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    princess4u2nv Posts: 8, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 1, 2007, 08:08 AM
    Verbal abuse
    OK, it was 9:00pm & I just got home from school. I work full-time & go to school 2 nights a week. I stopped by CVS to get the boyfriend the newspaper & grabed myself a pizza. I assume he'd already eaten because I've been in class & its not like there's going to be a meal cooked this late at night. He had an Ebay auction going on & called me in his room and we were watching it (everything was fine) but then, I needed to put my pizza in the oven... I turn on the timer but it gets stuck at 12 hours instead of 12 minutes. I ask him to come look at it and he acts irratated. He then says well you need to fix it because I don't want it going off while we're on vacation ( hold on... we're not going on vacation for 3 weeks). Now I know he's been drinking... so I ask about it and he says No he's not drunk. To make a long story short he hacked into my email and read some old emails to other guys. Brings up old dirt, and then tells me all the guys I dated before were losers & he was the only winner. He went on to tell me to "move into a trailer" and that I'm " riding on his coat tail" - I've rarely asked him for gas in my car, let alone money. It seems to me he holds his financial freedom over my head.

    I think its only fair I tell you that he's looking for a job right now & is under a lot of stress. He says I'm not around to support him. (I only work 40hrs a week & attend school - I'm not out partying)

    1. I think email/journals are private - I have nothing to hide but I choose who reads what
    I write.
    2. I think his words were verbally abusive - he gets this way when angry. I tell him its verbal abuse & he says I like playing the victim.
    3. I've always struggled to know when its just a fight or the relationship has taken a turn for the worse.
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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    Nov 1, 2007, 10:19 AM
    You need to leave him, guys that do that ONLY get worse. There is NO reasoning with them because they justify everything they do as right and everything you do is at fault when it is the other way around 98% of the time. He is insecure and wants you to feel like crap so that he can manipulate your emotions to his benefit. Guys like that have tunnel vision and can only see what they WANT to see the way they want to see it. There is no reasoning with them cause that would meaning them having to come down off their high horses. Denial of their wrongs is all they are capable of.
    I use to say my ex's attitude was everybody's roses smelled like crap and his crap smelled like roses. The way he is, IF I had up and died on the floor and he came home and trip over me and he would have cussed me out for him tripping and never admit that I couldn't be the one at fault since I was dead. Even after my funeral it would still be my fault he tripped
    Cause that is the only way that guys like that can see things.
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    Nov 1, 2007, 07:13 PM
    Did he win the Ebay auction? If he did then stay with him as long as he agrees to get into anger management and if he lost the auction just walk away and don't look back.

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