk all sorts of nonsense, until I'm actually having sex, then I kind of clam up. I mean I am not quiet like a mouse but I do not dirty talk. I think it, but do not say it... it's weird. I can't do it. So I can totally relate to this, even though I am supposed to be advising you, I don't want you to think you are the only one. I have forced myself to say a couple things, but moaning and making noises is much easier and less embarrassing for me@! OK I think mine stems from having sex too young, with someone way older and not feeling sure of myself in that situation... it has somehow stayed with me. I can assert myself physically but not vocally. Does that make sense??